Does You Spouse Motivate Or Complicate Your Weight Loss?

dia77

He is unsupportive, but loves the changes that my body has made.
His being so negative only feeds into me wanting it that much more, so he is a help in that sense.
Just wish he would join in!

Unfortunately, this! And I really don't know how to change it.

Amy911Gray

Motivates, makes it easier for me, and started losing weight himself after seeing my results...

ladybug2000

In a word.....complicate!

BioShocked89

It's back and forth. It's really good to have someone to work out with and bounce ideas off of. On the other hand, if he has a cheat day, I feel like I get one too. It becomes kinda hard to separate my daily choices from my boyfriends'. Other times, he can cheat without me, and I have the resolve to stand with my routine. It depends on how I'm feeling.

SarahZ1997

Both! He fusses at me if I don't exercise but then eats junk food or wants to eat out! Can't win!

DirtyHippieFeet

DH is both, really. He's really supportive of my workouts but less of my healthy eating. I think he just doesn't get it; he can lose 10 lbs in a week by drinking beer and eating hot wings.

netty1959

my hubby is both aswell, firstly he will look at what i am eating which is usually
healthy and comment should you be eating that,then he will have a cake or cookies
and ask do i want one or why dont i want one , i cant win with him.

jenny95662

I always wonder how other married/long-term relationship people handle trying to lose weight with their person always around.

Is he/she a help or a hinderance?

I would say both also.
My husband will eat ANYTHING I cook he likes and trys everything. That being said he can eat anything and tons of it and not gain a pound. When he is not around a lot or deploys I do better for 2 reasons. One I can just eat something wuick I make for myself and give kids something else, I choose when and if we eat out without others saying that want to, and I am motivated to do it when he is not there so I look good when he comes back. He does say I am doing great and motivates me BUT he is very lazy and never wants to do much. So its both in my mind lmao

Lesa_Sass

My husband is 100% supportive but ours is a lifestyle change, not a weight loss issue. He will also eat all the vegetarian meals I fix and not complain.

My husband is wonderful and I reading these forums makes me realize how very fortunate I am to have such a man.

MaryAnn678

I think I'm more of a hindrance to myself than my husband is to me, I'm the one who wants the sweets, oh he'll eat them if I make them but doesn't bring them home or make them himself. I usually have the cravings and make them, eat a piece or two then throw the rest out or freeze it...unfortunately if it's frozen I still know it's in the freezer. i think I'm going to start keeping a journal of why I eat what I eat, I know I'm a stress eater, but maybe writing instead of eating will help.

Nailrep

Mine definitely doesn't help. He loves going out to eat. Always encourages me to eat. I don't understand it honestly. About every other week, he is on a diet. And during that one or two day period where he is disciplined, he tries lecturing ME on how to lose weight. I've gotten to the point now where I just laugh.

sc1572

I'm single, but I do have family members, a roommate, and friends who make it tough. As a college student, I am constantly surrounded by temptations, and my friends ALWAYS want to go out to eat or bake. This site has helped me SO MUCH! However, I can be obsessive sometimes, and find that it interferes with me even forming relationships with people in fear of it ruining who I am. Sounds weird, but it's true.

Sparren

husband is really supportive - but he and the boys still eat their normal food, and I just have my stuff. I was going out to Zumba the other night in a new pair of tight pants (similar to yoga pants) and he told me I looked cute in them. So I jumped him when I came home...

JennieAL

My husband appears to be neutral about my counting macros & calories and weight lifting. He says I look great and is fine with me the way I am, so I guess he's just mildly interested in what I'm doing. He says I'm smaller overall and have slightly better muscle tone. Guess I'm not changing the world or anything, lol. But he gets really excited whenever I get excited about a new record like pushups, planks etc.

rbvaudrizle

I am the bad one. I work out and am physically fit and so is my wife. She eats very well and insists that the children learn healthy habits. I am the bad one when it comes to food. i could eat as if i have a hollow leg. Before MFP she used to think i was trying to make her fat by making too much food and using unhealthy ingredients.

marhattap

He is a BIG help. He is a vegan, so that means practically no junk food in the house, what so ever. Whenever I go out to get fast food, or anything unhealthy, I get a lot of crap from him, which in the long run helps me to make better decisions. He is an excellent motivator, and supports me fully. Oh, and tells me left and right how amazing I look, which is a GREAT motivator

sexycheesemonkey

My hubby is very..."my way" on things...so he doesnt motivate me correctly...he tries to tell me what works for him (eating crap and doing exercise a few times a week like jogging 2 miles or riding a bike) will work for me and I'll be happy while doing it. But he doesnt go out to jog or ride a bike, he doesnt like to get off the computer games most of the time (I have to admit I play the games as well) But...I think he's a hindrance sometimes cause I feel like I have to hide what I'm doing to avoid ridicule. And his father doesnt help either, all he eats is TV dinners then tells me that dieting is basically pointless and I need to just do herbalife (he sells it) and the weight will drop off...and really I cant believe too much that's said from a conspiracy theorist believer (he believes Jesus was an alien...and a whole bunch of other things). It's hard dieting, right now I am on HCG and my hubby kinda tells me I'm being lazy and that if I would only do it his way then I'd lose the weight and be healthy...so between the two of them I'm ready to say *kitten* it all and just go back to eating what I want and ignoring them. But I'm not to that point...I'm holding out because even though they dont see any results I do.

