Does what your SO think affect your goal?

Clarecbear82

I was talking to my fiance today about me doing the 30ds and he said "I hope your not aiming for a body like that woman on the box as muscles look gross on a woman" I am doing the 30ds to get healthier and never really gave a thought to what she looked like. then I was reading the post about 6packs on women and someone said that their husband didn't like six packs so she won't be getting one.

So I was wondering does what your SO think affect what your aiming for?

I'm personally just trying to look better than I do now and I know I will never be that muscley as I don't have the drive and dedication/time to have a 6pack but if I wanted one I would do it for me and no one else.

CMmrsfloyd

Your bodyfat percentage has to get down to a certain level for that much definition to show in your muscles anyway. You could easily HAVE those muscles on your body, but not see them so obviously if your BF% is a little higher than that person.

My SO is just happy that I'm losing weight, getting healthier, and happy with myself. He has not made any comments for me to 'not do too much' or anything like that.

Plus it probably takes a lot more than just regular shredding to look like that. You're not going to get bulging muscles and super low BF from one round of the shred with small handweights. (and that comment is coming from a person currently shredding all 3 levels each day) Tell your fiance 'never fear!' LOL

stylistchik

You do it for you! Most likely he's jealous you have a goal and are willing to work hard to achieve it. If he doesn't love you anyway he never did!

Jeff92se

My wife has no idea about fitness so my goal is not really affected by her. As long as my time in the gym doens't affect our family time too much.

withervein

My SO thinks definition is sexy. His only hope is that I don't get "skinny".

Lucky me!

Clarecbear82

Your bodyfat percentage has to get down to a certain level for that much definition to show in your muscles anyway. You could easily HAVE those muscles on your body, but not see them so obviously if your BF% is a little higher than that person.

My SO is just happy that I'm losing weight, getting healthier, and happy with myself. He has not made any comments for me to 'not do too much' or anything like that.

Plus it probably takes a lot more than just regular shredding to look like that. You're not going to get bulging muscles and super low BF from one round of the shred with small handweights. (and that comment is coming from a person currently shredding all 3 levels each day) Tell your fiance 'never fear!' LOL

He has no worries at the moment as I didn't know you needed hand weights so until after Christmas I'm using tins of beans

fteale

No. But then he works with athletes so he is used to having very fit muscular women around.

CMmrsfloyd

Your bodyfat percentage has to get down to a certain level for that much definition to show in your muscles anyway. You could easily HAVE those muscles on your body, but not see them so obviously if your BF% is a little higher than that person.

My SO is just happy that I'm losing weight, getting healthier, and happy with myself. He has not made any comments for me to 'not do too much' or anything like that.

Plus it probably takes a lot more than just regular shredding to look like that. You're not going to get bulging muscles and super low BF from one round of the shred with small handweights. (and that comment is coming from a person currently shredding all 3 levels each day) Tell your fiance 'never fear!' LOL

He has no worries at the moment as I didn't know you needed hand weights so until after Christmas I'm using tins of beans

Hey beans count. But you'd probably need the giant commercial sized can of beans for him to have anything to worry about. :-D

paeli

My SO thinks definition is sexy. His only hope is that I don't get "skinny".

Lucky me!

Same here, he only hopes I don't get "too skinny". I hope to always have curves! I just want to be able and healthy! Now whether my SO's habits affect mine is a whole other story!

Do what you want for yourself.

HMD7703

I don't give a *&^% what my SO thinks because it is my body.
That is complete and utter crap.
Do it for you.. muscles / 6 pack / or otherwise - your body will be with you longer than your SO.
That is just basic statistics.

Clarecbear82

Your bodyfat percentage has to get down to a certain level for that much definition to show in your muscles anyway. You could easily HAVE those muscles on your body, but not see them so obviously if your BF% is a little higher than that person.

My SO is just happy that I'm losing weight, getting healthier, and happy with myself. He has not made any comments for me to 'not do too much' or anything like that.

Plus it probably takes a lot more than just regular shredding to look like that. You're not going to get bulging muscles and super low BF from one round of the shred with small handweights. (and that comment is coming from a person currently shredding all 3 levels each day) Tell your fiance 'never fear!' LOL

He has no worries at the moment as I didn't know you needed hand weights so until after Christmas I'm using tins of beans

Hey beans count. But you'd probably need the giant commercial sized can of beans for him to have anything to worry about. :-D

Lol no I don't like them that much. My three year old did keep pestering me to cook them for him while I was doing it last night though lol

galegetsthin

My boyfriend just wants me to be healthy about it. He reminds me to eat enough, tells me I am doing a good job, makes sure he doesnt have tempting food that I dont need around. I dont think he would mind if I were to work up a 6 pack, but I dont think he would mind if I didn't either. He knows how important it is to me.

FitnessBarbie99

My SO is all for me getting healthier and looking better!

The only drawback for him is me not being home every single night to cook dinner. I think he enjoys a night or two to himself as long as the house isn't a mess, so no worries.

vsyates

My husband LOVES my goal and is 100% supportive

0PhAtDaDdY

No

ilovedeadlifts

I don't really let it affect me.
I wish she was more supportive/understanding of my goals.

