Ugh. Online Dating

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  • Sh1tsRainbows
    Sh1tsRainbows Posts: 1,227 Member
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    What's funny is that all of those options could pretty much be defined the same way. Here's my thought process with each one

    - About Average: WTH is average?
    - A few Extra Pounds: Because of what I ate for dinner.
    - Stocky: Short gymnast
    - Curvy: Alright, but in what way? A ball could be called curvy.
    - Heavyset: How I describe what I bench press.
    - Big and Beautiful: Overweight and doesn't want to do anything about it or won't admit they need to lose weight.
    - Curvy: pretty sure I did this one already
    - Full figured: A completed math problem

    I'd think a profile picture would say more about your body type than any of the above.

    THIS!!! :drinker:
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,720 Member
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    When I used to do a little online dating, I pretty much expected that people picked two options below reality and was usually right.

    I'm not sure I can answer this without potentially offending someone.

    Well by all means allow me!

    Ok we're talking online dating here. You gotta be prepared for a whole lot of resume padding, as it were.

    About average - Around 50lbs overweight
    A few extra pounds - 75-100lbs overweight
    Stocky - A girl who could hurt you
    Curvy - I don't care, I'm responding to this one everytime
    Heavyset - Approaching morbidly obese
    Big and beautiful - reserved for black women only
    Full figured - At least 100lbs over or more


    If you're mad you shouldn't be. What I'm saying is that people lie in online dating profiles. Shoot there are enough people on this very site using photoshopped pictures of themselves. Be VERY careful who you trust.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    * Curvy: This option I figure gets many clicks, simply because it sounds attractive. I can't give any specific measurements, because some women just have weight in the right places. Curvy is an hour glass. Something like this - http://wunderbuzz.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/hourglass3.jpg

    * Full figured: Someone with weight in all the right places. Slightly larger than average, but not by that much. A women like this maybe - http://www.feelingusa.com/img/blog_plus1.jpg

    HMM!! I think your 'scarlett johansson as curvy' picture is just a trick of photography (not saying she's not totally smokin', but she's not built like a 50s pinup!). She's sitting down, which by law of perspective makes her hips and derriere look wider.

    Also, INTERESTING, I always thought of full-figured as being quite larger than the image you included! That's probably what I'd have included for curvy!!

    cool to see different people's interpretations.

    I googled a bunch of Scarlett photos and she's definitely an hourglass.
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
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    If you're mad you shouldn't be. What I'm saying is that people lie in online dating profiles. Shoot there are enough people on this very site using photoshopped pictures of themselves. Be VERY careful who you trust.

    This is why multiple CURRENT pictures should be used. This way no one is surprised/disappointed when they show up - in fact they'll probably be pleasantly surprised you're exactly what they pictured because your photos were current and real.

    I don't get why people deceive on those sites - when your date shows up they will see the actual you - so why hide?????
    Be yourself. That's who you want them to like isn't it? When I was single - anyone "posing" and misrepresenting who they actually were in any way guaranteed no future contact from me. Deceit leaves a very bad 1st impression.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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    "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." - Joshua
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
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    I googled a bunch of Scarlett photos and she's definitely an hourglass.

    I would agree - Scarlett is curvy
  • naku
    naku Posts: 109 Member
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    * About average: What comes to mind would be someone who is around size 15, but I may just think that way from my studies, haha. I just picture this - http://newwomensfashion.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/15.jpg

    * A few extra pounds: Someone who is around size 18-20 seems pretty fair here. Like this chick -http://www.judgmentofparis.com/cc/ms11b.jpg

    * Stocky: Someone who is shorter than average (4' - 5'3), but is above size 20. I don't really feel many people fit this profile, because some women can be between those measurements and look like "a few extra pounds". I think this word is vague and harsh.

    * Curvy: This option I figure gets many clicks, simply because it sounds attractive. I can't give any specific measurements, because some women just have weight in the right places. Curvy is an hour glass. Something like this - http://wunderbuzz.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/hourglass3.jpg

    * Heavyset: I'd imagine would be a women who's got any boob size above DD. I think everyone can figure that one out on their own, haha.

