Love Question

i_love_vinegar

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

189andFalling

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

Ticket to Thailand to find a different girl every night who would 'love me long time' .

runnercheryl

I wouldn't change anything. If my fiancé was still in love with me now, I'd treasure the moments until that ended. It's already too late - whenever the relationship ended up falling to pieces it would hurt just the same.

I didn't plan to fall in love. I didn't go out looking for love. I enjoyed being single and I had big plans to buy an apartment when I left university and to foster children. That's one path, and still open for the future if anything happens, but I did fall in love and of course that changes everything. Now I rent a house, I'm getting married next year then I'll be having my own children ideally. Maybe later in life I'll end up living that single lifestyle again, but this one's perfect and I'd hold on to love for as long as I could.

/soppy rubbish

neverstray

I'm already there. I dunno. You go forward in this stupid life doing the best you can knowing that the only reason you are alive is to provide for your children and when they no longer need you, you'll just slither away into a dark bar everyday dying a slow death of misery.

Mango3311

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Ticket to Thailand to find a different girl every night who would 'love me long time' .
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Ahahahaha!!

i_love_vinegar

I'm already there. I dunno. You go forward in this stupid life doing the best you can knowing that the only reason you are alive is to provide for your children and when they no longer need you, you'll just slither away into a dark bar everyday dying a slow death of misery.

:frown: :noway: You seem like a nice guy. Hopefully this question will bring up more alternatives.

So far we have banging it up in Bangkok and fostering children as options. Thanks for the answers so far everyone!

HeidiRene

In that situation I would treasure my friendships and have lots of fun sex with charming people. It wouldn't be so bad.

pa_jorg

This doesn't seem hypothetical, it feels like my current life...boo :frown:

EmCarroll1990

I wouldn't change anything. If my fiancé was still in love with me now, I'd treasure the moments until that ended. It's already too late - whenever the relationship ended up falling to pieces it would hurt just the same.

This.

neverstray

Nah, when my usefullness as a provider is completed, that's it for me. Nothing else for me to do. plus, I like drinking.

Libby81

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

Ticket to Thailand to find a different girl every night who would 'love me long time' .

:noway: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Trophyyf

I would enjoy time with friends/ and children and build/enjoy lots of meaningless relationships that are just about sex!!! lol ha ha

ahhhhh but I'm so glad I'm married....

carlie_carl

never find true love? yeah Im already on the road to stamp and coin collections, maybe buy 9 cats and a horse :-)

Jipples

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

It would certainly take a lot of pressure off, in my humble opinion.

I would be more daring....I'd go to Thailand.

I'd do whatever I wanted.

bellevie23

In that situation I would treasure my friendships and have lots of fun sex with charming people. It wouldn't be so bad.

Im with her. I would go on vacations, I would get the boidoir photos my ex was never fond of because 'only he should see me that way', I would have a blast with my kids, etc.

You can get companionship out of your friends and sex out of 'charming people' lol. I dont see how this would be doomed to be horrible. Especially if you find a friend with benefits, wahhhh-la.

189andFalling

In all seriousness relationships aren't for everyone. I'm a firm believer that variety what you should aim for. Marriage is flawed institution especially with people living longer. For me personally what I want changes year on year, sometimes your partner grows with you, other times you grow apart. Sure I'm happy with my girlfriend for now, but in 5 years? Who knows. I've tried marriage once before and it's not all it's cracked up to be. It's defiantly an institution that favours the woman's needs over the man's.

Whatever words come out of a guy's mouth girls remember he IS still a man and he WAS looking at her *kitten* .

Given a choice between being 65 and married or living the Hugh-Heffner lifestyle I know what I would pick. It's perfectly possible to attain that.

taglientep

you mean a self fulfilling prophecy?