Right now she thinks I'm getting fat and doesn't quite understand that its a temporary thing to gain muscle, and that I can look at the big picture. I have a vision of what I'll look like in 2 years. It may be hard for friends and family to see it, but I know exactly what I have to do to achieve my goals.


Do what you need to do, and don't worry about what others think.

Alacey88

My boyfriend just wants me to be healthy about it. He reminds me to eat enough, tells me I am doing a good job, makes sure he doesnt have tempting food that I dont need around. I dont think he would mind if I were to work up a 6 pack, but I dont think he would mind if I didn't either. He knows how important it is to me.

Wish my boyfriend was like yours!!!

BrettPGH

I try not to let it. Like was said already, it's my body, I decide. She's not much of a fan but that's her issue. Not mine. I'm happier this way and I'm excited to see just what I am capable of.

BobbyClerici

Not really, but if either one of us got too fat, the other would cheat for sure or seek a divorce.
Can you blame people who do?

But my Jen is very active on MFP, fit and looking good, and we support each other.

All is well!

robinogue

at first my husband was very happy about my choice to loose the weight and get healthy. Along the way I suppose I became too focus, too determined and he saw my body changing so he became jealous, insecure and not very supportive. Right now he's good with the weight loss but I have to swear to him that I'm not trying to loose anymore. When I mentioned my BF% was still way to high, he told me I looked great. In other words he's not approving of anymore weight loss. I started this journey for myself and I'll end it for myself. It would be great if he'd do some things with me and offer more encouragement but at the end of the day I'm happy and that's all that matters.

dirtbikegirl5

I definitely care what my husband thinks of my body, but I don't work out and eat right only for him. I want to feel good about myself.
You can assure your fiance that Jillian Michaels does a lot more than the 30 day shred to look the way she looks. Your body type will dictate how your body responds to the work out.
I am doing the 30 day shred and I use 5 pound weights. I know that I will never look like anyone who lifts heavy unless I start lifting heavy.

PepeGreggerton

Don't have one...




But I did when I started losing weight and it was a big problem for her. I'd do what makes me happy and they can be happy for me because I am happy. Ya dig?

raevynn

So, I just asked my SO/DH if he wants to have an affect on my goals... and he said "I hope not"... because he thinks the Goddess of Wilendorf is ultimate beauty!

He wants me healthy. He says that all the time... healthy, and immortal. :happy:

He's losing weight like crazy, too... we'll both be slim and fit soon...

TNAJackson

My husband has never said anything to me about what he'd like me to look like. He's supportive of what I want... although honestly, if I was more muscular than he was, it would not only gross him out, but me as well! I'm SO not into muscles on women. I would love to have a flat(er) tummy and be able to wear his clothes though... never been able to wear his clothes like most women do. :frown:

Captain_Mal

Nope, not at all. I figure that he's loved me fat, thin, and pretty much everything in between so he'll love me at whatever goal I choose. Also, I've devoted 12 years of my life so far to him...I've earned getting to do what I want to now.

CharityEaton

My goal is MY goal...its not really for him. He tells me all the time he loves me no matter what I look like. He is happy that I am in better shape and have lost 20 pounds but he would be fine if I stayed where I am now....but my goal is 10 more pounds and to firm up. I know he loves me as I love him the way he is but I am doing this strictly for myself, because I wanted to get in shape and be healthier...he just gets to enjoy all of the benefits that come along with it, more energy, I'm happier...and hopefully when summer rolls back around the weekends at the lake in a swimsuit will be an added bonus for him too!

OLFATUG

My wife thinks I'm obsessive, and she's right. Even at my lowest (where I'm heading back to now) I always felt I was too fat. It's my body though, so it's all about me.

Tennessee2019

I know my husband would prefer that I stay "extra chunky" but I want to get healthy. He does not comment on anything I do to try & drop the weight, but chuckled a bit when I said I would no longer be smoking as of 1-1-12. So, I'm going to build my self esteem, prove him wrong & get healthy in 2012.

Trechechus

Thankfully, I think my bf would be happy with my body as long as I were as well. I told him I'm aiming for muscles and he asked why. My response was, "because they're sexy... and I want to feel healthy." He smiled and said something naughty. >:D

silkysly

I workout with my SO…, we have the same goals in life & health.

kerriBB37

My fiance knows that how I feel about myself directly impacts how I act and my mood. If I feel good, everyone else around me feels good.. and unfortunately the opposite is also true! He just says he wants me to be happy. When I met him I had gained some weight and then after we started dating I gained 20 more pounds.. so within 6 months of knowing him I was 30 pounds heavier. Craziness! I lost about 40 and he never treated me any different no matter what my size was. He has offered to make me dinner (chicken, steamed veggies, fish, salad) and always picks out healthy options at the grocery store for me, "hey baby, do you want to try this, it has only X calories" or he will just but me light OJ and himself the regular... He hasn't changed HIS lifestyle (yet) so there is always pizza and fast food in the house... He will ask me if I want some, sometimes I say yes and sometimes I decline. He would never be threatened of me "leaving him" because of how I look, that's just not something he's capable of. Bottom line is that he wants me happy and would do anything to help me along, and for that I am super grateful! Today, he even made me coffee because I swore I was going to wake up with him and run! He leaves for work at 5:30 and I don't have to until way later, but once I smelled that coffee I had to get up!