Question for the guys...

NessasMommy081311

Alright, so I know being obese is considered gross in society now a days...but I want some guys' opinions...do you prefer skinny girls with no boobs? Or bigger girls? I know some guys like the whole "more cushion for the pushin'" and "more to love". And if you are shallow, don't be mean about it. I know I'm fat so no need to tell me....

i_love_vinegar

I saw this question a lot growing up on Y!A

Here is a link to some of the questions. There are many answers. http://answers.yahoo.com/search/search_result;_ylt=Ap5sjFyd5OmjoU4VQtGUVgsjzKIX;_ylv=3?scope=all&category=0&fltr=_en&question_status=all&answer_count=any&date_submitted=all&crumb=FVl0y0.si4Z&p=guys+skinny+no+boobs+or+bigger&orderby=rank&filter_search=true

i hope this helps. PS: Don't be so hard on yourself. You look great and with MFP you will probably continue to look better and better.

Carl01

I prefer feminine and there is no exact height/weight/figure definition of that.

NessasMommy081311

I prefer feminine and there is no exact height/weight/figure definition of that.

Okay, so what do you consider feminine then?

BlackmetalCoffee79

I like curves on a girl. And i'm more of a "butt" guy, so the boobs question really has no affect on me. Now how obese are we talking about here? If a girl is unhealthy obese and doesn't seem to care about it, it would be a turn off for me. But by no means do i find skin and bones to be sexy. And personality goes a long way. A good sense of humor and someone who can put up with me is definitely a plus. And by the way, if this question is about you, i think you look fine in your picture. Don't be so hard on yourself.

NessasMommy081311

Well technically I'm like 20-30 lbs overweight. My profile pic shows just how big I was 11 lbs ago...and I have a kick *kitten* personality because of my looks. Thanks

TDGee

Personality is a far more attractive component. Hot girl, but *kitten* personality is NOT attractive.

askme12

Personality is a far more attractive component. Hot girl, but *kitten* personality is NOT attractive.

This^

warmachinejt

Alright, so I know being obese is considered gross in society now a days...but I want some guys' opinions...do you prefer skinny girls with no boobs? Or bigger girls? I know some guys like the whole "more cushion for the pushin'" and "more to love". And if you are shallow, don't be mean about it. I know I'm fat so no need to tell me....

i never look up boobs on a girl, unless they really stand out. I like me some booty though, and i am colombian so it's in my blood i guess. I could care less if the girl i'm with has no boobies :P

NessasMommy081311

So you could be attracted to a 185 lb girl if she had a good personality?

NessasMommy081311

Alright, so I know being obese is considered gross in society now a days...but I want some guys' opinions...do you prefer skinny girls with no boobs? Or bigger girls? I know some guys like the whole "more cushion for the pushin'" and "more to love". And if you are shallow, don't be mean about it. I know I'm fat so no need to tell me....

i never look up boobs on a girl, unless they really stand out. I like me some booty though, and i am colombian so it's in my blood i guess. I could care less if the girl i'm with has no boobies :P

Lol well I def have a booty and the boobs to match lol. The question was more overall size I guess...

Carl01

I prefer feminine and there is no exact height/weight/figure definition of that.

Okay, so what do you consider feminine then?

A round butt,curvy hips,waist that is smaller around then her chest.
You have a feminine figure as far as I am concerned.

trelm249

As far as physical qualities go, my preference is some one who takes care of herself. Good hygiene and being healthy is attractive.

Character and personality are a much better reflection on the quality of a lady than height, hair color, or bone structure.

Snowbunny95

So you could be attracted to a 185 lb girl if she had a good personality?

That's were I am and my husband is very attracted to me I couldn't believe you were talking about yourself in this as I looked at your pic and though you looked marvelous!

horndave

So you could be attracted to a 185 lb girl if she had a good personality?

Abosulutely.

j4nash

Unfortunately, there is no answer for this. It all depends on the guy.

hiker282

More skinny girl with boobs. Muscles are hot too, so if she has thick muscular things and big calves, that's hot.

whitneyann0

So you could be attracted to a 185 lb girl if she had a good personality?

185 lbs is not bad at all. I would love to be 185 lbs actually. There are plenty of men out there that like "bigger" girl. Which in my opinion... you are not "big" at all.

I, however, am. And I don't mean to sound conceded or cocky or anything because I am from from it..... but I've never had a problem with having a boyfriend. Personality is #1. I believe you do need to be attracted to the person, which personality can actually make a person MORE attractive....

