losing friends over weight loss jealousy?

smilegrandmom

In addition to, or even instead of, "jealousy" she could be feeling defensive. People who know they need to change, but are unwilling to do so, who then see others making the change they need to make, can feel as if they are being accused, even if what is going on has nothing to do with them. It is possible that every time she saw a post about you eating a healthy lunch it was a reminder that she should have as well. As if there was suddenly a competition she was losing, even though it was never your intention for it to be so.

Give her her space. Whether it is jealousy or feeling inadequate, she will either come around or she won't. Don't let her attitude, which is all about her, dampen your hard work and good feelings about the changes you are making.

I like Kim's answer. You know this woman and I don't so you probably have a better handle on how she thinks. I do know, however, that my sister and I are doing this together and we talk about it pretty constantly---for months---and even I am getting tired of hearing about what we are doing! Perhaps it's just getting to be too much for her as well? I don't get the "unfriending you" without talking it out but Kim and I have given a couple of possiblilities that are hopefully more positive than jealousy.

smilegrandmom

Goodness, I didn't realize that this was such an old thread! Sorry! How did it all turn out?