why do people add you but don't even say hi?

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BoxingCoachMo
BoxingCoachMo Posts: 420
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why do people add you but don't even say hi?
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  • onlyrobey1
    onlyrobey1 Posts: 140 Member
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    Well, I don't add people. BUT, I did and it was too much work. I really just want to be focused on my goals. I know sounds terrible right? I don't mind supporting a real friend, but to add people (strangers) just to add them was a little overwhelming for me. I guess I didn't answer your question. That was just my take on things. *shrug*
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    I wonder this all the time.
  • hapoo100
    hapoo100 Posts: 940 Member
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    Im new here so I dont completely understand the etiquette of adding. I guess i should have relied on my own common sense. I will now say hi from now on! being new its awkward to friend people still, i hope to get better. thanks for reminding me to be nicer when adding
  • BoxingCoachMo
    BoxingCoachMo Posts: 420
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    i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?
  • ImSoPerfectlyFlawed
    ImSoPerfectlyFlawed Posts: 127 Member
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    Good question! Delete 'em :wink:
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.
  • Di3012
    Di3012 Posts: 2,250 Member
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    why do people add you but don't even say hi?

    Or those that add you but never say ANYTHING on your profile, no comments of support or congratulations or anything. That one confuses me lol.
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
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    I hate this, and decline them. If they can't be bothered writing hi, then are they going to support me when I submit food\exercise? Lol x
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
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    Why do you accept their friend request if they dont meet your standards?
  • onlyrobey1
    onlyrobey1 Posts: 140 Member
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    Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.

    Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

    ETA: Well you know, for" hundreds" of people. :)
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
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    i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?
    I like something explaining the request.
    Even something like...

    "Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

    I mean something:embarassed:
  • sexyminxinthemaking
    sexyminxinthemaking Posts: 451 Member
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    i always add a message if im adding someone new just to let them no who i am and how much i gotta lose etc its only polite i think x
  • jimasko
    jimasko Posts: 2 Member
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    Its a community , and support and advice is always helpful, and its nice to make good friends.
  • TheNakedHouseWife
    TheNakedHouseWife Posts: 28
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    I add people every once in awhile. And then I get off track of using MFP or I get on quickly to check something and then get off. I do try to leave comments for people.

    By the same token, I don't get upset if people don't leave me comments. But I add people sometimes just to watch them change because they're doing awesome jobs!

    All in all, I'm a horrible social networker, LOL
  • BoxingCoachMo
    BoxingCoachMo Posts: 420
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    maximal.... you added me... but didn';t say hi :-P
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.

    Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

    It is hugely time consuming. I try to open my friend's eating diaries at LEAST once a week, usually more and add something insightful or other comment. I always comment on exercise, too. If you can't do that for me every few weeks, you aren't worth my time.
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
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    Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.

    Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?
    No, high maintenance people who need a WTG, NICE BURN, great job on every little notation need not apply.
    I enjoy one to one interaction through PM or forum banter.
    It's just a preference.
  • BoxingCoachMo
    BoxingCoachMo Posts: 420
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    Maybe I'm nuts, but I also expect a little interaction now and then. Don't bother adding me to your collection of hundreds of friends you never take time to comment on my food or exercise diary. I delete quite frequently.

    Which is exactally why I don't add anyone. Who has time to do that everyday?

    ETA: Well you know, for" hundreds" of people. :)

    well it is a good tool for just measuring what you eat and work off...

    i like the community spirit... but some of these people remind me of people in real life... they just don't make conversation. I do get p!ssed off when i make an effort with someone yet they don't bother with me!
  • loopybec2002
    loopybec2002 Posts: 313 Member
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    i don't mind being added, but would expect a courtesy message saying hi and why someone added me. Would be nice right?
    I like something explaining the request.
    Even something like...

    "Hi, I saw your picture, and you remind me of my best imaginary friend who speaks to me through the heat vent late at night when I am wondering why I was even ever born. BE MY FRIEND!"

    I mean something:embarassed:


    This is my new Hi Message Everyone I add will get this message! It shows I really am Loopy
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
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    Why do you accept their friend request if they dont meet your standards?

    I give people a chance first. Sometimes it can be daunting or weird to say "I saw you on the forum" or "noticed you comment on a mutal friend a lot and have similar goals..."

    I delete within two weeks if I haven't seen them posting a lot or if they haven't managed to comment on me. Like I mentioned earlier, I am on MFP a lot and try to add thoughtful comments on my friends' progress.

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