I don't make friends easily...

clydethecat

I have never made friends easily. since i was a child i have been a loner. I've had friends in my life, but it was fleeting and for the most part they were not nice people. I don't currently have any real life friends. my husband has friends in our neighborhood, and their wives are very nice people that i get along with, but we're not what i would call friends.

i think my problem is that i'm not that girly. i don't like talking on the phone for hours, i don't even have a cell phone to text on. i don't like shopping, i hate shoes. the wives of my husbands friends all like to shop and gossip, and that's just not for me.

i tend to be sarcastic. i don't share my feelings easily.

i do listen well. i have great advice if needed, or i just have an ear if someone needs to talk. i do my best to be a good friend when i have the opportunity..

i want to have friends. i want to be useful in the world.. i don't mean to scare people off, i just want to be honest.

if i haven't scared you off, please feel free to add me, i'll do my best to be helpful.

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robot_potato

I added you. I do my best to be positive and supportive, but I am often written off as surly and mean. I'm not exactly sunshine and buttercups, but I am here.

clydethecat

I added you. I do my best to be positive and supportive, but I am often written off as surly and mean. I'm not exactly sunshine and buttercups, but I am here.

i like surly and mean...

thank you for adding me...

lizard053

Well, as long as you're not going to be abusive, I'll add you!

I'm not girly either. I'm a scientist, in a field that's mostly men. I don't do phones. I don't do other females, they tend to piss me off. I can be a good online buddy to anyone who isn't directly nasty to me and those I care about.

Let's do this together!

Libby81

I know the feeling. I've been the same my entire life. My big problem has been lack of self confidence. I mean why would anyone like me if I don't even really feel like I'm worthy of it. When I have had some good friends I've spoilt it by not keeping in touch, well people have their own lives I don't want to intrude and spoilt their plans (self confidence again there I think).

I also don't have any real life friends that I would actually call friends. I have people I get on with at work etc but not a social group

clydethecat

Well, as long as you're not going to be abusive, I'll add you!

I'm not girly either. I'm a scientist, in a field that's mostly men. I don't do phones. I don't do other females, they tend to piss me off. I can be a good online buddy to anyone who isn't directly nasty to me and those I care about.

Let's do this together!

thank you so much for adding me.. i'm not abusive at all... i promise

pinuplove

I can somewhat relate. I'm not a 'people person' at all! Sometimes people just flat out annoy me. I've learned that I need a LOT of alone time to fortify myself for socializing. That's why I love the internet! I can shut it down and walk away whenever I want to. In real life I'm very quiet, and have often been accused of being aloof and stuck up when in reality I'm just shy and not happy in the spotlight. I have lots of friends who live in my computer, though :drinker:

clydethecat

I know the feeling. I've been the same my entire life. My big problem has been lack of self confidence. I mean why would anyone like me if I don't even really feel like I'm worthy of it. When I have had some good friends I've spoilt it by not keeping in touch, well people have their own lives I don't want to intrude and spoilt their plans (self confidence again there I think).

I also don't have any real life friends that I would actually call friends. I have people I get on with at work etc but not a social group

thats me in a nut shell... i'm glad to meet like minded people... thank you for your message

lizard053

I think we'll get along fine!

clydethecat

I can somewhat relate. I'm not a 'people person' at all! Sometimes people just flat out annoy me. I've learned that I need a LOT of alone time to fortify myself for socializing. That's why I love the internet! I can shut it down and walk away whenever I want to. In real life I'm very quiet, and have often been accused of being aloof and stuck up when in reality I'm just shy and not happy in the spotlight. I have lots of friends who live in my computer, though :drinker:

yes, the internet is awesome for people like us.. its a closeness i can feel ok about.. real life i'm jsut too awkward

thank you for your post

heyghoge

another introvert here, feel free to add me. i could have written your post myself - sans the spouse, i'm too prickly for that, even. the nice thing about the internet is that it's easier to find people with similar interests and share the thoughts in our heads without the excruciating embarrassment!

clydethecat

another introvert here, feel free to add me. i could have written your post myself - sans the spouse, i'm too prickly for that, even. the nice thing about the internet is that it's easier to find people with similar interests and share the thoughts in our heads without the excruciating embarrassment!

thank you for your post.. i really appreciate this site because there are so many different type, nice to see so many like me

PinkEarthMama

Feel free to add me.

I'm bubbly and outgoing, and will draw you out of your shell. I'm also super supportive, and I give back as much as I get or more. I like surly, mean, introverted people. Just ask my husband. Or my pregnant best friend

clydethecat

Feel free to add me.

I'm bubbly and outgoing, and will draw you out of your shell. I'm also super supportive, and I give back as much as I get or more. I like surly, mean, introverted people. Just ask my husband. Or my pregnant best friend

thank you so much for your message.. i need more out going people in my life

LadyBuell

I'm sorry but I don't remember changing my user name. Who hacked my account? LOL This whole post could have been written by me as well as all of the responses.

I don't have very many real-life friends either and I honestly don't feel like I have any real on-line friends either. I post on a lot of forums and I can say that if I stop posting, if anybody notices, they don't say. I did an experiment once. I logged in anonymously for a month so no one knew I was on-line just to see if anybody missed me. They didn't and got mad when I was upset about it. I quite posting there.

