Difference in how you are treated

drich1989

I believe this is 100% true! It amazes me, and actually makes me a little sad.
When I am at my best weight, people are insanely nice to me. Way more people talk to me in class, guys constantly open doors for me and flirt and I'm given chances I wouldn't normally be given. When Im at my highest weight (right now), no one even looks twice at me. People barely talk to me and no attention is given.

Its difficult to deal with, but I will admit I'm guilty of the same thing. Overweight people get the "lazy" title and seems like they lack self control. Have been on the skinny and the fat side of life, I can say that its not right, or fair to treat people differently.

gashinshotan

What's even worst is that fat people (especially guys) view other fat people the same way a lot of the times

NewLIFEstyle4ME

Do you ever find that there is a general difference in how people treat you from your highest weight to your lowest (such as job interviews, or in a store)? I don't know if it is in my head but I really feel that people have been nicer and wanting to chat to me now then at my highest, 40 lbs ago.

Any thoughts?

No, actually I find it utterly amazing that people are ALWAYS smiling at me (men and especially other women) and speaking and saying "hi' to me all the time--constantly, no matter where I go--I most always get "preferential" treatment and treated very well all the time now that I'm FAT.

I'm not sure if it's because i'm a "confident" person--I am an outgoing person and rather bubbly most times--but no, people/strangers treat me really friendly all the time. The more i think of it though...when I was really stick skinny--guys would speak to me and smile at me FAR MORE than women. Women weren't friendly to me as they are now, so...go figure!

kunibob

When I got heavy, people used to avoid eye contact, which was hard for me, because I like to smile at strangers. I think the increase in people hitting on me is from my increased confidence, but I think there's more to it, because in general people will make eye contact with me and return my smiles or random small talk, while they wouldn't even meet my gaze before.

SammyPacks

Yeah... there's a HUGE difference. People think I look friendly than I did when I was fat (guess I gave off the bully vibe?) where as I'm really shy and am not use to people coming up and just sparking conversation. The flirting is weird too and I'm in a relationship and don't know how to handle it besides saying thank you and leaving it at that. Stalkers. Stalkers kinda started too.

grrrlface

I have definately noticed the difference! Being quite a shy person as well it's helped me come out of my shell more!

Also had some guys wanting me to dance at a gig a couple of weeks ago, that never used to happen!

I also noticed my overweight friends treat me different, one especially said what I was doing wasn't healthy and I should put my weight back on!!! No thanks!!

mabug01

Absolutely true. People seem to trust me more. And, having been up and down in weight several times, I definitely see it. It has nothing to do with confidence, IMO.

77tes

I feel like people are more protective of me since I now look petite. It feels like people suddenly think I'm helpless when I'm really stronger. :huh:

HonkyTonks

Do you ever find that there is a general difference in how people treat you from your highest weight to your lowest (such as job interviews, or in a store)? I don't know if it is in my head but I really feel that people have been nicer and wanting to chat to me now then at my highest, 40 lbs ago.

Any thoughts?

Yes. Losing weight made things easier. People want to be your friend. Jobs are easier to obtain. You don't get ignored when you are waiting to be served, etc. etc.