    * Big and beautiful: Simply means you're proud of your weight. You know you're larger than average, but you like being that way. It's not bad, some men appreciate women who appreciate their forms. It's basically stating "Plus sized and proud". This women works - http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lrspdaEPi11qhc3j9o1_400.jpg

    * Full figured: Someone with weight in all the right places. Slightly larger than average, but not by that much. A women like this maybe - http://www.feelingusa.com/img/blog_plus1.jpg

    nb4 anyone hounds me, this is simply what comes to mind when I hear those words. My interpretations are my own and I don't believe everyone thinks or feels the same way as I do. Any ways, I think you should be honest with yourself. Relationships are best built with honesty.

    wow it's crazy how wrong people perceive body size... i mean, no doubt about all these women looking damn good but the 1st one (who you classify as being about average) clearly overweight. 2nd one (few extra pounds) is clearly obese.

    like said, these women look good but lets get real about size here. this is one of the reasons why most of the population in developed countries is overweight.... denial!
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
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    * About average: What comes to mind would be someone who is around size 15, but I may just think that way from my studies, haha. I just picture this - http://newwomensfashion.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/15.jpg

    * A few extra pounds: Someone who is around size 18-20 seems pretty fair here. Like this chick -http://www.judgmentofparis.com/cc/ms11b.jpg

    * Stocky: Someone who is shorter than average (4' - 5'3), but is above size 20. I don't really feel many people fit this profile, because some women can be between those measurements and look like "a few extra pounds". I think this word is vague and harsh.

    * Curvy: This option I figure gets many clicks, simply because it sounds attractive. I can't give any specific measurements, because some women just have weight in the right places. Curvy is an hour glass. Something like this - http://wunderbuzz.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/hourglass3.jpg

    * Heavyset: I'd imagine would be a women who's got any boob size above DD. I think everyone can figure that one out on their own, haha.

    * Big and beautiful: Simply means you're proud of your weight. You know you're larger than average, but you like being that way. It's not bad, some men appreciate women who appreciate their forms. It's basically stating "Plus sized and proud". This women works - http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lrspdaEPi11qhc3j9o1_400.jpg

    * Full figured: Someone with weight in all the right places. Slightly larger than average, but not by that much. A women like this maybe - http://www.feelingusa.com/img/blog_plus1.jpg

    nb4 anyone hounds me, this is simply what comes to mind when I hear those words. My interpretations are my own and I don't believe everyone thinks or feels the same way as I do. Any ways, I think you should be honest with yourself. Relationships are best built with honesty.

    Are these US sizes? If so I disagree entirely. Average is not 15/16 and a few extra pounds is not 18/20 unless you are like a giant.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    * About average: What comes to mind would be someone who is around size 15, but I may just think that way from my studies, haha. I just picture this - http://newwomensfashion.info/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/15.jpg

    * A few extra pounds: Someone who is around size 18-20 seems pretty fair here. Like this chick -http://www.judgmentofparis.com/cc/ms11b.jpg

    * Stocky: Someone who is shorter than average (4' - 5'3), but is above size 20. I don't really feel many people fit this profile, because some women can be between those measurements and look like "a few extra pounds". I think this word is vague and harsh.

    * Curvy: This option I figure gets many clicks, simply because it sounds attractive. I can't give any specific measurements, because some women just have weight in the right places. Curvy is an hour glass. Something like this - http://wunderbuzz.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/hourglass3.jpg

    * Heavyset: I'd imagine would be a women who's got any boob size above DD. I think everyone can figure that one out on their own, haha.

    * Big and beautiful: Simply means you're proud of your weight. You know you're larger than average, but you like being that way. It's not bad, some men appreciate women who appreciate their forms. It's basically stating "Plus sized and proud". This women works - http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lrspdaEPi11qhc3j9o1_400.jpg

    * Full figured: Someone with weight in all the right places. Slightly larger than average, but not by that much. A women like this maybe - http://www.feelingusa.com/img/blog_plus1.jpg

    nb4 anyone hounds me, this is simply what comes to mind when I hear those words. My interpretations are my own and I don't believe everyone thinks or feels the same way as I do. Any ways, I think you should be honest with yourself. Relationships are best built with honesty.

    Are these US sizes? If so I disagree entirely. Average is not 15/16 and a few extra pounds is not 18/20 unless you are like a giant.