The few friends I do have are good ones. My best friend from high school and currently the admin at my job. My best friend called the sheriff once because she couldn't get a hold of me. I don't know how close Jayfish and I would be if one of us were to stop working here but for now, she is my friend.

I'll add you and hopefully we can chat some.

clydethecat

I'm sorry but I don't remember changing my user name. Who hacked my account? LOL This whole post could have been written by me as well as all of the responses.

I don't have very many real-life friends either and I honestly don't feel like I have any real on-line friends either. I post on a lot of forums and I can say that if I stop posting, if anybody notices, they don't say. I did an experiment once. I logged in anonymously for a month so no one knew I was on-line just to see if anybody missed me. They didn't and got mad when I was upset about it. I quite posting there.

The few friends I do have are good ones. My best friend from high school and currently the admin at my job. My best friend called the sheriff once because she couldn't get a hold of me. I don't know how close Jayfish and I would be if one of us were to stop working here but for now, she is my friend.

I'll add you and hopefully we can chat some.

thank you so much for you message, i'm so overwhelmed by how nice everyone is being.. i had a lot of anxiety about posting this by i'm so happy i did... i will be a good friend.. i'm on here a lot... so feel free to talk to me any time

DiamondEyes_x

I don't have many friends either so feel free to add me! I'm just super shy haha!

Woz76

My wife calls me a grumpy s**t. However, I'm not quite that bad!

Please feel free to add me if you want to.

Captain_Mal

Wow, I could have written most of what you did for myself. I too, loathe shopping in general. I get what I need or want and get out. I'd much prefer to be spending my time outdoors hiking or camping, taking pictures. I hate talking on the phone, always have but I do text a lot. When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

No worries, I don't have any either. I did have a few in Georgia but then I moved halfway across the country and have none.
I do have my family and there's not tons of time to spend with friends at this time in my life so I'm sometimes glad I don't really have any. I too think it's my blatant honesty that rubs people the wrong way but I'm not changing that.

You're obviously not alone in the no friend category so you can smile about that at least.

weightloss43154

just sent you a friends request

Anayalata

I guess I can relate since I'm pretty much the same, but I'm a guy. Don't know if that disqualifies me -_-

Survivor1997

Hey...you got a kitteh picture on your profile! You're a bit like me, it seems.

Don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure you have many great qualities that would make you a good friend to have.

mnishi

request sent

clydethecat

Wow, I could have written most of what you did for myself. I too, loathe shopping in general. I get what I need or want and get out. I'd much prefer to be spending my time outdoors hiking or camping, taking pictures. I hate talking on the phone, always have but I do text a lot. When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

No worries, I don't have any either. I did have a few in Georgia but then I moved halfway across the country and have none.
I do have my family and there's not tons of time to spend with friends at this time in my life so I'm sometimes glad I don't really have any. I too think it's my blatant honesty that rubs people the wrong way but I'm not changing that.

You're obviously not alone in the no friend category so you can smile about that at least.

thank you so much for your kind words.. i'm amazed at how many people are like me my family is totally my support as well.. my mom is for lack of a better word, my best friend.. and my husband.. hes my true best friend..

loombeav

I kept thinking as I was reading through this thread that I needed to quote the poster, but I would have ended up quoting most of the posts. I've been accused of being stuck up and stand offish. I'm really not either of these, I just do not feel comfortable around people I don't know well or in large crowds. I have 3 women that I consider friends, everyone else in my life are just acquaintances. Like others have posted I do not like to spend hours on the phone talking (I honestly don't like spending mins on it) & have lost friends because I'm awful at keeping in touch, I always feel like I'm interrupting or intruding. Feel free to add me, I try to be supportive and encouraging, but even on here I don't keep in touch like some like.

picassoadagio

sent you a request. I'm the same way, don't feel bad. it took guts for me to sign up to use this site for fear of being judged.

clydethecat

I kept thinking as I was reading through this thread that I needed to quote the poster, but I would have ended up quoting most of the posts. I've been accused of being stuck up and stand offish. I'm really not either of these, I just do not feel comfortable around people I don't know well or in large crowds. I have 3 women that I consider friends, everyone else in my life are just acquaintances. Like others have posted I do not like to spend hours on the phone talking (I honestly don't like spending mins on it) & have lost friends because I'm awful at keeping in touch, I always feel like I'm interrupting or intruding. Feel free to add me, I try to be supportive and encouraging, but even on here I don't keep in touch like some like.

i feel the same way.. i'm just not comfortable around people i dont know, and thankfully i'm not in a position where i have to deal with a lot of strangers... i get the stuck up thing all the time... i'm happy to have more people like me as friends.. thank you so much for your post

heyghoge

When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

gah yes this! i can babble on the internet, but irl small talk is painful.

TeutonicKnight

I like tuxedo cats, bacon, and walks in the park. I do not like cheese or cockroaches. Can we be friends?

clydethecat

I like tuxedo cats, bacon, and walks in the park. I do not like cheese or cockroaches. Can we be friends?

other than the cheese, i think we'll be very good friends

gildinha

sent you a request ... and by the way, you're not alone ... I felt you were talking about me in your description ...