Intentional Small Friends List...

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  • AllanMisner
    AllanMisner Posts: 4,140 Member
    I'm too new to worry about it yet, but I'm guessing I'll get to a point where I'll set a limit. I had a limit of 250 on Facebook and recently took that down to 50. I figured that would reduce my time online by at least 30 minutes a day and I could apply that time to working out.
  • ShazMc73
    ShazMc73 Posts: 106 Member
    My friends list is only 12, of which 3 are people I know in real life. I actually had many more, but would drop people who gave the same feedback to everyone, or just did not interact with me at all; of course I get dropped too by some friends; I suppose those are the collectors or they saw no common connection, but that is all good and part of this process.

    My friends list is probably super lame by MFP cool people standards (joke), but the MFP friends I have here now I would not trade for anything (no joke!!). The first few friends I made here are still going strong and it is so wonderful to see the progress we have all made through our daily encouragement. Always happy to have more friends once we share common goals and approaches to life.

    Again quality over quantity and happily intentional :flowerforyou:
  • velix
    velix Posts: 437 Member
    I wanted to keep mine small when I first joined. But then I would get a friend request and not really have a justifiable reason to decline. Especially when I asked people to add a message with their request, and their messages were often thoughtful and just looking for help/inspiration. Not everyone wants to actively participate - sometimes inspiration comes from seeing other people's updates in their feed.

    That being said, I do trim my list regularly. I check to see the last time someone has logged in, and if they haven't stated a reason for being absent (I am away on a trip etc), after 30 days I delete the friend. I have also deleted a few for unhealthy behaviors that I could not encourage or support (eating under 800 cals of junk a day, etc.)

    I like to reply and comment on my friends' activity, but it is usually only those I see on the immediate page (or I will click "show more" once or twice) I find it funny that it seems of all the friends I have, I am still most actively involved with the same 10-20 people that I have been since I first logged on.
  • skittybang
    skittybang Posts: 1,525 Member
    I've INTENDED to have a small friends list - but it's gotten quite copious. But, GD - some people write some absolutely hilarious stuff in their friend request I've just GOTTA give them a shot... who knows who you might be declining!

    Then again - if anyone uses the word STUNNING .... well, that there is a no-go.
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    I've INTENDED to have a small friends list - but it's gotten quite copious. But, GD - some people write some absolutely hilarious stuff in their friend request I've just GOTTA give them a shot... who knows who you might be declining!

    Then again - if anyone uses the word STUNNING .... well, that there is a no-go.
    EPIC reason!
  • bekkaL85
    bekkaL85 Posts: 133 Member
    I have about 8 or 9 nine friends, and don't feel embarrassed about it. It's not like I can exchange them for money and buy stuff. I just like to have people with a similar goal of losing weight to be healthy, NOT to be skinny. If I happen to find more people like that, wonderful. If not, then I'm good with the friends I have. Most of them have been with me from my FS days too..so they can see straight through my b.s. and I need that!
  • vinylscratch
    vinylscratch Posts: 218 Member
    Holy crap, people actually care about this? I must be so naive as to not judge someone who sends me a friend request. Instead I'm so weird that I'm pleased to make friends and support & celebrate that individual exactly as they are... I LOVE my friends.. the only thing I can't tolerate is judgement! Go figure.
  • RTricia
    RTricia Posts: 720
    I like a large list - but I've chosen the invites to people who I admire or feel like I can relate to.
  • Justien_c
    Justien_c Posts: 9
    I'm extra, extra lame! LOL. I have 7 friends on MFP. I know each one personally. For me it is nice to have the community available, but I rely on a core group of friends that have similar goals. I guess it is just comfortable to have a small, close knit group for support. Maybe one day I'll have the time to keep up with a larger group. It's nice to know it is available if I want it.
  • Bonita_Lynne_58
    Bonita_Lynne_58 Posts: 2,794 Member
    Holy crap, people actually care about this? I must be so naive as to not judge someone who sends me a friend request. Instead I'm so weird that I'm pleased to make friends and support & celebrate that individual exactly as they are... I LOVE my friends.. the only thing I can't tolerate is judgement! Go figure.

    That's what makes you an awesome friend! I can't turn down a request...I feel bad. I do sometimes cut somone who hasn't logged in in over a month. I value all my friends.

    I don't think there's a right or wrong way. We all need to do what works for us!
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    I want to keep my friends list small. But I also accept whoever requests me. I'm an oxymoron.
  • _David_
    _David_ Posts: 476 Member
    I wanted a small list cause I get stressed out and feel like I am ignoring people if I have to many on my list, and did really good keeping it low until a "certain" tread blew my friends list up about 40 people in 2 weeks. All is good and will do the best I can supporting everyone that I can
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