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ladylu11
ladylu11 Posts: 631 Member
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Please excuse me while I vent for a minute.
I read a lot on the message boards when people post questions on fitness, exercise, and eating healthy to hopefully educate myself and help in my own journey. However, I have to say how ridiculous it is that so many post answers that are almost an attack on others for what they do not know. If you have information that can be helpful to another, there is no reason to "talk down" when sharing your information because quite frankly you just come off looking like a big jerk! If you can't be nice then don't post! That is all. Carry on and have a great Sunday :)
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  • purplebabe2025
    purplebabe2025 Posts: 383 Member
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    Agree, reason why I stay away from the boards, really ain't got time for attitude!
  • jenready
    jenready Posts: 2,658 Member
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    I agree! There are so many people on here that need help, they don't need to feel stupid for asking a question because of rude people answering. I thought the goal of the forums was to help people learn about fitness and nutrition.
  • Indy_Mario
    Indy_Mario Posts: 541
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    I most certainly agree with you! Thanks for voicing it for me.

    Have a wonderful Sunday!
  • LTGPSA
    LTGPSA Posts: 633 Member
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    Totally agree!! It's really sad that people can't try harder to be nice ~ our world could be a much better place. :flowerforyou:
  • Bagman12002
    Bagman12002 Posts: 216 Member
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    well said..
  • debbiepa
    debbiepa Posts: 45
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    I totally agree. No question is a dumb question; we are all here to better ourselves. We should be supportive; even if that means answering the same question over and over.
  • ayshamc
    ayshamc Posts: 226 Member
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    When I first joined the forum I noticed this and it has turned me off posting new topics to be honest.

    The main thing that I got from all the comments that I was reading was that we "Newbies" should not be asking questions, we should be using the search function on the boards to find out the information that we require, that the "oldies" have responded to, time and time again.

    I don't think that people "re-ask" questions to be annoying, or because they can't be arsed searching out the info, I think sometimes it's an ice-breaker on here, a way to feel more involved and to make new friends.

    I don't mind answering the same information 50,000 times if it means someone feels like there question has been answered and maybe gained a few new friends out of it - we are all here for the same reason! :smile:
  • dubist
    dubist Posts: 279 Member
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    I most certainly agree with you! Thanks for voicing it for me.

    Have a wonderful Sunday!
    +1
  • LabRat529
    LabRat529 Posts: 1,323 Member
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    "Rude" is in the eye of the beholder. There are a few people that are intentionally antagonistic, but there are also some rather sensitive people that get offended any time someone disagrees with them or posts correct information to counter the myths they are throwing around.

    Besides- and I'll probably ruffle some feathers with this comment- social correction has a place and a purpose. Sometimes, people waste their time and ours when they do not accept responsibility for their actions, when they worry about things that are trivial or beyond their control (premenstrual water retention, for example), when they preach wives-tales and myths as if they were truth, and when they fail to use common sense, logic, and reason to govern their actions and then complain when they aren't successful. I see nothing wrong with nicely but firmly telling someone that they're making a mistake. Unfortunately, many view that as "rude" behavior.

    Incidentally, I do all of the above sometimes too. I appreciate constructive critique. Of course, if you're going to critique me, you'd better have science and reason on your side ;) but I still appreciate it.

    I'm also a big girl- I can select the advice I choose to follow, ignore the advice I choose to ignore, and most of the time, I can choose not to get offended when someone uses language that I find harsh (sometimes people are just *kitten* and it's hard to resist the temptation to be an *kitten* back).
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
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    Great post, rebekah.

    Personally, if I throw something out there I don't mind other members ripping it apart. As long as they're attacking the article, method or theory and not attacking me, I like hearing other opinions, whether I agree with them or not. It often results in doing a bit more research on my own so I can better form my own opinion.

