Sabotaged at home

LemonSocks

My boyfriend is fantastic. We eat the same dinners and he would never expect me to cook anything else for him, we never have biscuits, crisps or chips in (we haven't had chips in the house for over a year but he prefers baked potatoes anyway, so that makes life easy). And when he cooks he makes sure our meals are healthy (or at least not too high on calories).

He has a chocolate box which I avoid for the most part but it isn't fair for him to completely miss out. But he had enough respect for me to not sit there stuffing his face with treats in front of me.

I know it's hard for him because he doesn't like seeing me go without, but he also knows how important this is to me. For my part I make sure our meals are fairly normal stuff (like fajitas, chilli, etc) but just low cal so we're both happy.

moerae159

I know exactly what you're talking about! I've been trying to cut fast-food and candy from my diet but it seems like that is all my boyfriend eats. It's so hard to resist the urge when the temptation is staring you right in the face!

lulabellabeauty

I do find it frustrating that my family doesn't eat healthy or wants too, but that is their choice. I've learned now that since it's my choice, I can't expect them to change because it will make it easier for me to lose weight. When I was with my husband, he also would eat a ton of junk (and could since he was skinny and had a very fast metabolism) and sometimes, would purposely try to sabotage my dieting efforts. It's tough when people around you not only eat unhealthy, but they seem to want to ruin your efforts. Maybe they feel bad that you aren't eating "yummy" food, or they just are oblivious to your efforts.
There will always be people around you though who will eat bad, and bad choices will always be around you. So it's up to us to make the smart choices and always be prepared. I think by being prepared, we are better able to stay on track. It's when you let yourself get too hungry that you will make bad decisions and it's much easier to do when there are bad food choices around you. Ideally, it would be nice for the people you love to be more supporting. I strongly believe that everyone should be eating healthy, and that we shouldn't let our loved ones eat junk, even if their metabolisms can support it; that shouldn't be an excuse for them to eat bad. But, it's hard to convince them of that and ultimately, it's their decision. By setting a good example, hopefully they will want to follow. Maybe if we encourage them to eat better, they will be much more supportive.

dee74

As an adult male I view weight loss as a solo journey. I cannot control my wife ad I will not try to. My house Is a mine field of chips, snacks, and ice cream. It is up to me to not eat them and remember who I am doing this for and that is ME! Yes I want to live longer for my family and enjoy activities with my daughter but those are all the other benefits of weight loss. The only person you can change is yourself and you definitely cannot use others as excuses or claim they are sabotaging you. Anyone that truly loves you will just be happy that you are happy. I do have one thing in my favor though. I do all the cooking at my house and I love to cook so for meals they have no choice but to eat what I make.