ItsCasey

If I knew I was never going to have romantic love again, probably the only thing that would change about my life is that I'd make more of an effort to tell certain people how I feel about them, especially men. Every once in a while, I come across a truly good one, but I guess in my delusional brain, paying a man a sincere compliment on who he is, rather than his physical appearance, makes things weird. If I knew there was no chance of anything romantic developing, I wouldn't feel the need to be guarded about it. I know that sounds counterintuitive, but that's me.

I think the things that drive me now ... my faith, my family, my work, etc., ... would continue to do so. I'm pretty happy with my life as it is. It really does not suck to be me, and I'm grateful for that.

Pros and cons of never having romantic love? The only pro I can think of is that you'd get to focus more of your attention on other things. But not having someone to wake up with every morning and come home to every night? Not having a constant source of companionship, trust, and unconditional love? Forever? That would blow.

Krizzle4Rizzle

I wouldn't change anything. If my fiancé was still in love with me now, I'd treasure the moments until that ended. It's already too late - whenever the relationship ended up falling to pieces it would hurt just the same.

This made me tear up.

ErinBeth7

Knowing that I will never have that companionship, that other half, the one thing I love most in this world is such a depressing thought. When it all boils down, isn't that what we're all living for? Anyway, if this were to happen, I'd probably move close to my family. Friends can come and go, but family is permanent. You can't undo a sibling or a parent.

Carl01

It would be a bit discouraging for a certain period of time but as with all things you eventually accept,adapt and move on.

RH_Brazell

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

Ticket to Thailand to find a different girl every night who would 'love me long time' .

ahahahahahaha:laugh:

skinnywithin

If you cant find true love at least have lots of booty calls !

LilRedRooster

I have a hypothetical question for everyone here:

Let's say your future flashes before your eyes. Everything you see is 100% true.
You find out that if you are currently single, you will NEVER find romantic love.
If you are currently in a romantic relationship, that person will fall out of love with you and you will never find love again...

What would drive you in life, and would this change how you live it?

Also, what are the pros and cons to this situation?

Thanks :flowerforyou:

I don't quite understand the questions, because really, they assume that romantic love IS the drive in life, and if it is not present there should be no drive, because without romantic love, life is apparently not worth living. Which I would hope would NEVER be the case for anyone, because that means that an entire life is defined in terms of another person and their subjective desires. How empty of an existence would that be, to only be driven by the desires of others?

I have never lived my life with the drive that I need to be defined by romantic love. I have lived my life driven by the desire to improve myself, my knowledge, and the world around me. I am defined by MY actions, not by a relationship status with another person. So in that case, nothing I am doing would change, because not having romantic love in my life is not the defining aspect of my existence, and I can't find any cons to it.

cmriverside

Nah, when my usefullness as a provider is completed, that's it for me. Nothing else for me to do. plus, I like drinking.

frazdogg, ha ha!

Make sure you pay yourself first...............so you can do your drinking somewhere warm when that day comes.

sunkisses

I wouldn't change how I'm living. Love hasn't been on my radar in a while now. I've also been fortunate enough to experience the "soul mate" type love thing for a few years. So it kind of leaves me thinking like "I've done that, wonder what else I can do now."

taso42

This question goes against my belief system. No matter what, at any given time, we have the power to make our lives whatever we want them to be.

I guess I'm just not good at hypotheticals.

Saruman_w

I'd probably be pretty depressed for the rest of my life if that were to happen. I wouldn't know what would drive me, I'd feel pretty lost and alone. I don't really have that many friends IRL as it is.

Swanson83

Honestly, I'd probably save up as much money as I could and join a Missionary group and travel the world. If I couldn't find that one true love then I'd want to at least make myself happy, making others happy. If I could go around the world and build houses, furniture, show people how to grow gardens, clean their water, whatever it would be it would be worth it.

If I wouldn't have had kids so early I probably would have done this...so maybe when the kids get out of college I'll go help save the world.

odusgolp

i'd simply continue to hoor it up...

maybe incorporate more boobs.

california_peach

I would assume that I was hallucinating, and swear never to lick another toad.