Parents: What are we teaching our kids about bullying?

MassiveDelta

Im trying to teach my kids not to give a *kitten* what others think of them,and its working. Someone calls you stupid...so what who cares .Those people dont matter so their opinion does not matter.
When my son transferred from a small town school to a big city school he was bullied briefly for the way he talks,and his love of reading no matter what they they said he would respond with "SO....and why am I supposed to care what you think?" Pretty soon they moved on.

Perfect...Reality check the people who are jerks, they dont matter and never will.

ItsMeRebekah

This is hard ... My daughter had her first experience with this last year, as a first grader. The little girl and her just didn't get along. They were not in class together, they rode the bus together. I told her to sit by the driver, ignore the child, be nice, anything and everything i could think of.. I wasn't sure what to do.. Called the school, no support there.. Then one day she came home crying that the little girl had spit in her face. That was it, that was the line where i would not let my little girl come home crying anymore. My husband got in our car, with our daughter and drove to the little girls house. After about a 30min sit down with her parents my daughter never had an issue with it again. I felt it was hard to know what to do, how to tell her to handle the situation. It wasn't about being over weight or anything my kids are both fit kids, it was just that she didn't like my kid period. When one kid has hurt feelings telling them to ignore it etc wasn't doing an lick of good. In the end, we were like this could go one of a few ways. Parents will shut the door in our face and not care, they could freak out on us, or just not care. Thankfully they DID care!!!

skinnydreams165

This is hard ... My daughter had her first experience with this last year, as a first grader. The little girl and her just didn't get along. They were not in class together, they rode the bus together. I told her to sit by the driver, ignore the child, be nice, anything and everything i could think of.. I wasn't sure what to do.. Called the school, no support there.. Then one day she came home crying that the little girl had spit in her face. That was it, that was the line where i would not let my little girl come home crying anymore. My husband got in our car, with our daughter and drove to the little girls house. After about a 30min sit down with her parents my daughter never had an issue with it again. I felt it was hard to know what to do, how to tell her to handle the situation. It wasn't about being over weight or anything my kids are both fit kids, it was just that she didn't like my kid period. When one kid has hurt feelings telling them to ignore it etc wasn't doing an lick of good. In the end, we were like this could go one of a few ways. Parents will shut the door in our face and not care, they could freak out on us, or just not care. Thankfully they DID care!!!

Amazing! You both did the right thing!!

Chadwick891

I remember being bullied as a kid and I just took it as a grain of sand. I took the high road, got my parents involved and since my father is quite the protective type for his family he sorted it out really well by addressing it directly with the parents of the individuals and the school.

I firmly believe that bullying is not something that people do because their parents teach them the wrong thing. I think it's the lack of attention they receive from their parents that forces them to find new outlets of attention and seek this through bullying other children at school.

It's a shame that kids can be so negative each other when there is no reason to be. It's something that definitely needs to be taken up with the parents of the individuals whom are bullying the kids to hopefully get some results. If not, then take it further than that and get the children protection services around to their house and get them to do a thorough evaluation on their parenting and force the %$#@! to make a change.

perdie7

my son 16 year old son was getting harassed at school (verbally), then one day the boy pantsed my son in hallway as they were going into classroom. My son put the boy in a headlock, slammed him against the wall and informed the boy, that if he ever did anything like that again, he would kick his *kitten*. As they came in the class room, the teacher looked at the other boy and said "payback's a b*tch".

My son came home, told me what happened, afraid he was going to get in trouble. We told him we would back him 100% with the school.

He didn't get in trouble, and the boy has never bothered him again. Bullying solved!