    I can't change the way others present things but I can choose how I react. :smile:
  • carlie_carl
    carlie_carl Posts: 285
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    thouroughly agree with this post, constructive critism is fine, if someone is doing something wrong I have no problem if they are corrected politley, this site is about positivity, negative comments are not needed, especially if they are almost mocking another persons concept of what ever they are talking about.
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
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    True Rebekah. However, there's constructive criticism (No, you will not go into starvation mode tomorrow because you only ate 500 calories today) and hostility (What a stupid question! We've answered this 50,000 times. Look it up and stop bothering us!)

    There are some people who are just plain rude. They get their kicks being mean and nasty. There have been threads about how people will tell someone that thy would be pretty if they'd just lose weight. That can't be said for the mean people though. They might lose weight but their inner ugliness will still show through. It's a shame really.
  • LaurenAOK
    LaurenAOK Posts: 2,475 Member
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    While I totally agree with you and think this is something people should keep in mind, we do have to remember that this is the internet. No matter where you go, there will be know-it-alls and people being condescending to others. MFP is actually probably the friendliest internet community I've ever come across. I just ignore the rude people who irk me. I see far more positive posts here than negative ones :smile:
  • Amy911Gray
    Amy911Gray Posts: 685 Member
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    Exactly!
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
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    Please excuse me while I vent for a minute.
    That's cool. Just light a match when you're done, please.

    :wink:
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
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    But how else can people with poor self-esteem make themselves feel better? Belittling other users takes them straight to their feelings of superiority!
  • Cr8tive_Ingenuity
    Cr8tive_Ingenuity Posts: 181
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    While I totally agree with you and think this is something people should keep in mind, we do have to remember that this is the internet. No matter where you go, there will be know-it-alls and people being condescending to others. MFP is actually probably the friendliest internet community I've ever come across. I just ignore the rude people who irk me. I see far more positive posts here than negative ones :smile:

    +1
  • LilMissFoodie
    LilMissFoodie Posts: 612 Member
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    When I first joined the forum I noticed this and it has turned me off posting new topics to be honest.

    The main thing that I got from all the comments that I was reading was that we "Newbies" should not be asking questions, we should be using the search function on the boards to find out the information that we require, that the "oldies" have responded to, time and time again.

    I don't think that people "re-ask" questions to be annoying, or because they can't be arsed searching out the info, I think sometimes it's an ice-breaker on here, a way to feel more involved and to make new friends.

    I don't mind answering the same information 50,000 times if it means someone feels like there question has been answered and maybe gained a few new friends out of it - we are all here for the same reason! :smile:

    I agree. I also think that there are so many posts on each topic and none of them really come to a firm conclusion. There are things people spout over and over again on here that are just plain wrong but are considered right because the 'right' people agree with it, who tend to be the people that attack others for saying anything they don't agree with.
  • dane11235813
    dane11235813 Posts: 684 Member
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    Please excuse me while I vent for a minute.
    I read a lot on the message boards when people post questions on fitness, exercise, and eating healthy to hopefully educate myself and help in my own journey. However, I have to say how ridiculous it is that so many post answers that are almost an attack on others for what they do not know. If you have information that can be helpful to another, there is no reason to "talk down" when sharing your information because quite frankly you just come off looking like a big jerk! If you can't be nice then don't post! That is all. Carry on and have a great Sunday :)

    one of the biggest problems with this board is that some people offer advice when they really don't know what they're talking about.

    "my friend knows a trainer who said to do this....."
    or
    "i read in a magazine you should always/never/sometimes eat this"

    i know people are just trying to be helpful, but if you don't know what you're talking about keep it to yourself because bad advice can hurt people more than not saying anything at all.
  • alisha232
    alisha232 Posts: 43 Member
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    I agree. I am very new to being healthier and trying to get fit. I honestly was never taught about being healthy or living a more active life style. I have just started my journey so sometimes I know my questions probably seem stupid to people who have been doing this longer. I'm open to learning and am researching everyday. So far I haven't had any rude responders.
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