How do you deal with saboteurs ?

Ddmck1

So I've been enjoying a nice long streak on the bandwagon and feeling good. My mother who is doing this with me just bought me a full size BAG of Dove Dark Chocolates for Valentines Day.... Knowing full well that chocolate is my ultimate kryptonite (especially Dove Dark Chocolate *drool*). Also I told her I was going sugar free for 6 weeks.

It doesn't really bother me when people eat junk food around me. But this was given directly TO me... and by a person that is supposed to be my diet buddy!!

SO.... my question is.... do people give you food or treats? If so how do you handle it?

To my credit the bag is still unopened... I'm not opening that pandoras box!

Update: It's also worth mentioning that she bought herself a bag as well. The thought was nice but I can't help feeling like she did it so she didn't have to feel bad.

H_Factor

early in my journey, I told friends, family and co-workers exactly how each of them could help me....things they could do (like ask me if I really wanted a particular food item when ordering out...if it was an unhealthy choice)...and things they should not do (like bring over some dang cape cod potato chips). Here's my suggestion to help send the message to your mom....throw the bag in the trash in her presence. She will get the hint that the two of you are on a journey and don't need that sort of temptation around. (and, yes, I have thrown food out while on this journey)

2012asv

Obviously that is part of you challenge, but personally i would give it away. Candy disappears in my office within minutes!

rileysowner

First of all it is not Sabotage, it is her showing her love to you. The only difficulty with chocolate is if you eat the whole bag. Take a few pieces, and give the rest away. Just log them.

jiggy_gibby

Throw it away!! Or give it right back to mom.... Say, thanks for thinking of me .... it was really sweet.... but I am making a choice to stay sugar free right now!

sweetNsassy2584

Dark chocolate is good for you.. Freeze it and when you're done with being (sugar free) enjoy a piece every now and then. Temptation is everywhere. A lot of people offer me things all the time and I politely decline.

MalibuBeth

She's your mother, i think she just wanted to give you a valentine's treat, maybe you deserve it after all your hard work together. It's your choice what to do with the chocolate.

LorinaLynn

I'm not one to deny myself anything I love, but if I were doing some kind of "no ____ for six weeks" challenge, I'd just stick them in a drawer or in the freezer for 6 weeks.

Acg67

You do understand that when you say sabotage you're implying she is purposely trying to derail your diet vs you know being nice and giving you something.


How's avoiding all fruits and veggies going on your no sugar pledge?

sarahgilmore

It's not sabotage! She is trying to be nice and give you something she knows you love.

A little bit of chocolate over the course of time is fine. It's only if you can't control yourself and piggy the whole lot at once that it's gonna be bad for you.
And it's hardly anyone's fault but your own if that happens.

What would I do? Say thank you and appreciate the gesture for what it actually is.
Then, I probably would demolish it quickly cos that's just me, but I certainly wouldn't try and blame someone else.

taso42

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/490230-the-burden-is-on-you

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Rae6503

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/LabRat529/view/sabotage-211680

FitN50s

It's not sabotage! She is trying to be nice and give you something she knows you love.

A little bit of chocolate over the course of time is fine. It's only if you can't control yourself and piggy the whole lot at once that it's gonna be bad for you.
And it's hardly anyone's fault but your own if that happens.

What would I do? Say thank you and appreciate the gesture for what it actually is.
Then, I probably would demolish it quickly cos that's just me, but I certainly wouldn't try and blame someone else.

No one is trying to sabotage you. Offering food is one way we as humans show love. You can choose how much, if any, you choose to eat. Don't spend your time looking around every corner for an excuse to fail or someone to blame it on. Our choices are our own.

The blog link by the above poster is a great read, I highly recommend it.

myak623

So I've been enjoying a nice long streak on the bandwagon and feeling good. My mother who is doing this with me just bought me a full size BAG of Dove Dark Chocolates for Valentines Day.... Knowing full well that chocolate is my ultimate kryptonite (especially Dove Dark Chocolate *drool*). Also I told her I was going sugar free for 6 weeks.

It doesn't really bother me when people eat junk food around me. But this was given directly TO me... and by a person that is supposed to be my diet buddy!!

SO.... my question is.... do people give you food or treats? If so how do you handle it?

To my credit the bag is still unopened... I'm not opening that pandoras box!

I typically handle it by opening the bag and enjoying a yummy treat or two. Then I log it and stay within my limits for the day. Freeze the rest of the bag for later yummy treats.

Sl1ghtly

Mines in the wire, attack dogs, and shotguns.

MrDude_1

I never realized how much candy people gave me until I stopped eating it.

If it was me, id throw it on top of the fridge, with the other 4 bags of candy that are up there... at the next party/holiday/gathering at my house, it gets dumped into a serving bowl and put out.
after the party, whatevers left in the bowl goes in the trash.. I cant leave it out, because I dont want the dogs to eat it. .. not because im worried that I would eat it.

