I don't make friends easily...

frosty73

I think this fits me pretty well, too. I'm a total introvert and I can pretend to be extroverted for short periods of time (and I love it!) but then I need time to regroup. And I just feel like nobody would really notice if I disappeared, except for my spouse and *possibly* my kids. Oh and definitely my dogs! :^) Feel free to friend me, anyone!
~Jess

jojopel

Yep - so many descriptions here fit me as well. Feel free to add me.

Brandie1029

You can add me! I LOVE to make new friends (even if it's on the internet). I too am not a girly girl, but I am a nerdy librarian! :laugh:

sarah_ep

When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

gah yes this! i can babble on the internet, but irl small talk is painful.

This is my biggest battle. How can you even initiate conversation to make new friends without small talk (which I suck at)? So I try to make up for it and end up rambling about silly things, interrupt, and probably come across as rude. :embarassed:

mmsilvia

Please feel free to add me. As I think I am your twin. My cat even looks just like yours.

ReclaimingSarah

I just sent you a request. I, too, have a hard time making friends. I have a few friends that I've known for over a decade or so, but they probably consider me a horrible friend most of the time. Since starting a job in a male dominated field a few years ago, I've become less & less of a talker, which usually makes me not want to spend time on the phone talking about every detail of our lives, especially when a personal drama is going on. So, yes, I'm a horrible friend, but a pretty decent cheerleader for when you need one!

BrendaLee

Did I write this, because it definitely sounds like me. Here's to getting fit, happy and...maybe making some friends.

cookieta76

BUMP!

Even though we're not talking much about health/fitness (yet) this has been one of my favorite threads on MFP!

Linalaila

I'm a total introvert and I can pretend to be extroverted for short periods of time (and I love it!) but then I need time to regroup.

Ohh Im the same in that regard:)

becjerami

I can count my real friends on one hand. Unfortunately none of them live in the same country as me! I don't have any real friends where I live (apart from my husband), and I've been here for about 10 years. Sometimes I think I'm just too picky. I find a lot of people just too frivolous for me, and that bores me. At other times when I meet people I do like I feel that I don't have anything to offer, although my rational mind knows that's not true. I'm a very good friend to the few people I care about. I don't really do chit chat. I'd rather talk about something important. At work people who don't know me very well (because I don't want them to!) think I'm frosty, but that's just because I like to be left alone.

Sometimes, although I like to have a lot of time to myself, I do get lonely. I look at people with lots of friends and wonder how they do it!

Funnily enough, I like the sound of the people on this post - feel free to add me!

ADM1979

I am like you. I don't have many "girlfriend" because I could careless about gossiping and shopping. In fact, I HATE to shop. Always have. I can count my closest friends on one hand. And I am okay with that. However, I don't think it matter the number of friends you have. I think it matters about how close you are to that person.

I think we could be great friends!!

P.S. I don't even have conversations with a lot of the ladies I work with b/c we do not have cable tv. I don't have the time to sit and watch it so why pay for it. I like to fish, garden, and cook and these ladies I work with think I am crazy.

dandelion39

OP, I sent you an add request.

All the posts in this thread hit home. I'm friendly, get along with people well...but somehow it just never gets deeper than that. I think because of long-lived self-confidence issues. Blah.

Anyway, other than my husband, who's my absolute best friend, I have maybe one good friend (and I say maybe because even she's mostly my husband's friend). It bothers me...sort of. But most of the time I'm too busy to worry about it. And I do have friendly acquaintances at work, etc., so it sort feels like having friends. Gosh, that sounds pathetic!

I'm much better at being an online friend! Feel free to add me

sarah_ep

Sometimes, although I like to have a lot of time to myself, I do get lonely. I look at people with lots of friends and wonder how they do it!

Funnily enough, I like the sound of the people on this post - feel free to add me!

Me too!

MystiqueASAP

I have added you.

Although I do like shopping somewhat, I can relate. I tend to be a introvert/loner and don't like talking on the phone as well; I would rather text or email occasionally. I'm trying to break out of my shell by being on some MBs; although I don't care for FB.

ADM1979

maybe, since we are all feeling the same, we should have on own group . . .

clydethecat

i'm sorry i wasnt able to respond to each of you.. this has been an overwhelming experience and i'm so happy i posted this. i absolutely appreciate everyone who friended me, and everyone who accepted my friend request.

i had some anxiety in even posting this. and i'm so glad i did...

thank you to everyone ...

clydethecat

maybe, since we are all feeling the same, we should have on own group . . .

that would be awesome..

MMarvelous

LOL At first I thought you were talking about me until you said HUSBAND (Im single) and doesn't like to shop (recovering shoe-a-holic)! I have way more associates than real friends. Feel free to add me LOL

mjc65

Sometimes people who are introverted can appear extroverted and I find it better to be surrounded by fewer people who understand you rather than many people who "collect" you

ADM1979

You can add me! I LOVE to make new friends (even if it's on the internet). I too am not a girly girl, but I am a nerdy librarian! :laugh:

I have a nerd hidden deep inside me. Can you suggest any good books? I like series, mystery, and romance.

Behavior_Modification

Me either.

And I love cats!!!

We are a perfect match for each other :flowerforyou:

gazerofthestars

I am like you OP.. well a male version anyway! throughout my teens I found it difficult to make friends. maybe it was because of my obesity... certain people see you differently and tend to shut you out. I don't have any problems getting along with anyone after a while of knowing them though )

kirstand

omg! some of this is me!! except i do have a cell phone that i can text on, lol!

heyghoge

When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

gah yes this! i can babble on the internet, but irl small talk is painful.

This is my biggest battle. How can you even initiate conversation to make new friends without small talk (which I suck at)? So I try to make up for it and end up rambling about silly things, interrupt, and probably come across as rude. :embarassed:

i feel like there's some magic grown-up pill i have yet to have taken that enables a person to talk to strangers without seeming like a babbling idiot. so far, no luck! this is probably because of the lack of macros and internet memes in real life. for example, your avatar. hello, ryan gosling meme! see, this is the crap i find amusing... and that has absolutely no utility irl :embarassed:

gazerofthestars

When it comes to conversation, I would rather not participate in chit chat or gossip. I like to have a point to the conversation and when it's done, it's done.

gah yes this! i can babble on the internet, but irl small talk is painful.

This times a 10000.

maybe, since we are all feeling the same, we should have on own group . . .

Agreed.

mjc65

omg! some of this is me!! except i do have a cell phone that i can text on, lol!

Except then you get people who want you to send texts all the time and will start to take a non-reply as some personal insult

Brandie1029

Whatcha like? I'm huge into PARANORMAL ROMANCE. My favorite authors are J.R Ward (The Blackdagger Brotherhood) and Kresley Cole (The Immortals after dark). Each time I have reccommended these to patrons they have come back begging me to find them more books. LOL Some other good series are: The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series by Steig Larsson , The Hunger Games By Suzzanne Collins, The Janet Evanovich Books, Gah.....there are soooo many.

recec

Lol, that was so cute!

meanness67

So many of these posts could have been written by me. Anyone on this post can add me as a friend!

vestarocks

I'm an outgoing introvert if that makes any sense. I speak sarcasm fluently. Was a girly girl but then I birthed two boys and my pink has faded. I love shoes but they hurt my feet. Hate shopping (mostly because I'm broke and too big for normal stores). Hate talking on the phone and love the internet. I have a high need for quiet and time alone. My friends and family are my wealth in life.

Feel free to add me if you want a little bit of both worlds.