How do you deal with saboteurs ?

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  • becoming_a_new_me
    becoming_a_new_me Posts: 1,860 Member
    Say thank you then put them in the freezer and eat one at a time. If you can't do that, say thank you then secretly re-gift to someone else and tell her you love her.
  • Ddmck1
    Ddmck1 Posts: 89 Member


    How's avoiding all fruits and veggies going on your no sugar pledge?

    Obviously I don't mean natural sugars. I meant refined sugar and high fructose corn syrup.... simple carbs.
  • niicolemariies
    niicolemariies Posts: 55 Member
    A lot of my friends, family, and colleagues have been extremely supportive of my weight loss goals. They always offer me food and treats and I usually decline very kindly and they don't get offended. But usually, if they're treats, I save them for my cheat days or eat it and substitute it for something else I had planned to eat in the day.
  • 1Timothy4v8
    1Timothy4v8 Posts: 503 Member
    Yes my husband is doing this and it drives me nutt's!

    mind you he hates sugary things, but for some reason he keeps bringing home goodies every other day, over the weekend he bought girl scout cookies, and yesterday he bouhgt me cholates, he has never done that before every other year he bought me flowers,

    I think in his kind hearted way he is treating me cause all the work I've done so far, cause he doesn't know how it is to have no self control with food bless his heart
  • FitN50s
    FitN50s Posts: 179 Member
    Oh, I feel you...family and friends are the WORST! So many of mine try to force me to have stuff when I don't want, or need it, and love it when I give in.

    Thank heaven my friends and family only offer me food out of love and habit. I can't imagine how much harder this would be if everyone in my life were plotting against me and working together to engineer my failure. I shudder to think of the horror and pain I would feel as they all amassed to force crappy food down my throat against my will. Then to have them gloat over my failure and their success at causing my downfall! I think I would have to declare myself a voluntary orphan if that is the type of family I had.
  • Shutupndance
    Shutupndance Posts: 8
    I think it's a little unfair for people to be telling you if it IS or ISN'T sabotage. Only your mom knows that for sure.
    If you're anything like me and can't handle the temptation, I would give it away in any way/shape/form. People are acting like it's the last bag of Dove chocolates in the universe! After your six week challenge, you can always buy another bag...if you WANT to.
    I would try not to dwell on why she did it, what to do with it, etc. for too long. You'll encounter lots of obstacles, and this is just minor.
    You'll figure out what's best :) Good luck!
  • Shutupndance
    Shutupndance Posts: 8
    I am really disappointed with how sarcastic people are being on here. I've just really joined, and it's discouraging to see people either not taking her seriously, judging her question, or telling her to just have some self control. I have been a member of Sparkpeople for two years and never once had someone leave such disrespectful, sarcastic comments on my posts or blogs.

    Most likely, her mother was just trying to do something nice on Valentine's Day, but none of US know that. She is not asking if we all THINK her mother is trying to sabotage her. She is asking, how do we deal with saboteurs?

    Also, she is DOING A CHALLENGE. That doesn't mean she's giving up chocolate for the rest of her life. It just means she's challenging herself. Maybe jump starting her weight loss. People do it all the time. Yes, dark chocolate can be good for you. And no, not everyone can have it in the house and "just take a few pieces then put it back."
    It's really disappointing to see how UNSUPPORTIVE people are being on here. If you refuse to answer her question respectfully, why not pass it by?
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