I wanna go from cute to HOT asap!

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Jb8885
Jb8885 Posts: 126
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SO, I'm 26 and single and meet a lot of guys and I've been told I'd be a perfect catch if I lost weight...I'm sure many people feel the same way...and this probably jacked up thinking, but sometimes I want to find a guy NOW while I'm a little overweight because I have this huge fear I'll lose all this weight..find the perfect guy...and gain weight back and hell dump my *kitten*. Crazy right? I want that genuine heartfelt guy who would like me no matter what....Do i sound nuts? Does anyone else agree?
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  • cgrout78
    cgrout78 Posts: 1,679 Member
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    you don't want a guy that only loves you if you're a certain body type. I totally agree with that.
  • KeegansMomma
    KeegansMomma Posts: 156
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    Not crazy to want that at all! I'm blessed to have my husband helping me with my journey...and he's said to me so many times he doesn't care what size I am...he loves me for who I am on the inside...not for what I look like on the outside. :)
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
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    when i meet my boyfriend i was 130 lbs- almost to tinnnny. i am now 180 something (and was when we decided to become more then friends.) he loved me when i was tinny, and he loves me now. im done with the shallow bs from other guys, this just shows me my boyfriend will love me for who i really am. now if i could just be more determined, cuz i would really love to be 130 again haha.
  • runbyme
    runbyme Posts: 522 Member
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    I've come across that too. It's usually the guy that needs to get off the couch and lose about 40# that wants the super model girlfriend! Screw 'em! Not literally! You're beautiful! Just stay true to yourself!
  • Jenner22
    Jenner22 Posts: 94 Member
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    I get what you mean. My husband has seen me at my worst and he's afraid that once I lose the weight he'll lose me because I won't want him anymore. It's always best to find a guy who love you for who you really are.. best, worst, and in between!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,370 Member
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    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:
  • SimplyShanRunning
    SimplyShanRunning Posts: 885 Member
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    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:

    Darling your gawgous!!! Just believe in yourself!! dont settle for a douchepickle
  • chelleymarie88
    chelleymarie88 Posts: 775
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    Any guy that would tell you that is an *kitten* and not worth an ounce of your time. :flowerforyou:

    Darling your gawgous!!! Just believe in yourself!! dont settle for a douchepickle

    (Not commenting on anything in particular cause I don't have advice) Lmao@douchepickle
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
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    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    ^^^This. Well said.
  • djuniteus
    djuniteus Posts: 149
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    Damn girl your hot now!! :) I know a bunch a guys that love your body type, Me included. If any guy Would dump you because you gained some weight, he's a piece of sh** and doesn't deserve you!!!! Don't stress things like that. :)
  • Jb8885
    Jb8885 Posts: 126
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    Bahahha douchepickle.......thats a new one for me too....thanks guys! I'm glad I dont feel like a whacko anymore! lol
  • Jb8885
    Jb8885 Posts: 126
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    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    Very true :) AS much as you want your sig other to be healthy...theres a fine line between loving and supportive and then superficial and judgemental..know what i mean?
  • KittyMul
    KittyMul Posts: 74 Member
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    I met my last BF at 260+ lb and he always told me my weight didn't matter - I lost 90lb and *then* he cheated on me. A douche will always be douche, no matter what size you are when you meet them! Likewise, a good guy will be good to you no matter your size :)
  • Ireshgurl
    Ireshgurl Posts: 559
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    I was 120 when I met my hubby. Boy was I sexy (sigh). I am now almost 150 (:sad: ) and not so sexy but I'm still with the hubby. He loves me for me, not what I look like. And I'm sure you'll find the same. You're totally in the right to feel the way you do because I totally question how my hubby can still find me attractive when even I don't, but he does :smile: and I love him all the more for it.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,901 Member
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    agreed :flowerforyou:
  • muwchck
    muwchck Posts: 261 Member
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    Not crazy to want that at all! I'm blessed to have my husband helping me with my journey...and he's said to me so many times he doesn't care what size I am...he loves me for who I am on the inside...not for what I look like on the outside. :)

    I feel the same way. Hubby thinks I'm crazy to want to lose all the weight I do, but I want to be healthy and able to keep up with my kids. Hubby's never seen me thin and tells me he loves me the way I am every single day.
  • fishbaitkait
    fishbaitkait Posts: 45 Member
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    I met the perfect guy. I gained 50 lbs. He didn't break up with me or put me down. He loves me no matter what. He has a great heart. It's possible. :)
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,358 Member
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    If a guy can't fall in love with you for more then what's on the outside, he sure as hell don't deserve you when you are where you want to be. And I just looked at your photo's you are beautiful!
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
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    Why don't you just lose weight and keep it off permanently? I plan to work this hard on my diet for the rest of my life. :)
  • curvy_ca_mama
    curvy_ca_mama Posts: 110 Member
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    The right guy is gonna love you for you- whatever your weight when you meet him- and will always see the you he loves whether you lose or gain-my wife and I have had our weight fluctuate significantly during our 16 year marriage- it really goes largely unnoticed by the other. You see the person you love- not pounds.

    Very well written!! I totally agree. :smile:

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