Not getting compliments

becoming_a_new_me

Go to work wearing older clothes and no makeup - amazing how much people notice when you look like $h!t, but not when you look great. :laugh:

Noel1114

Well done, they're just jealous>
Keep up the weight loss and feel better !!

annabellj

i agree with one of the previous posters, 7 yrs is a while for any clothing, unless your suits were totally classic. maybe you need to invest in a new suit? even goodwill has nice suits and jackets for like a buck on thursdays if you get the right color tag. that is what i had to do this summer when i started a new job. savers is great also. you would be surprised how many great in style items people donate. i updated my wardrobe for less than fifty bucks and had two weeks worth of clothes, pants and jackets, skirts and tops

DBiddle69

You look great to me!
What matters is how you feel when you look at yourself....

2Bgoddess

Your ticker says 12 pounds; that's great but hardly constitutes a physique transformation.
Just stay on track and once you lose 30, people will notice for sure.

I completely disagree. 12lbs can be up to 2 sizes for someone. They can go from having a muffin top to no muffin top (much like my situation)

Yes, it's great and all, yet don't expect the world to beat a path to your door to offer compliments.
That's just reality.
And again, this is not to belittle but to acknowledge that in my opinion, the OP is expecting too much.
Nobody gave me a second thought until I lost 30lbs, and then it was just a passing comment.

Let me tell you this.
When it's significant, people notice, and people comment,.
After 70+ pounds, I get this daily from just about everybody.

Be patient and keep punching!
People will notice in time; you are doing GREAT!

I concur! From my own experience: I found that people I saw occassionally, began to comment after about 25 pounds. Those who work with me every day, around 50 pounds. Down 70 pounds, and people I haven't seen in 6 months walk right by without speaking, cuz they don't recognize me. The women I work with know me and each other well. I get compliments on my clothes all the time, cuz I try to be stylish with my new purchases. I was heavy for so long, I have to buy new, I never had 'thin' clothes. Every stitch of my clothing is less than 3 months old. It gets pretty pricey to replace a wardrobe!

Anyway, I bet in a few more pounds, you'll get some comments. Until then, come to mfp, we'll help ya feel great about your hard work!

MaximalLife

Are you losing weight to get compliments from others? Why care if someone tells you that you look good or not as long as you feel good about yourself.....nothing else matters! Do it because it makes you feel good, not because you want others to compliment you..

^^^^^^
THIS - but it is nice when others acknowledge.....but that's NOT why we are here.

havingitall

Are you doing this for the compliments or for yourself. If I waited for the people at work to compliment me..... I would be waiting a long time.

nancycarmella

Hey you see these people everyday,,,its a long process..one day you will walk in and they will be wow! look at you! Congrats and keep pushing forward. I know when I lose weight I see it in my waist line but it really becomes noticeable when your face starts to thin out. That's mt fave.

mdebbie1026

I am sorry this is a downer. It is not a bad thing to tell some one good job. Like so many others have said you feel great so relish in that. **Hang in there, the time will come when you hear the words of affirmation.** Maybe they are jealous, maybe they feel you are overdressing for the casual office and trying to show them up. Weight is a iffy issue. I have heard people tell others something along the lines of "WOW!! You have lost a TON of weight! How much have you lost?????" The recipient of that comment was no happier than you are. Looking forward to the updates. You ARE doing a great job!

GurleyGirl524

forget about 'em. You look great, you feel great about yourself. Do it for you, no one else!

Valarie73

As long as you are feeling good and you know you look good - well..that's what really matters. Sure, the compliments are great - though I wouldn't know, it's been a while. Hahah. Seriously though - compliments are great, but if you don't get them from the co-workers, try not to let it get you down. You know you're making progress and you know you're feeling good - so go with it, and share your accomplishments like getting into smaller clothes here - because WE think it's AWESOME!!!

crazybeautifulkittie

Sometimes people are actually not very observant. For example I chopped off like 6 inches of hair and only a handful of my closest friends realized. So usually unless its extremely drastic, they won't notice. But I bet if you ran into someone you haven't seen in a while, they will notice. And can you really expect those women to be very open with complements? Usually unless they are particularly nice or thoughtful or uplifting, its rare to get a compliment even if you do like jessica alba.

Cait_Sidhe

If people see you everyday they're less likely to notice any change, especially because that change is gradual. It's only people who don't see me often who comment on my weight loss.

jillica

Thanks, Guys! It probably is combination of all those things. My main beef is with the suits. I still want to lose 20 lbs so I'll have to just be outdated until I hit that mark.

Huskeryogi

People at work didn't start noticing my weight loss until I got under the weight I had started the company at 5 years ago. Honestly I decided to just be grateful they didn't notice the weight gain rather than get upset they weren't seeing the loss. I hit the 25lb mark (5 lbs under my weight when starting at the company) and everyone started to notice.

kingkong123

This is one of the wildest threads I've seen on mfp

ItsMeRebekah

maybe they think its rude to comment on your weight in an office setting..
the only person i look for this from is my ole man and my mom LOL

H_Factor

know this...getting complements is nice, but there's also a possible downside to them. that possible downside is COMPLACENCY. perhaps you've heard about super prospect ballplayers who "read their own press clippings" about how great they are...then stop working hard...and fail to achieve greatness. You haven't achieved your goal. Yes, be proud of yourself for the progress you have made, but remember you aren't where you want to be. If you start having others tell you that you look different, better, etc. ... you might start easing up on the journey ... it would become easier to forget your goal and the hard work necessary to get there. I'm not saying this would happen to you...but its possible.

I've lost 70 pounds so far on my journey. About 25 pounds ago, the complements really started rolling in. I went several months being complacent and half assing it through the journey...not solely because of the complements, but they didn't help subconsciously. I finally told myself "screw that, I'm not near my goal and while these folks are being nice, they don't know the pockets of fat I still want to destroy". Now that I'm even closer to my goal, folks are "surprised" to hear I want to lose another 10 or so pounds, and that I look fine where I'm at now. you know what, thanks for the complements, but EFF THEM. I don't need the noise in my head. I don't want that dang complacency creep to rent space in my mind again. I will remain fierce.

anyway, my .02 as to another way to look at this.

Mich3ll36

Alot of times, the people that spend the most time with us dont see the changes as quickly as maybe someone you see once a month or so. Good job on the loss! Stay positive and remember.... you know you look hot! :-) HUGS!