Feeling like a horrible person.

jetscreaminagain

Find something else to talk about. Then apologize. Then shut up about your weight loss.

The apology and the different behavior combined will give these folks evidence that this period of self absorption that has annoyed them was just a momentary blip and you're back to being a regular person with a full life with varied interests who cares what is going on in others' lives.

suelegal

Invite her to lunch and explain that it was never your intention to hurt her....
that way you have 'extended the olive branch'....next move is hers...
but
do NOT apologize for who you are and what you have done for yourself...just let her know that you are sorry she felt hurt by it.

*harsh warning*
I had MANY more friends as the chubby girl...as I am losing weight, I am losing friends...b/c many of my friends were 'sad' like I was.
~misery loves company~
I had to fight to keep my new, healthier identity through a very tricky guilt trips and attitudes obstacle course....remember..this is about you....

I got the way I WAS being more concerned about what everyone else thought...
I got the way I AM putting myself first...

just sayin'

just agreein! I might add that she's not much of a friend if she's stepping back instead of cheering you on!

chelsey202

Wow. You sound like a very sweet, caring, slightly obsessive person . She sounds like a, for lack of a more fitting phrase, complete jealous b**** (sorry, calling it like I see it). You've done nothing wrong, nothing malicious, in fact, you've done something incredible that you should be very, very proud of. For your own health, yes, maybe you shouldn't be as obsessive and constantly talk about health and weight loss (though I can see why, I would too if I had accomplished what you have). The goals you have are certainly something to be excited about and talked about- you should never feel bad for having dreams or wanting to share them with others.

But as for dealing with the situation, if I were in your place, I would try to include her in what you love and try to re-bond through it. Ask her to go for a walk or to the gym with you. I feel like it's almost degrading to her to take her to lunch and apologize for your weight loss; I'm willing to bet she knows deep down she has no right to be mad or feel hurt, and while those feelings are nonetheless valid, you didn't cause them; she did. Who knows, maybe you'll motivate her to do as well as you have, and have a "buddy" to accomplish those goals with. If she rejects it, do you really want someone who gets hurt when you're successful in your life?