FC leaving

Heather125

I got a message today saying FC is leaving this site I think this is really sad because we're all here for the same reason. None of us are hear to be judged and nor should we judge others

Heather125

I got a message today saying FC is leaving this site I think this is really sad because we're all here for the same reason. None of us are hear to be judged and nor should we judge others

kerrilucko

:huh: I think I missed something, who was rude to FC?

Heather125

I wish I knew

pipinana

WHAT???!!! Is this true? What happened??!! :noway: :explode: :mad:

heather0mc

she is pretty fed up. i think its a terrible thing. :mad:

leafylee

Dave198lbs is the culprit...as far as i know.

he was the reason i left for a week or so (Ellelit) and came back as leafylee. i know the attitudes are really changing. it's a shame... she's so motivational.

Marla64

She's been getting considerable crap for some time-- somebody following her around on posts and giving her the business-- people rudely pm'g her questioning her legitimacy because she had the "audacity" not to post personal pictures, et cetera. It's been a crock of crap.

She's complained and sought help, and apparently was met with silence.

I tried to counsel her to ignore the trolls, but she's a sensitive person who took too much of it to heart.

Some people truly need to get a life.

Losing_It

I've been here since June of last year and I've learned a lot. One of the main things is people come & go here (sometimes they even come back). FC did contribute a lot of helpful information and I'm sure she will be missed. Placing blame only worsens the problems on the boards.

Wishing everyone much success,

Becky

Heather125

I didn't set this up to be a blame people I just thought it was really sad because we're all here for the same reason more or less

TamTastic

Dave198lbs is the culprit...as far as i know.

he was the reason i left for a week or so (Ellelit) and came back as leafylee. i know the attitudes are really changing. it's a shame... she's so motivational.

Hey Lindsay, I didn't realize you were back!!!

Losing_It

Welcome back, LeafyLee!:flowerforyou:

firewalking

I am really going to miss her. She had such great information to share. Maybe someone can lure her back to this post and see how much she is needed.

OMG - so someone has been deliberately tormenting her? How sick and sad is that?

kerrilucko

Dave198lbs is the culprit...as far as i know.

he was the reason i left for a week or so (Ellelit) and came back as leafylee. i know the attitudes are really changing. it's a shame... she's so motivational.

Hey Lindsay, I didn't realize you were back!!!

me neither, welcome back!

Has Mike been told about these problems? I'm sure he'd want to know about them at least. I really didn't know FC was having problems. I mean, there are a lot more arguments in threads lately but I have just been trying to back out of them when it gets ugly. I didn't know FC was part of anything like that. I will miss her.

leafylee

thanks for the welcome, guys... i couldn't stay away lol.

i think FC is such a wonderful person... i know during alot of my lowest points where i had no motivation to even get out of bed, she was there offering advice, support and caring. it's what this place is all about!~! it would be so sad to see here go, but there has been a definite change on the boards over the last few months, and i hope we can all make an effort to keep FC here, showing her our love and support. we love you FC!!

RachVR6

Well I hope she know's I her!

JasiBella

People really have to and should grow up. This is not the first person that has left due to others. icandoit left also due to the same reason and it's a damn shame.:mad:

janiebeth

he was the reason i left for a week or so (Ellelit) and came back as leafylee. i know the attitudes are really changing. it's a shame... she's so motivational.

I'm so glad you are back Lindsay - I was sad to see you go.

FC - if you are looking - see how many of us are already missing you?

If you must go, please don't stay away for long.. the harrassers are wrong - there are more people here that love you.. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

jb

TamTastic

To be perfectly honest, I know FC has been very helpful to people but I couldn't quite figure her out.

One second she seemed to say something nice to me and the next she would sort of "back into an insult" if that makes sense. I got to the point that I wasn't sure how she felt about me and just sort of stayed away. I am not sure what I ever did to her to make her say these things but it is what it is.

I didn't follow her around being rude though. That isn't necessary. If she didn't like me, there isn't anything I could do about it, so I just did my own thing.

I do wish her the best of luck wherever she goes. :flowerforyou:

nickybr38

Are you serious?
She's leaving?

Argh.
:sad:
I didn't comment to her very much but I always read her posts and comments because she conducted herself with class and love.

Come back FC. We love you.

firewalking

Quite frankly, I was going to quit posting because of him. But then I remembered that the good people in MFP greatly outweigh the one bad apple.

pipinana

I'm truly sorry to hear about FC's problems. We are all adults here, and people need to start acting like it apparently.

I had no idea these things were going on, and I feel horrible for her.

FC will be missed. She was so knowledgeable, respectful, caring and compassionate to everyone here. I'm ashamed for whoever treated her ill.

:flowerforyou: for FC, wherever you are....

réalta

we will miss you FC

dont let anyone make you feel down, you are fantastic in so many ways :flowerforyou:

jamie77

I've been here for almost a year and have never really posted much, from fear of being judged or called out. It seems that someone has something negative to say on almost a daily basis, so I just read the posts, track my calories and move on.