Sorry...that turned into a mini rant didnt it?

songbyrdsweet

Mine does everything with me and really enjoys my cooking. He has learned to make yummy stuff too. We exercise together all the time. I'm a very lucky lady!

Oh, and he always tells me how great I look and when he notices my tummy is flatter. I do that for him too.

MissFit0101

He is always supportive of my efforts! He's amazing!

afull416

He doesn't support me at all. He makes it quite to continue.

kseier

k so this is hilarious. im in the fitness business and guess what my boyfriend does? he runs a cheesesteak shop. he's supportive in the fact that he loves to watch me workout and he loves coming home to a cooked meal, which bless his heart he never complains about even if it's light or healthy, but he's a jolly old sandwhich maker. he works all day and never wants to workout and never has intentions to. he never eats breakfast and likes to scarf hot dogs and pizza. i love this guy. we're enough alike, and definitely enough opposite. we joke that he makes people fat then sends them to me! lol. overall, he is supportive. i wish he was striving for the same or similar goals though, that would make me very happy. but i don't see it happening. he is himself, and i'm myself. as long as he doesn't say im too skinny or a i workout too much or whatev er then we will be ok.

FitnessBarbie99

Mine finds my time at the gym and away from the house irksome. He is a real hindrance as far as I can tell he'd rather I be home working, doing chores, etc. instead of out taking a walk.

However, he likes me thinner than I am and when he "sees" some improvement, he's very appreciative.

Love him so!

ebonyroche

He does both. He is supportive when I tell him how I'm doing or I tell him I got up and exercised today. But then I will offer me cookies or food that I can account for. "Here take a bite." I hate that! Most of the time he will get it and leave me alone.

StacyFrisbie

First of all, I am seriously disappointed in all of the people who don't support their SIGNIFICANT other. Not just any person, but the person who is supposed to love you and do anything for you! It just saddens me. You people are amazing to be able to accomplish so much without it, but that doesn't mean you should have to!

Quite honestly, I couldn't do this without my husband. He doesn't have to tell me he's proud of me or that I look good all the time, he shows me he's supportive through his actions. He makes time for me to exercise, our family eats all of the same foods. If I go to a Zumba class, he has a healthy meal on the table for me when I get home. He helps with dishes and housework so that I can workout, have a regular job, be a mom, yet not feel overwhelmed trying to do it all while trying to lose weight. He helps to incorporate family exercise into our routines, does the grocery shopping, and takes care of the kids while I exercise or log on to MFP. He finds 5K races for us to run together, and asks if I have enough calories left before cooking to make sure I don't feel left out at the dinner table. He's incredibly supportive, and quite honestly, if I don't give 100% every week, I feel like I've taken advantage of all that he constantly does to help me out. I'm apparently quite fortunate. I in turn try to do everything in my power to support what he's trying to do (although weight has never been an issue with him, mostly just fitness).

Those of you not enjoying your spouse's support should sit them down and let them know how you feel, and much you would appreciate more support in achieving your goals, and list a few things that would make a big difference to you. Maybe they'll surprise you :-)

love22step

My husband is supportive. He loves the changes and is quick to compliment. As an extra incentive, he's agree to quit smoking after I lose another 4/10ths of a pound. That's GREAT motivation for me.

janjtaylor

My husband is in this with me. He does not log his food on MFP although at first he did.

In September he had a near fatal heart attack. It was his second. We "changed" our eating habits when he had his first one 11 yrs ago but both had full time jobs, worked insane hours with 40++ hour work weeks.... and rarely had time to stick to it. Fast food doesn't offer good choices and it was rare that we could afford the time to eat decent food.

Now, he is retired. I work full time but we have moved back to our farm in a small community. I work 7 minutes from home. We rarely eat out unless we are out of town and then choose a place that gives us the choices we want.

Our plan is to loose weight of course....but more important, to eat healthier. As such, he is becoming as well versed as I am in the difference between dieting to loose weight and healthier choices to loose weight, and can recite the evil of trans-fats and sugar when asked. He also shops for us at times and takes his time to read labels and brings home things I didn't think of...

So...to answer the forum topic - motivate! We are in this together..... and it's showing!

RUN2CJ

Well... My s.o. of 12 years and I have just called it quits... Which sucks since I am a stress anorexic AND stress eater!! He was over 400 pounds and bitter... This right now is about me. I would love to say he hindered me with his bad habbits and complicated things with his dinner choices and fast foods... Our dinner menu at times was like a buffet with 2 meats & 5 sides... Not to mention fried chicken at least 3-4 times a week.

But it is my fault that I gained the weight I did... & its going to be my gain when I lose the weight & get my sexy back!!!!

Any other singles out there ;-p

dida0721

both. its so much easier to lose weight being single with no kids. I've done that. this is a new challenge.

JenS0301

Hmm, At first I had a hard time because he snacks ALL night long until we go to bed. I have found my will power now and it doesnt faze me. I am loosing weight and getting in shape for ME. I have tried to motivate him to work out and eat better but it aint happening as of yet. I bring it up to him weekly that he needs to MAKE time to workout and so far nada. Doing this for ME! :0)

hybridscientist

My partner is super supportive. He is always telling me how proud he is of me and my efforts with exercise and food. I don't mind if he wants to have things that I don't eat around... to me it's a bonus because instead of having a serve to myself I know I can just have a bite of his and be happy!!