Irritating

Carrot1971

Ok...here is my question: As of this morning I have lost 22 pounds (although I don't officialy weigh in until Friday..lol). I KNOW my body has changed. I am able to fit into clothes that I haven't worn in ages and some of those clothes are too big. I've gone down 2 pants sizes at least and my face is even different. I see muscles coming back that I haven't seen in years. So why haven't people said anything to me? Oh, I've had one or two friends that tell me how great I look. But the people I work with EVERYDAY haven't said a word. It makes me kind of sad and I get irritated that nobody has noticed my hard work. I know this is seemingly very selfish but I'm proud of what I've done.

dovesgate

It's because they see you every day.

The people I work with every day don't see it either but one of our customers who comes in once every 3-4 months noticed so it's just one of those things where they see you shrinking week by week so they don't really notice it.

maryjay51

i felt the same way after i lost about 30lbs and no one said anything..it was when i got up past 50 people started to notice.. alot of times people dont want to say anything either because they arent sure and dont want to offend.. just be proud you did this and keep moving forward .. your day of fame is on its way when you walk in to a party with some hot outfit on that really shows off your new bod ..

Qarol

Wait...you WANT people to say something? :noway:

jrow0524

Buy something completely new and form fitting to wear. Your co-workers will notice then.

JustBeckyV

I agree it's because they see you. Also sometimes maybe they notice but are afraid of saying the wrong thing. Like stating have you lost weight insinuates that they thought maybe you had weight to lose in the first place. So it could be that as well. Dont worry about that - just keep doing what you are doing!!

candykay0605

I agree they see you everyday, its hard to tell a difference when you see someone everyday! but one day it will just click and they will be like YOU LOST weight!!! ") Great Job with losing and keep up the great job

yesiwillbeloosingit

Last year I gained around 35 lbs due to eating out way too often and not watching my intake. None of my coworkers (my team is very close) noticed it.. I have even asked some if they can see it - and they say they cant...

I think its hard for ppl that see you everyday to notice the changes..

Trust your feeling and fit of your cloths and soon others will notice too

elysia81

Also, remember that you are doing this for yourself, so you feel good. When you are happy and healthy that's when people will tell you you look good! Congrats! Keep up the good work!!

RuthRW

It's hard when your efforts aren't noticed, especially when you feel more attractive. I agree that people who see you everyday are the least likely to notice - don't let that bother you. More and more people will start mentioning it and your work mates will catch on. If you have a particular friend who hasn't said anything its fine to mention the work you've put into losing weight and how excited you are by the results.
Keep your chin up and be proud of yourself, you are doing GREAT!!!

AprilEC

My thought would be, if they see you every day, they may not notice as much as you would like! HOWEVER, it may also be that they want to say something and they have noticed, they just dont want to say something and make it seem like you were so big before and now you look so much better....some people feel awkward or rude by saying somthing. Then again, you could mention to them, I've lost this amount of weight and automatically they will say "I WAS GOING TO SAY SOMETHING! but didnt want to be rude". It never fails! Just know that you know! And YOU feel better. Others will eventually come around and see it or say something too.

kbanzhaf

Yep.....they see you all the time. The biggest compliment I received when I lost weight was when my next oldest brother told a distant cousin that he didn't recognize me the first time he'd seen me after I lost a significant amount of weight.

For me, I had to buy clothes that actually fit my body before anyone really noticed I had lost weight. And I was losing during the school year (I'm a teacher), so I was seeing my co-workers all the time. The ones who noticed and said something first were the ones I didn't see often (parents at ball games, etc).

Kaye

glenclewis

It's because they see you everyday or regularly. Find someone that hasn't seen you in several months or longer

SassyCalyGirl

you know there is a difference-that should be what matters!

cramernh

Honestly I dont see why this should be irritating...
I know when Im at work, Im too busy focusing on my job responsibilities...

If people are telling you that you 'look great', that should be enough of a jolt of happiness because, that in itself means they are noticing...

Its the people who probably didnt see you for about a year, that when you finally see them, and the only mental picture they had is the previous-you, thats who will notice more..

Seriously.. dont stress yourself about this.. its just not worth it.. you dont want to mess with a good thing....

billgiersberg

Several years ago when I was not trying to lose weight and not working out, I knew several people that I worked with who were dieting and exercising. I saw them get smaller and smaller. I didn't say anything because I was embarrassed about my own self. Nevertheless they did inspire me and now I too am exercising and working out. Many do not say anything to me either. Maybe they realize they should be doing the same but do not want to admit it. It doesn't matter.... I can see the difference in myself and in the mirror. However, I am very careful not to go about talking about my workouts and diets and etc and in general lecturing others about it. They already know just like I knew several years ago. They just need to figure out for themselves that they are going to do it.

therealangd

Because some people get irate and think it's insulting to have comments made about their weight. So to err on the side of caution, some people don't say anything at all.

plaid405

I've felt that way before when I've lost weight. Yes they do see you everyday so that makes it harder. I know sometimes when I've seen other people lose weight it's made me feel bad that I'm not. So instead of complimenting them I start complaining to myself about why I haven't started trying to get healthier. So keep your head up. Just know you are doing a great job and I bet a few have noticed!

