Losing It and Your Partner

santamommy

My husband says I should love him reguardless and he has zero interest in working out. He is a diabetic, over weight and does not watch what he eats..He eats tons of sweets then takes his shots....???? He knows the deal and I have talked til I was blue in the face so all I can do is look after number one and hope he opens his eyes.....I will keep up my good work without him if I have too....

jrrflr

I am always encouraging my wife to go to the gym with me. Lately, she's been taking me up on the offer. She has tried so many times to lose weight and loses her focus when her loss happens so slowly. I bought her a Bodybugg for Christmas and it seems to be helping her maintain her focus.

fiberartist219

My husband inspired me. I wanted to lose weight, and I made some feeble efforts, but after watching the attention he got from family and friends for losing 50lbs, I felt like a slob next to him.

I don't follow the same methods he does for eating, working out, because our bodies are very different, but I am eating less overall, and working out more. I'm down 12 or 13lbs so far, and on my tiny frame, it's noticeable.

LauraSmyth28

My boyfriend has no interest. He says he's proud of me for sticking to this, but he definitely would not count calories. He's the type of person who eats nothing all day and then pigs out at night.

He has got a bit of a belly, but I'd say that's from his love of beer more than anything else. And I know he'll never give that up!

So long as he's supportive to me, I don't mind. I think he's perfect just how he is.

fiberartist219

For those of you who are trying to influence your partner to lose weight, I'd like to leave a bit of advice, since I've been on the other side of that:

1. Lead by example. Whether you are a healthy weight or not, you should eat healthy food and exercise.

2. Love your partner, in sickness, health, better or worse, blah blah blah.

3. Don't nag. Your loved one has to do it on their own, and they have to want to do it for themselves, not for you. We all do lots of nice things for our significant others, but changing who we are and what we look like should not be one of them.

4. Create an environment that makes losing weight easy. Keep a stash of fresh fruit hanging around and eat your veggies regularly. Leave your workout equipment available if your partner wants to use it, but don't say anything.

5. Be proud of your partner for working out or compliment his or her healthy choice of food. Don't say he or she is fat... No one wants to hear that, and we already know.

6. Recognize that your partner is an adult. You are not authorized to tell him or her what to eat, and how to workout. They are not a child, and if you challenge the right to decide these little things, you will be faced with a rebellion. Don't make the hungry person that you love ANGRY.

Jenner22

Usually when I start working out a ton my husband will start for no reason lol. It's cute!

davidlbass

I was inspired by three people, two friends who lost over 100 lbs each and in particular my wife. After she had lost 50 lbs over 6 months I finally got on the bandwagon with her. I had been walking with her before but not doing any serious dieting. Between the two of us we have lost a whole person.

Sd0510

My sister said she was going to join me when she saw that I lost 10 pounds (2 weeks ago or so), but then she realized she eats 1000 calories for breakfast, and said she couldn't eat just 1800 calories a day.

My fiance on the other hand has been working out beside me for the past month and a half since I started and he was logging his calories for a while, but recently we have both fallen off track a little. We both said we are starting back again and better than before.

rpantusa

my husband has always been super skinny between 140-150, and he got out of the army last year, and has put on some weight. he got up to 180, which looks good on him, but i have inspired him to work out and tone. he lost 2 pounds last week, so he is at 178, but he has built up so much muscle. He is super happy now, and he is enjoying this as much as me now!

KathyEarhart

My husband has been my number one encourager. He cooks (used to be super unhealthy); but now he cooks healthy for me. Between me not buying the junk I used to and him cooking healthy, he has lost weight. He was maybe 10-20 lbs. overweight before. He's been getting more compliments on his weight loss lately, asking how he did it. He just points at me-lol

brookepenni

My husband has been my number one encourager. He cooks (used to be super unhealthy); but now he cooks healthy for me. Between me not buying the junk I used to and him cooking healthy, he has lost weight. He was maybe 10-20 lbs. overweight before. He's been getting more compliments on his weight loss lately, asking how he did it. He just points at me-lol

Haha that reminds me a little of us! When people compliment him (mainly my friends who haven't seen him in weeks/months I say "I made that haha!!!"

What does scare me though is what would have happened if I hadn't decided to make the change.... How long would it have taken us to do something? We'd both be more unfit and unhealthy today.....

paulcer

Wow, I thought you meant that you were losing weight and your partner. I'm glad to see that's not the case.

afull416

Right now my boyfriend isn't having anything to do with my weight loss. But I do hope wants I start losing weight he will want to as well.

epurucker82

I feel your pain...my husband works long hours as a cook and is thin but has the belly. I have tried to get him into the gym with me and he hates it. Jon use to play sports growing up but never liked the gym and I really think it would be good for him to strengh train. It's so good for feeling good and giving you energy....men....what can you do!!! Good luck with yours....I did get mine to agree to bike riding in the spring and summer. I just think he hates the idea of the gym but likes walking and doing outside things.