Re: V-Day. Men, come down off your high horse

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  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I've never been one to expect gifts on valentine's day. My man takes me out for an expensive dinner and we usually have an activity - this year we're going to the zoo since I haven't been in about 18 years - and we just enjoy the day. We treat it more like a second anniversary in the year. And I refuse to wear red on valentine's day. Too cliche, haha!
  • cloud2011
    cloud2011 Posts: 898 Member
    Was your significant other standing over you as you typed that Rock? :)

    Funny!
  • aprilshowers262
    aprilshowers262 Posts: 96 Member
    I've never had a valentines day. *sigh*
  • stewartcarden
    stewartcarden Posts: 126
    Tbh yes it should be celebrated etc , but why should it just be on this one day of the year?

    Why not have a special date night as often as you can?

    Seems silly too sum it all up on one day
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    I've never been one to expect gifts on valentine's day. My man takes me out for an expensive dinner and we usually have an activity - this year we're going to the zoo since I haven't been in about 18 years - and we just enjoy the day. We treat it more like a second anniversary in the year. And I refuse to wear red on valentine's day. Too cliche, haha!

    The only red I am wearing is my manthong.

    And you think I'm joking...
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    You are so awesome!!
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I've never been one to expect gifts on valentine's day. My man takes me out for an expensive dinner and we usually have an activity - this year we're going to the zoo since I haven't been in about 18 years - and we just enjoy the day. We treat it more like a second anniversary in the year. And I refuse to wear red on valentine's day. Too cliche, haha!

    The only red I am wearing is my manthong.

    And you think I'm joking...

    :laugh: No... I know you're not joking. :laugh:
  • YukonJoy
    YukonJoy Posts: 1,279 Member
    Blatant attention seeking post. LOL

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  • NYCDutchess
    NYCDutchess Posts: 622 Member
    Honestly, I don't subscribe to Vday either. When I was younger, I did. But as an adult in a loving relationship I feel it's dumb.
    My dh does give me flowers or some candies just because, but I don't expect anything. I love him and he loves me, everyday.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    Eh, this "holiday" isn't that big of a deal. So what? You do something special on a so-called holiday. Whoopee. We still get Steak and BJ day in March! Just take care of her in February. That's all. Otherwise, you're left with Cheeseburger and HJ day in March.
  • tsherm3850
    tsherm3850 Posts: 353 Member
    Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

    But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

    Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.

    UPONTHISROCK is a very smart man talking....hopefully people are listening. Thanks lovey! <3
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Ah, yes, I wish this were the stance my boyfriend took on V-day. I always hate when people say it's a made up commercial holiday. Last time I checked thanksgiving wasn't exactly a universal holiday either... *sigh* I celebrate v-day, but I refuse to get a gift/cook/bake for a boyfriend who hasn't reciprocated in the past two years that we've been together
    But the pilgrims...and the aliens!
  • sassylilmama
    sassylilmama Posts: 1,493 Member
    Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

    But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

    Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.

    Good point. Personally I don't bother with it either. But if it is important to your SO and you care then why not try a bit? :drinker:
  • Leslye125
    Leslye125 Posts: 242 Member
    Well said. However, for those few women like me that actually can't stand V-day. Men, please pay attention to your sig-other. If we say we don't want anything... That means we REALLY don't want anything. If you can't tell/show me you love me on the 13th and the 15th. No matter what you do or say on the 14th doesn't really mean a hill of beans!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    Blatant attention seeking post. LOL

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    LMAO! Full of asian goodness.
  • brookepenni
    brookepenni Posts: 787 Member
    Exactly!!

    The reason I love Valentines Day - it's a day to celebrate how nice it is being in love! The whole world is in love on VD (except those too stingy and bitter lol) and its just nice!!!!
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    Tbh yes it should be celebrated etc , but why should it just be on this one day of the year?

    Why not have a special date night as often as you can?

    Seems silly too sum it all up on one day

    I agree, it does seem a little silly. My only point is that if SHE doesn't think it's silly, isn't it worth it to do something nice for her?
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    You can celebrate valentines without spending a ton of cash on someone. Sorry. I don't buy into that crap. I can think of a dozen ways to spend a romantic evening without busting my bank account.

    I would never want to be with someone whose scale of how much I loved her was based on how much money I spent on her. I've already rode that ride, I can do without it. If SHE thinks its nice that I spend a ton of money on her, then SHE needs to find a guy with a lot of disposable income or lack of financial responsibilities to do it.

    Valentines, christmas, etc... should not be about stuff. That's the problem with this society. Too much emphasis on stuff and buying and materialism. Give me a dinner with some roses, some wine, mutual rubs, some music and dancing and true genuine affection and that's all I need.
  • slay0r
    slay0r Posts: 669 Member
    I actually love valentines day is that wrong? I love all the gestures and I like buying the gifts and things to see someones happiness, what's wrong with pampering someone for a day? :) I'm sure they try just as hard for the rest of the year! Plus for all the happiness of the day I'm sure most of us have a very mutual evening later on ;)
  • aprilshowers262
    aprilshowers262 Posts: 96 Member
    There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.

    On a side note, its very easy to find a date on Valentines day. Everyone feels lonely when they don't have someone ;)
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    You can celebrate valentines without spending a ton of cash on someone. Sorry. I don't buy into that crap. I can think of a dozen ways to spend a romantic evening without busting my bank account.

    I would never want to be with someone whose scale of how much I loved her was based on how much money I spent on her. I've already rode that ride, I can do without it. If SHE thinks its nice that I spend a ton of money on her, then SHE needs to find a guy with a lot of disposable income or lack of financial responsibilities to do it.

    Valentines, christmas, etc... should not be about stuff. That's the problem with this society. Too much emphasis on stuff and buying and materialism. Give me a dinner with some roses, some wine, mutual rubs, some music and dancing and true genuine affection and that's all I need.

    Agreed. The valentine's day my wife still remembers the most is one when we didn't have much money and I had to get creative.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.

    Being single is a blessing.
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.

    On a side note, its very easy to find a date on Valentines day. Everyone feels lonely when they don't have someone ;)

    lol. That's a horrible reason to want to get with someone.
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    I actually love valentines day is that wrong? I love all the gestures and I like buying the gifts and things to see someones happiness, what's wrong with pampering someone for a day? :) I'm sure they try just as hard for the rest of the year! Plus for all the happiness of the day I'm sure most of us have a very mutual evening later on ;)

    I don't enjoy having to do it on a particular day. But an evening alone, and all that comes with it, is always nice.
  • Avalonis
    Avalonis Posts: 1,540 Member
    There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.

    On a side note, its very easy to find a date on Valentines day. Everyone feels lonely when they don't have someone ;)

    lol. That's a horrible reason to want to get with someone.

    What? No its not. Its not any different than picking up a woman at a wedding. Ya know, they see their friend getting married and so happy, and they start thinking it might be nice to get with a good guy.

    ;)
  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    o.O
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    It's very nice sentiment. The only reason my husband does anything is because it means something to me. Otherwise he thinks it's s ploy to make money. But he does it because I care. Which is sweet.
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    It's very nice sentiment. The only reason my husband does anything is because it means something to me. Otherwise he thinks it's s ploy to make money. But he does it because I care. Which is sweet.
    Translation: ...if he wants to see me naked in this decade...

    jk
  • Alma_Sana
    Alma_Sana Posts: 453 Member
    So sweet! :heart:
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