Re: V-Day. Men, come down off your high horse

UponThisRock

It's very nice sentiment. The only reason my husband does anything is because it means something to me. Otherwise he thinks it's s ploy to make money. But he does it because I care. Which is sweet.

Some people are just selfish, lol.

Which if fine if you're alone. But relationships, especially marriage, has to be about give and take.

flatbellybella

not sure why I found this tread to be sexy lol but very well said

MissO﹠A

Smooth, OP. You get double-points for that.

If your significant other is into it but you aren't, just shut up and do something sweet. It's not that difficult a task, really.

I'm a V-day = meh person. Constantly reminding my husband to *not* buy me anything but we can exchange cards. Which is just my excuse to give him this Oatmeal card:




Far be it from me to want to piss on anyone's parade (piss not rain, ya know). So, here I am making heart-shaped Valentine's Day cookies for my kidlet who is starting to get into Valentine's Day. :grumble:

UsedToBeHusky

I'm just wondering where I can find a man like UponThisRock and Avalonis!

YassSpartan

Blatant attention seeking post. LOL

LOL

Avalonis

I'm just wondering where I can find a man like UponThisRock and Avalonis!

I don't know about Rock, but my rates are $250/hour.

I'm highly talented with my hands, and I can rub like you wouldn't believe.





Your dishes will be SPOTLESS when I am done.

aprilshowers262

There should be a day where people buy things for the singletons in their lives. Couples already get the love and appreciation of someone special. Give your chocolate to the less fortunate.

On a side note, its very easy to find a date on Valentines day. Everyone feels lonely when they don't have someone

lol. That's a horrible reason to want to get with someone.

What? No its not. Its not any different than picking up a woman at a wedding. Ya know, they see their friend getting married and so happy, and they start thinking it might be nice to get with a good guy.

Get with a good guy. Not screw a bad one.

YassSpartan

Well, I actually have a problem with V-Day just as with almost any other holiday.

The idea of picking one day out of 365 (or 366 in this year) to celebrate or do something special for a significant other bothers me beyond comprehension. I was just talking to an online friend about how in this modern times people, both men and women, have lost sense of what we used to be. Now a days the value for simple random surprises are lost in time and people look forward to that specific day to celebrate what should be celebrated everyday of our lives. Creativity is dead and so is appreciation. I guess I don't belong to this planet or present times.

TK266

But I like my High Horse. It is awesome up here. I can look down on everyone and trample the crowd if they get out of hand.

kennethmgreen

Yes, it's a made up holiday. Yes, companies try to get you to spend money (same as any other holiday). Yes, a disproportionate amount of the burden falls on me.

But if you wife or girlfriend enjoys the holiday, and wants you to do something special, is it REALLY that big of a deal? Is it that much of a pain in the behind to get some flowers and candy, do dinner and a movie, or whatever? Do you have to complain every step of the way?

Of course, I'm not talking about all men, but If you don't enjoy doing those kind of things for her, you probably shouldn't be with her anyway.

I don't enjoy being cajoled into doing things for my wife by a holiday, TV commercials or Internet forum posts. I enjoy doing things for my wife because I enjoy the relationship and enjoy making her happy. Sometimes doing something out of the blue has a lot more meaning that doing something on a holiday where it is expected.

Businesses use Valentines Day to prey on people's sense of obligation, guilt and loneliness. That makes lots of money. It's as bad as Christmas.

I agree that if my wife really wanted something special on Valentine's Day, it wouldn't hurt to put in a little effort. Thankfully, we both feel pretty far removed from Valentine's Day as a "special occasion" or reason for gifts. Anniversaries and birthdays are important, however.

I agree with the message I think you intended: Either do something nice and be pleasant about it, or don't do it. If you complain every step of the way, you are cancelling it out.

Avalonis

What? No its not. Its not any different than picking up a woman at a wedding. Ya know, they see their friend getting married and so happy, and they start thinking it might be nice to get with a good guy.

Get with a good guy. Not screw a bad one.

Tomato, tamato.

UponThisRock

I agree with the message I think you intended: Either do something nice and be pleasant about it, or don't do it. If you complain every step of the way, you are cancelling it out.

That's not quite what I was saying. I am saying that even if you don't enjoy it, but your s/o does, it's not going to kill you to put forth the effort. Not doing anything would be far worse, lol.

maidentl

Tbh yes it should be celebrated etc , but why should it just be on this one day of the year?

Why not have a special date night as often as you can?

Seems silly too sum it all up on one day

This is a silly leap of logic. No one is suggesting that you ONLY do things on Valentine's Day.

aprilshowers262

What? No its not. Its not any different than picking up a woman at a wedding. Ya know, they see their friend getting married and so happy, and they start thinking it might be nice to get with a good guy.

Get with a good guy. Not screw a bad one.

Tomato, tamato.

haha, wow. you're a charmer.

Avalonis

What? No its not. Its not any different than picking up a woman at a wedding. Ya know, they see their friend getting married and so happy, and they start thinking it might be nice to get with a good guy.

Get with a good guy. Not screw a bad one.

Tomato, tamato.

haha, wow. you're a charmer.

I give lessons to needy men.