    If those ARE US sizes, those photos are totally incorrect. No way those women are those sizes. If they're UK sizes, they might be right on.
  • yoshi91610
    yoshi91610 Posts: 177 Member
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    I think when I had used that I said "a few extra pounds" but I also had four or five pictures on there so there shouldn't have been any confusion. I met only two people on there, one was ok as just a friend although we had a lot in common, and the other is the first person I ever fell in love with, we dated for a year before we decided to end things.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
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    People lie often in online dating about their body type (for good reason, if you aren't listed as thin or athletic, your odds of finding someone interested decrease by up to 80%)

    In my experience, above average, a few extra lbs, etc... equals OBESE. Big and Beautiful etc equals OBESE AND HONEST.

    I've met a couple women online who listed as a few extra lbs that were actually about 5-10 lbs over, but they are very much the exception. Most women I met who listed themselves as "a few extra lbs" were 40-50 lbs over.

    I know men do the same thing.

    To me a few extra lbs is 5-10 lbs over. Anything more and you are overweight. If you are 30lbs or more overweight, I'm sorry to say you are way beyond a few extra lbs and are obese, even if you feel you carry it well, unless your weight is not coming from fat but from muscle like a body builder.

    Curvy to me is not fat or obese. Some people honestly mistake the word curvy to actually mean fat. It's not. A true curvy woman can be in her weight range, or maybe a tad over, but is typically not going to be 20 lbs or more overweight. Curvy women to me are typically softer, less hard-bodied, but not really overweight.

    This is why current full bodied pictures should be used, and why if I ever internet date again I will not consider anyone without them because just as in real life if I'm giong to approach a woman I don't know, I'd like to get as accurate a picture of her as possible before making my decision.

    If you are not happy with your weight and feel it is stopping you from dating, then work on yourself before you try to date someone else.
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
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    I agree with what other people have said, first off, post a good, up-to-date picture of yourself. People will care more about that than how you describe yourself in words.

    When it comes to choosing an option, just be honest. I'd even lean towards making yourself sound a little worse than better. When I was involved in online dating (Met my boyfriend that way, success! :happy: ) I would browse the forum and one of the biggest complaints I saw was people who met up with someone and they turned out to be way bigger than described/pictured.

    So if you're not sure if you're "average" or "a few extra pounds", I would go with the latter. This seems beneficial because 1) You'll have a better idea of if the person likes you for you, because they'll know you may be a bit overweight, and 2) If you do meet up with someone, if anything they'll be pleasantly surprised if you're more in shape than they thought, rather than being disappointed. Which will only make them more attracted to you!
  • LaBelle89
    LaBelle89 Posts: 71
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    I always put Curvy!
  • msiamjan
    msiamjan Posts: 326 Member
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    * Heavyset: I'd imagine would be a women who's got any boob size above DD. I think everyone can figure that one out on their own, haha.

    So my slim daughter who is a 30F is "heavyset"? I can't imagine anyone using that descriptive for her.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    * Heavyset: I'd imagine would be a women who's got any boob size above DD. I think everyone can figure that one out on their own, haha.

    So my slim daughter who is a 30F is "heavyset"? I can't imagine anyone using that descriptive for her.

    Apparently, Pamela Anderson (who is probably a size 00 or smaller) is heavyset. If that's heavyset, then that's what I want to be!
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
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    Boob implants don't really count against body type lol.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    Boob implants don't really count against body type lol.

    And large natural breasts do not mean a woman is fat.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
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    No they don't. I don't really count boob size period. Fat is usually measured on a woman's butt/thighs or midsection as well as neck area, not her chest.

    I actually know several very overweight women with small boobs.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
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    "A strange game. The only winning move is not to play." - Joshua

    This. And Wargames. lol
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
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    I have never been comfortable with the idea of online dating, but when I was single, I did hold my nose and try it a couple times. What the guys looked like was never the problem.

    I met one guy who had a pretty attractive photo of himself. We got along great, talked on the phone, e-mailed. I really liked him. Then I met him. First, he did look very different from his photo, but I can get past that if you have a really awesome personality, which he did.

    The issue was -- and maybe there needs to be THIS question on the profile -- he SMELLED. Not like BO, either. It was some weird, stale kind of smell and it was very strong. I couldn't wait to get away from him. There was not a second date.

    So, guys, if you're meeting a girl for the first time, shower, wash your clothes and hair and if yu live in a stinky house, leave as soon as you get dressed and air out!

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