WickedMouse

Kindly say, "No Thank you, I am sticking to my healthy changes, then ask if she is going to log it"

onedayillbamilf

First of all, dark chocolate in moderation won't hurt you. They say it has antioxidants or something in it, I really don't know and I really don't care, I eat it because I like it. Second, if you take out one piece, eat it, savor it, then put the bag out of view (top shelf of cabinet, drawer you rarely open, etc.) you will be fine. Just take out a piece or two when you want chocolate. Really, it's not that hard. I promise. We keep a ton of chocolate in the house, I used to be the type that would sit down and binge on chocolate on a regular basis, but now I might have one piece a week. There's nothing wrong with eating chocolate now and then.....just don't eat 5,000 calories worth in one sitting. And last, she's not trying to sabotage you. She's feeling obligated to buy you something because this is such a commercialized day and she loves you.

IronmanPanda

I learned everything I need to know from Berry Gordy's The Last Dragon.

bahacca

I cannot have stuff like that in my house. I have 2 trader Joes bars of 85% dark chocolate, but I can only eat like 2 squares at once, so no biggie. My husbands grandma bought a HUGE chocolate cake over a few weeks ago to my MILs house. I had a piece there. I took a HUGE tupperware container home of it and promptly put it in the trash. I would have eaten all of it had it stayed. My husband says "Have some self control" to which I say "It has taken me 33 years to figure out I HAVE NONE, so I'm better off not having that temptation around in the first place."

infamousmk

Have you checked her text messages? Maybe she's jealous, too.

hsmithway

First of all it is not Sabotage, it is her showing her love to you. The only difficulty with chocolate is if you eat the whole bag. Take a few pieces, and give the rest away. Just log them.

Yep. My husband complains about his chub, but I bought him a bag of his favorite cookies today. And steak. Because I love him, and he's not really a flowers/stuffed critter/etc type.

It may be frustrating, but your mom is trying to give you something that she thinks will bring you pleasure. Like when my mom gives me pink button-down shirts. I don't like pink, and I have a connective tissue disorder that makes buttons difficult for me, but she's not trying to give me a slap in the face about my uncooperative fingers. She just doesn't get it. But it's the thought that counts, right? And what she's thinking is that she cares about you.

Or she could be totally dysfunctional and actually trying to sabotage you out of some sort of jealousy and angst about her lost figure and youth. But barring any other evidence of that I'm inclined to giver her the benefit of the doubt and assume she was just trying to be nice.

So anyhow, as previous posters have mentioned, you can give it away, freeze it, hide it, and eat it in moderation or not at all. Or even stuff it all in your face and start fresh again tomorrow.

I wouldn't recommend the last option. Not only will you blow your calorie goal, but that much chocolate will also make you really constipated.

And as far as your mom goes, you can either take it as a sign of affection, thank her, and ditch the gift when she's not looking. Or you can tell her that you're pleased that she cares about you and you know she meant well, but you would really prefer that she show her affection with non-food gifts.

JennieAL

Life would surely be bland without all those evil saboteurs (er, friends) in our lives. :huh:

PlanetVelma

Don't throw it away, if you really are THAT tempted by it, give the bag to an organization that sends candy to our troops overseas.

mideon_696

It really is amazing how quickly choccy's and candy dissapear around here. Biscuits too...

Seriously, i could leave said foods on the board room table, open them and sneak away...
come back in 30 minutes and they will have been taken. All of them, lol.]]

I'm silently sure thats it the IT guys. But thats how i dispose of unwanted treats.
Mind you, i'll eat some of it, and just fit it into my day.

SergeantSunshine_reused

She is not sabotaging you at all. She is giving you a treat on love day that she knows you enjoy and worked hard for

Nothing wrong with chocolate. Remember losing weight is supposed to improve quality of life - not take away from it.

pastryari

You do understand that when you say sabotage you're implying she is purposely trying to derail your diet vs you know being nice and giving you something.


How's avoiding all fruits and veggies going on your no sugar pledge?

^This.

SassyCalyGirl

nope they bet my 4 inch heel right up the kazoo

sc1572

Oh, I feel you...family and friends are the WORST! So many of mine try to force me to have stuff when I don't want, or need it, and love it when I give in. If they make you something and you can't avoid it, have a little bit. This past weekend my parents ordered gelato while we were out to eat as a surprise for me, so I had a small serving. Or, if you're at someone's house and they serve dessert, sometimes it's impolite to refuse, so just take a small sample. However, in situations where I am given something or mailed something, like candy or cookies from my mom or friends, I either give them all away, or, keep a few for myself and give the rest away. With me, if I keep it all, I WILL eat it all.

RonneyMichelle

I agree with having a few here and there. Are you dieting or are you making a lifestyle change that involves losing weight and keeping it off? Are you never going to eat chocolate again?

Popcorn is my thing. I love popcorn. Especially Pop Secret Homestyle Popcorn. Before my lifestyle change a month ago, hubby and I ate it 5 out 7 nights a week. Bad Bad Bad. Moderation is key. I have had it one night since my lifestyle change on Jan. 5th. I will have it again. But not nightly again like that.

Honestly, it doesn't matter what anyone gives you.. you are in control of if you eat it and how much you eat it. Part of this should be learning moderation, portion control, self control, not denying yourself things you enjoy. You are sure to fail if you do that.