Who to make happy: Boyfriend vs Best Friend

Maidei

The BF wasn't invited LOL....sorry it's kind of funny to me...but yeah, she just filled me in that there is a small get together at her house before hand. So I think I'll go to that then when everyone else leaves to go drinking I'll head home even though she is still begging me to go to the bar, I think that is a good compromise. I think everyone will be happy this way. YAY :flowerforyou:

blink1021

Not every person in a bar is drunk yes most are drinking but it is not always a meat market. They do sell soda's, water and juice there also it is not a requirement to drink. Its your friends birthday she just wants to spend time with you. Just go and stay a little while and leave early before it gets too "rowdy". I bartended all through college and it is possible to be sober in a bar. Their is no reason for anyone to be worried most restaurants have bars in them.

SuperMoniMonk

Your convictions are important. It sounds like you do want to go but in a way you know you shouldn't.
If you really really really don't want to go ...don't , If you go and feel uncomfortable and have a terrible time you may resent her for it .

Maidei

Oh man! They all went out for New Year for another friends birthday and I missed out on so much! It definitely did sound like people had a blast. I don't wanna lie, sometimes I do feel like I miss out on so much because of being so reserved :ohwell:

CrystalMarie253

Not all bars are a bad environment. Not all drunk people are bad or dangerous. I say give it a chance and do your friend a favor and grant her her birthday wish. If you've never gone to a bar you can't really judge. Maybe you'll have a fun time. I've gone out with friends and not drank before and had fun and felt safe.

PanteraGirl

The BF wasn't invited LOL....sorry it's kind of funny to me...but yeah, she just filled me in that there is a small get together at her house before hand. So I think I'll go to that then when everyone else leaves to go drinking I'll head home even though she is still begging me to go to the bar, I think that is a good compromise. I think everyone will be happy this way. YAY :flowerforyou:

That is a great compromise!!!! Glad its working out for you!!!!

Kenzietea2

I really don't understand your boyfriend's perspective. Does he really think you are that fragile that you can't handle yourself? He is only a phone call away even if things did get uncomfortable.That is sad you can't go celebrate with your best friend because of his insecurities. Who cares if you get hit on? It doesn't mean you are jumping into bed with them, it just means they think you're attractive. How about you make a deal with him that the second things get uncomfortable that you will call him. And who says you have to stay the whole time?
I have been to a bar with my girlfriends and the worse that has happened is guys talk to you. The world does have some crazy people but you shouldn't assume the worst, and neither should he.

christine24t

your friend. your boyfriend has no right to tell you what to do. if he is scared of bars and drunks, that's his problem and you need to decide if you can be with that your whole life. bars aren't scary places.