But yeah.... some men do like "bigger" girls. I agree with someone who posted above that said if she is obese and doesn't care about herself then that is a big turn off. If you show that you care about yourself and are eating healthy and whatnot then that's a good thing. :bigsmile:

11Jayme11

Im not a guy... but dont be so damn hard on yourself! The guy thats for YOU will like you for you. Its not fair to make guys judge how you look at yourself. ALL GUYS see us different. They have their own taste, as we do. I think you need to work on how you look at yourself first(please dont take that as rude) No one can appricate you, until you do. A body is sometimes just a body, its whats inside that mainly counts. As someone said before... Someone whos nice, amazing, funnny, and kind harted but alittle on the chunky side, is a hell of alot better than someone whos smokin hot, and a complete *kitten*! I dont see anything wrong with you.. you look like a very pretty girl, and you need to see that!

11Jayme11

Unfortunately, there is no answer for this. It all depends on the guy.

:drinker:

NessasMommy081311

I know all guys are different. That's why I want opinions. I am happily married, so not fishing for compliments. Thanks though, for the ones that did compliment me. I have and have always had low self esteem. I am in no way saying any other girl that is my weight is fat, because we all hold our weight differently. I do have an awesome personality though, which I'm assuming is more the reason why anyone is attracted to me.

myers0machine

gota love a curvy women... whether they have "small" curves or "bigger" curves.

Because curviness is beautiful!! ♥

staps065

I perfer a woman with curves: Butt, Boobs and Hips with shapely legs.... That doesn't mean they have to be perfect in any way. Proportional is nice! :happy:

chadbobby

I prefer skinny with boobs but you have to have some cushion.

stevewynjones

Personally I've dated ladies from both ends of the spectrum. If your happy, healthy and confident it makes no difference. There are some guys who will only go for the fitness model type.. fine no problem with that. We have the feeder fetish at the other end of that scale but the point I will get to is that although a hard body looks great it's also that, a hard body which is'nt always the most comfortable thing to lie next to......

Iamkim73

Personally I've dated ladies from both ends of the spectrum. If your happy, healthy and confident it makes no difference. There are some guys who will only go for the fitness model type.. fine no problem with that. We have the feeder fetish at the other end of that scale but the point I will get to is that although a hard body looks great it's also that, a hard body which is'nt always the most comfortable thing to lie next to......

I love this response.

NessasMommy081311

Thanks everyone for your responses. I put up a new picture on here, which is me 11 lbs lighter than the first one...still doesn't look any different though. I feel gross. I don't like looking at myself, so I guess it kind of makes me feel better knowing that all guys aren't completely shallow....my husband thinks I'm fat, which is why I'm pushing to lose the weight.

hbrittingham

Thanks everyone for your responses. I put up a new picture on here, which is me 11 lbs lighter than the first one...still doesn't look any different though. I feel gross. I don't like looking at myself, so I guess it kind of makes me feel better knowing that all guys aren't completely shallow....my husband thinks I'm fat, which is why I'm pushing to lose the weight.

I am so sorry that your husband thinks you are fat. You aren't. You carry your weight proportionately and it looks good on you. I know it's your low self esteem that is making you want to lose weight because your husband apparently lets you know he thinks you are fat, but like quitting smoking, you can only lose this weight successfully if you do it for yourself. Good luck honey!

nammer79

Just stick to what your doing and you'll be fine. Besides you already have a man that loves you and most likely thinks the world about you(he might be a jerk or maybe trying to hint that he thinks you need to drop a few pounds.. if hes flat out called the woman that gave birth to his kid fat then hes an *kitten* that's all there is to it). I think your cute myself so it comes down to how you act and carry yourself. People come in all shapes and sizes there is no one perfect fit and to be honest I'm picky but I find myself liking both thin and those that aren't so thin. Just set reachable goals and enjoy working towards them as much as you can.

NessasMommy081311

Just stick to what your doing and you'll be fine. Besides you already have a man that loves you and most likely thinks the world about you(he might be a jerk or maybe trying to hint that he thinks you need to drop a few pounds.. if hes flat out called the woman that gave birth to his kid fat then hes an *kitten* that's all there is to it). I think your cute myself so it comes down to how you act and carry yourself. People come in all shapes and sizes there is no one perfect fit and to be honest I'm picky but I find myself liking both thin and those that aren't so thin. Just set reachable goals and enjoy working towards them as much as you can.

*blushing* thanks.

Kerri_is_so_very

You just had a baby 6 months ago, go easy on yourself mama (especially if you are nursing). If not, eat healthy and get in some exercise and I'm sure you'll be where you want to be soon enough!