Jackie_W

Cripes!:noway:
I had no idea this had been going on
Sorry to hear your leaving FC - good luck :flowerforyou:

singfree

FC has always given good info. Everyone can't always agree on everything. I think she put the info out there for everyone to see. Sharing knowledge is what makes this site fly. I really liked her posts.

Cindysunshine

I have only been a member of this site for 3 weeks but during those 3 weeks FC was a great motivator for me. I have to have a lot of weight to lose and she could relate. I am so sad she left. Cindy

tashjs21

She'll be back. :drinker:

No one can stay away from MFP for long. :laugh:

pdxmomof2

I have to say that I have seen FC dish it back many of times. I dont post on the boards here often. Mostly just lurk alot and read. She knows how to defend herself most certainly. I would say kill em' with kindness. Dont stoop down to that level! Use this site for what it is intended, lose weight, have fun and meet new people!

END THE DRAMA!

That is all! :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:

tashjs21

I have to say that I have seen FC dish it back many of times. I dont post on the boards here often. Mostly just lurk alot and read. She knows how to defend herself most certainly. I would say kill em' with kindness. Dont stoop down to that level! Use this site for what it is intended, lose weight, have fun and meet new people!

END THE DRAMA!

That is all! :drinker: :drinker: :drinker: :drinker:

Here here!!! :drinker: :drinker:

kellch

Personally I'm not going to get into blaming anyone. I agree with Losing It Blame games only make things worse. We are all here for a purpose, a healthier lifestyle. Many things go into a healthy lifestyle, eating right, exercise, having support, and also having fun to help us escape stress in our life. (stress can definately effect your healthy lifestyle) It's amazing what a good laugh can do :drinker:
I know there are people here whom I click with more than others. Not to say that I have any issues with anyone here, but that's just life. Not everyone likes everyone and not everyone gets along. We are all different and unique, making us all special in our own ways. But we can all respect others as human beings and be kind. I have had disagreements with some. That doesn't mean I don't respect them for who they are and agree to disagree. If someone doesn't like me or ridicules me, I block their PM's and I stay away from their posts. It's not worth me losing sight of my real goal of a healthier me. :drinker: There were times I've been in threads and healthily debated with people. Did I get a little irritated? Yes, a little. But I actually enjoy it as long as it doesn't turn personal. But I didn't let it ruin my day or ridicule or put that person down or back them into a corner to insult them. I stated my opinion and came to understand their side and sometimes agreed to disagree. Not everyone gets along with everyone. That's life. I'm sure I have plenty of people here who don't care for me. :glasses: :ohwell: :flowerforyou: But, I am here for me and I am not going to let anyone stand in my way. I just stay away from anything I see that may cause controversy (spelling???:ohwell: ) and go on my merry way :flowerforyou: (except for this time, but only because I feel we all have something to learn from this & I feel very strongly about it) Sometimes we have to learn to just stay out of it. No need to hurt ourselves or let things get to us. There is enough stress in the world as it is. We are not all the same and we can't expect everyone to feel the same about everything. All we can do is respect each other as other human beings and if we don't like something, stay out of it, unless it can be healthily discussed and debated. Let others have their "type" of fun and if you don't enjoy what they are discussing stay out of it and look for a thread that does interest you. Have your "type" of fun with the ones that care the most. We all know who our friends are. :flowerforyou: It doesn't mean anything about being in the "in" crowd. We are adults. It is just about opinions, beliefs, and things that you share with other people that determine who you will and will not click with. No one is better than anyone else and none of us have the right to judge others :flowerforyou: There is no "in" crowd. Just adults here getting healthy, meeting friends, and leaning on each other for support. :flowerforyou:

I will agree with Tami that there were times I thought FC and I were really getting along but then there were times I felt as though, if I didn't agree with her, she would back me into a corner. That may not have been her intent, but that is what I felt. But I never insulted her or put her down. I think her accomplishments are amazing and I have seen some very encouraging posts from her. I have had discussions with her but they never turned out bad in the end. We both came to understandings of where the other was coming from. I feel that she had a lot of self love issues and was too worried about other people and where she fit in. And that saddens me, she has a lot to be proud of. All we can do, is be ourselves and the ones who love us for who we are, are the ones to hang onto. Forget anyone else. Block them and ignore them. Move on. Love yourself. Besides, in the end, "you" are all you have. Don't let anyone hold you back from your goals. But at the same time allow and respect others to be themselves. They are who they are, it is what it is. No need to try to make everyone else feel the way you do. Not everyone is going to agree with your opinions. And sometimes I just felt she was too worried about being accepted. :flowerforyou: And by this thread it's obvious she has a lot of people who care for her :flowerforyou:

FC, I wish you luck in whatever you do and I hope you continue to take care of yourself and I hope you continue down your road to a healthier you.:flowerforyou: Don't let anyone stand in your way. Congrats on your success :flowerforyou: