My man deployed this morning.......

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arr0528
arr0528 Posts: 119 Member
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So I am posting this topic because I watched my fiance walk down the long pier and board his ship. I won't see him until right before our wedding. I keep thinking that after I get home, the house is going to be silent and empty and all I will want to do is raid the cupboards and eat until I feel better..... (that's what I used to do)........ My goal is to lose 20 pounds before our wedding so that I am healthy and look good for when he comes and also look good in my wedding dress. I am just sad and looking for support so that I don't go home and do what I have always done when he leaves........

I know it's going to be hard but I keep telling myself I can do it.
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  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
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    Oh honey, big hugs for you!

    You have new motivation now! I know this is a sad moment, but use this time to suprise him, and most of all to know that you've beaten the sadness, not with food, but with feirce determination and pride in yourself :)

    You got this girl, and let me say thank you for you and your future husband's service :)

    Add me if you like
  • arr0528
    arr0528 Posts: 119 Member
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    Thank you so much, your post is so very nice!! I want him to see the new healthy me and think "DAMN!"
  • snowfox92
    snowfox92 Posts: 100 Member
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    When is he coming back?
  • Jenny_Bee
    Jenny_Bee Posts: 102
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    We are here to help, and support you. You can do this. xoxo
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,229 Member
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    Aw! Thank you both so much for the sacrifices you are making for our country. Don't be sad... swing by the gym on the way home and work all those feelings out. That is the best advice I can offer. If you wear yourself out, then maybe you will just go home and sleep.
  • Mrsairforce
    Mrsairforce Posts: 130
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    Girl you can do this!!
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
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    You can do it. You are obviously a strong woman. I'm sure it will be lonely at home, but don't just eat. Here are some things I do to cope: clean, exercise and sometimes I just put in a favorite album and cry along with the sad songs for as long as it takes to get the sad out. I highly recommend the latter, it is good for the soul to get it out. Your heart is always aching, just let it pour out.

    Just remembered there are lots of people who care, and someone special who loves you. You are lucky.
  • Shriffee
    Shriffee Posts: 250 Member
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    Navy? I've been a navy wife for seven years this April. I know how that is, sweetie. My husband was chosen for IA and is leaving for a year in Afghanistan. I always use deployments as motivation to get smokin' for when he returns.
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,849 Member
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    I feel so terrible for service men and women and their families. It truly breaks my heart. Your (future) husband is off doing something that takes great bravery and skills, which many cannot do or do not have. For that I am thankful.

    Now, it is going to take bravery and determination to get to your goal and surprise the heck out of your man. Just keep picturing yourself at your goal weight/ size and you can do it!

    I wish you both the best of luck.

    On a side note, this post has seriously made me tear up. I don't know how you women can be so strong. I don't know what I would do if my fiancé chose to join the military.
  • vinylscratch
    vinylscratch Posts: 218 Member
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    Sending loving vibes to both you & your husband! You can do this. The food won't bring him back any sooner, but throwing yourself into re-shaping you will make the time pass a little easier knowing you're working on something BIG!
  • jenlarz
    jenlarz Posts: 813 Member
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    May God bless you and your fiance while he is gone. I have so much respect for people in the military and their support at home! Best wishes for you to meet your goals and stay on track.
  • ChgingMe
    ChgingMe Posts: 539 Member
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    Aww sweetie I completely understand. My husband deploys end of March for the desert. I've been going through this off and on for about 25 years. Its hard each time he leaves. Once the kids come it is even harder. Hang in there though. How long is he gonna be gone for? Keep reminding yourself that you want him to see that hot body of yours when he finally walks down that pier on his way back to you. Keep that in your mind. Instead of eating try to exercise your time away...

    You can do this.
  • usafbeach
    usafbeach Posts: 147 Member
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    I want him to see the new healthy me and think "DAMN!"

    I know a lot of military wives use the time their husband's are away to get in shape... when you start to miss him, try using those emotions to pump up your workouts and motivate you!
  • oOLiveYourLifeOo
    oOLiveYourLifeOo Posts: 76
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    So I am posting this topic because I watched my fiance walk down the long pier and board his ship. I won't see him until right before our wedding. I keep thinking that after I get home, the house is going to be silent and empty and all I will want to do is raid the cupboards and eat until I feel better..... (that's what I used to do)........ My goal is to lose 20 pounds before our wedding so that I am healthy and look good for when he comes and also look good in my wedding dress. I am just sad and looking for support so that I don't go home and do what I have always done when he leaves........

    I know it's going to be hard but I keep telling myself I can do it.

    Hun, I know how you feel. My fiance left almost a month ago and dropping him off for bag drag was the most difficult day of my life! All I wanted to do the entire drive home was turn around and go back to the base and find him, but I knew I couldn't and I have to be strong. He is a Seabee, so he is the boots on ground type of Sailor and he is currently deployed to Afghanistan for the next 6-7 months. If you need to talk or anything, feel free to message me!
  • ffuunnnnyy__ggiirrll
    ffuunnnnyy__ggiirrll Posts: 431
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  • tootsanderson
    tootsanderson Posts: 1,636 Member
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    my sympathies. my husband left two weeks ago. but this time it's just a TDY for training and not a deployment. he'll be back in march. but he's been to the middle east many times. including leaving when i was six months pregnant TWICE and coming back when our son was five weeks old and our daughter was four months old. so i really do understand your pain. sometimes it sucks to be married to military but you get through somehow. it isn't just for anyone, that's for sure. takes a very strong family.
  • arr0528
    arr0528 Posts: 119 Member
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    I am truly touched by all of your support!!! Thank you so much for your kind words!! I want to be smokin' hot for when he gets back and when I walk down the aisle!!

    He's in the Coast Guard so he leaves a lot more frequently for a few months at a time....... Just when he leaves and I get used to him being gone, he comes home and then when I get used to him being home, he leaves again......... He's doing what he loves though and I am proud of him, I will always be proud to be a military spouse......

    Thank you to the ladies that have replied and are also military spouses. We are the Silent Ranks. Thank you for your spouse and your service.
  • lovinlife71
    lovinlife71 Posts: 230
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    YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!:flowerforyou:
  • richmondcowgirl
    richmondcowgirl Posts: 137 Member
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    As a base brat I totally understand where you are coming from. Majority of my relationships are with military men (mostly navy). Its one of the hardest things to go thru right now but stay on track hun. Ild say use it to push harder. He's out there working hard to make your life better. Work hard to give him something better, a better you, a hotter you, and a healthier you. The transformation you make while he's gone will mean so much to him. Not to mention DO THIS FOR YOU, you now have the time to focus on you. You want to look hot in that dress. Make it happen for You!

    Congrats on finding one of the good guys, do great.
  • KrisLee223
    KrisLee223 Posts: 27 Member
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    My husband deployed in December, and I'm trying to do the same and lose some weight while he is gone. Don't eat!!! It will just make you feel worse after the fact. When I'm craving junk, I try to picture the reunion and how I want to look and FEEL about myself when he comes home. Being smokin hot and FEELING smokin hot is definitely motivation to make it happen!! Good luck to you...try to stay positive and turn this time apart into something good!! YOU CAN DO IT!

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