A Vent! How can someone be so un-supportive!!?

betterin2012

I'm so sorry for both you and your hubby! Family can sometimes be Difficult....I know, I'm trying to be gentle. Would it be possible to avoid them for a while ... revisit them when some of the pounds have be shredded....and let the obvious speak for itself? I congratulate you on your weight loss and congratulate your hubby in advance for the weight he will loose!!!!!

acfkaren

Well a comment immediately springs to mind:

Them: "hot air/you should do this/you should do that?we are right/blah blah/bullying"
You: (with smug smile): "yeah but the s*x is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Would like to seem them look that up!!!

Seriously though, huge congratulations on you both and especially you for your support.

10kaday

FIL and BIL are just jealous!

dbanks80

I always say misery loves company! I am sooooo happy your hubby decided to make a change for the better. Good luck in his journey.

I can only hope my hubby will stick with his plan to lose weight!

deftanker

Your husband should just tell them that he isnt eating those things because he feels that they could benefit from eating his portions.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

If they keep doing this and he doesn't set boundries with them, then you're just going to have to limit how you interact with them, especially when it comes to food. If they can't respect his desire to take care of himself they you just won't be able to eat with them on a regular basis.

WilliamsPeggy

I'd be mad too. Then probably try not to have any more meals with them.

mnyrac

As i learned through one of my weight watchers meetings, they are picking on him because THEY have no will power of their own. And instead of admitting that they can't do the great thing your husband is doing, they rag on him. I guarantee that it won't get much better until you both have some "responses" to their belittling or as he gets further on this journey and they see he's really serious about it. Good luck!

mnyrac

As i learned through one of my weight watchers meetings, they are picking on him because THEY have no will power of their own. And instead of admitting that they can't do the great thing your husband is doing, they rag on him. I guarantee that it won't get much better until you both have some "responses" to their belittling or as he gets further on this journey and they see he's really serious about it. Good luck!

ken1994

It is common for people to make fun of what they do not understand. Tell him to stick to his guns he is doing it for all of the right reasons and that scares them. They will either get on board or fall by the wayside. Good luck to both of you!

ncahill77

I have learned with in-laws sometimes you just have to be a complete @sshole and lay down the law, seems to be the only way to get everyone in line sometimes.

JenCM

I will say about your comment on his weight gain -- no idea how long you've been together but some weight gain is normal in most men as they get older. My husband was a 28 waist at 6'5 when he was in his early 20s (I didn't date him then) and he's now about a 36 waist at 32 years old. Sure, he has some excess weight, but considering it's been 10 years and men's metabolisms really slow in their early 20s, it's not unusual. Try not to gig your husband too hard. I know it's scary for health reasons but some weight gain is normal!

Well it's not like it's just that 20 lbs...he's only about 5'7, 5'8" on a good day and he's nearly 300 lbs now. He's a big guy in general, but he was about 240 when we got married and a lot of it's been his job changed where he's not doing anything active really anymore and he started living on RockStars and 1 lb burritos and chips at work. =/
It worries both of us because he has no male relatives outside his dad and one uncle because the men on both sides have died before 60 due to heart problems. And his 35 year old cousin had a massive heart attack last year and nearly died and have to have triple bypass surgery. So that's a big thing that he's just now started to worry about himself....