CaptainGordo

Not all of us comment on our coworkers' appearance. It can get a bit dicey... and litigious.

My1985Freckles

People didn't say anything to me until I had lost about 25 pounds. Apparently I was the talk of the office with the whispers of "Freckles has lost a lot of weight." "She's looking really good." But they never said it TO me. AND I work out over lunch in my work's workout room. So it isn't like it was a secret. AND there are only 15 people in my office.... Someone will probably say something soon. :-)

SheliaN1960

You look great! I know what you mean. I lost most of mine from August to December and now that all of my employees are coming back they are like....wow..you lost alot over the holidays. I was only gone for a week. LOL!!! It does seem to help us with that push when we need it. But I just chuckle because they see me everyday!! Best of wishes!!!
Shelia

Beezer322

I think that some people think weight can be a touchy subject so they just won't say anything at all, so I'm sure people are noticing!! Maybe they just don't know the right words to say?

inskydiamonds

Some people are afraid of commenting on other people's bodies, as a compliment or otherwise. I know for myself, I would never comment on how someone looked (unless they were particularly close to me) because it makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable when people make comments on how much weight I've lost and how good I look.

I also don't think pats on the back are necessary for motivating yourself and I find it rather irritating when people look for praise or approval.

_Timmeh_

Buy something completely new and form fitting to wear. Your co-workers will notice then.

This is true! After losing weight I was still wearing my big boy pants and came to work one day with better fitting slim pants and people noticed right away.

martinbeks

It's probably because they see you every day and they aren't paying that close of attention. When i was doing WW for the first time with my mom back in 2004, I didn't notice changes in her, like at all. I knew her weight because we went to weigh-in together, but I didn't know anything else. It took going shopping for new clothes for us to really see the differences in each other. And that was when we went for my size 14 prom dress, and she was able to get a size 12 pair of pants.

vim_n_vigor

I work with almost all guys. The one guy that noticed that I got my hair done (went from blonde to dark brown and cut off 4 inches) was so embarrassed that he noticed that and commented on it that I don't expect anyone to say anything about my weight unless a big hunk of flab physically falls off in front of them! You know you are losing. Don't worry about what people don't say at work.

Carrot1971

Thanks everybody. I work with mostly guys so I'm sure its a combination of them seeing me everyday and not wanting to offend me. I never thought of the legal aspects of it either...hmm...

Anyway,. you are all right, I did this for ME! I notice and thats all that matters (oh, and my husband...lol).

BaconMD

Ok...here is my question: As of this morning I have lost 22 pounds (although I don't officialy weigh in until Friday..lol). I KNOW my body has changed. I am able to fit into clothes that I haven't worn in ages and some of those clothes are too big. I've gone down 2 pants sizes at least and my face is even different. I see muscles coming back that I haven't seen in years. So why haven't people said anything to me? Oh, I've had one or two friends that tell me how great I look. But the people I work with EVERYDAY haven't said a word. It makes me kind of sad and I get irritated that nobody has noticed my hard work. I know this is seemingly very selfish but I'm proud of what I've done.

I struggle with the same thing... You put in hard work and want others to notice... But at the end of the day, as others have said, it's definitely because they see you all the time and so the daily change is harder to notice. Don't worry about it so much. You have to do it for yourself, or you're going to be measuring your success by pleasing others, and that could be detrimental.

As for me, my own mother hadn't seen me in months, and when she did, I'm down over 40lbs, visibly different, and she said nothing to me. In fact, as she left my house after her visit, she hiked up her own pants and made a comment about how she's "lost so much weight" (though it doesn't really show, in my opinion). And out the door she went... It kinda hurts, but I'm so used to not receiving any praise from my family members that it didn't really affect me much. That's one of the things I've had to realize and deal with in my journey... Though my dad did bring it up at Christmas, so that was something. Of course I hadn't seen him in a full year. Anyhow... I'm rambling.

Perseverance10910

It actually makes me very nervous when people compliment my weight loss, at least until I have really lost enough that I am healthy and happy with my body...makes me feel like they definately acknowledged that I needed to loose the weight in the first place. I tend not to say anything to anyone else either unles it is drastic. I also have trouble when people compliment me because I tend to over reward myself after people start noticing my weight loss and then fall back into the same troubling routines. NOT gonna let that happen this time! No worries, just keep doing what you are doing and people will notice

morgansmom02

It is because they see you every day so they don't notice a difference!


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morgansmom02

And if you work with all guys, they are not that observant! LOL


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