Ex problems

CallmeSbo

My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

Lsqueezy

You mean she still has stuff to pick up? I usually burn anything left behind. :devil:

La_Amazona

NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town.

Katefab26

NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town.

Visiting me in NH haha

seehawkmomma

My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

Is she trust worthy?

I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.

rjmwx81

If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

cmriverside

My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

Is she trust worthy?

I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.

This. She dumped you, then she should have taken her stuff when she left.

kaits108

My ex is coming over on Friday to pick up her stuff. Is it rude if im not there when she comes? I ll leave the key for her, so she can come in and out as she pleases. I just dont wanna see her. I guess it still hurt really bad. Its been 3weeks since i got dumped.

Is she trust worthy?

I wouldnt leave an open apartment to my ex.....

But i guess if you trust her than bounce....I wouldnt want to see my ex.

If it was me I would gather their things put in a box and put it outside.

I agree with the box outside idea. I stayed friends with my ex, but I wouldn't even let him into my house anymore without me being there.

La_Amazona

NO it's not rude. I still have some stuff over at my place from my ex and although I don't hate him nor am I hurt by him, I have no interest in seeing him so whenever he comes to pick it up, I will be out of town.

Visiting me in NH haha

I WISH!!

_binary_jester_

See this...

myexboyfriendscloset.com

Mind you this site was blocked at my work. No idea what's on it, but it came up when searching for revenge and girlfriend.

cygnetpro

Not rude at all. She may be hoping that you won't be there, also. If you trust her not to ransack, I'd leave the key or leave the door unlocked.

Texas501

Mail it to her.

oneIT

You know this is the main reason they make curbs next to the street right? LOL!

danger_kitteh

I personally would want to be there to make sure she only takes HER things and nothing else. To help keep that to a minimum, collect and box her things for her, so she cannot tromp around your place being a nuisance.

rml_16

I wouldn't worry about being rude. If you don't want to see her, you shouldn't have to.

sherman76

If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

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drvvork

If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

Or... have a friend be there while she gets her items - but I would be there no matter the pain (I just had friends or family there 'visiting' while it was happening).

Eve53

I don't know if these are still around, but I've heard of websites where you can see your ex's stuff, heh.

Also, I agree with the box on the porch thing. Tell her that it's nothing against her, but that you can't be there (don't tell her that you don't want to be there) and you don't think it wise to just let her have free reign in your house.

Jyster

See this...

myexboyfriendscloset.com

Mind you this site was blocked at my work. No idea what's on it, but it came up when searching for revenge and girlfriend.

I checked out the site and it is still under construction. whew, was worried I'd see some of my stuff there.

Dave198lbs

MAN UP

Apryl546

I believe m boyfriend made this mistake, because he now misses certain movies etc from his place because his ex's took them when he wasn't around.

I say put all of her stuff in a box and leave it outside the door for her. She doesn't need to step foot in your place without supervision regardless of it you trust her or not. There will always be that what if.

calvert6183

You dont owe her anything anymore. Just be careful and hide your toothbrush and mouthwash if she hates you. Ieave a key if you trust her. I know this is very hard for you and im truely sorry and hate to hear this. Hang in there and keep on going. Wish you well .

havingitall

Box oustide the door for sure. A lot of ex's aren't the people you thought they were and they can do some nasty things

Pocket_Pixi

Not rude at all.

I had a friend of mine at my place when my ex came to get his stuff, that way I didn't have to be there but someone i trusted was to watch and make sure he didnt take something/wreck anything ...

tammietifanie

Since she left you i would put all her stuff in a box and leave it out side, That way you don't have to let her into your place and you don't have to deal with seeing her... She's lucky your nice enough to give it back to her i would have thrown it away by now..

BrettPGH

Box on the curb. If she uses the words "remain friends" or "closure" tune her out immediately. The sooner you move on the better. Best of luck.

havingitall

If it were me, I'd want to be there...not for some tearful confrontation, but to make sure she didn't take anything that wasn't hers. That or I'd leave her stuff in a box on the porch. No way in hell I'd give the ex a key to my place.

Edit: Post above beat me to it. lol

Or... have a friend be there while she gets her items - but I would be there no matter the pain (I just had friends or family there 'visiting' while it was happening).

^^ This...and make sure it is a hot female!

seehawkmomma

Just be careful and hide your toothbrush and mouthwash if she hates you.

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hongruss

I personally would want to be there to make sure she only takes HER things and nothing else. To help keep that to a minimum, collect and box her things for her, so she cannot tromp around your place being a nuisance.

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dirtbikegirl5

I would leave everything outside and leave for the day. Tell her if she doesn't pick it up by the time you get home, it goes in the trash. That is not to be mean. This doesn't give her the option to come and go as she pleases. I think you are being too nice leaving her the key and letting her decide when she is coming.
YOU are in charge now.

1WorkoutAtATime

you know her better than we do, if she's gonn bring drama then just mail it or have a mutal freind be there. If she gonn abe cool about it an djust get her stuff then I then it you should be there.