Would you cheat? Part 2/rephrased

Ireshgurl

It has totally affected my sex life with my hubby, ain't gonna lie. If the 25lbs I've put on make me feel SO unattractive, how can my hubby find me attractive? He's also put on a few pounds too, but I still find him as attractive as when I met him.... from the shoulders up, lol.

QueenJayJay

When I met my husband, he was the heaviest he'd ever been in his life. (6' and about 240 lbs.) He's about 60 lbs. lighter now. He was smokin' hot then, and he's smokin' hot now.

DarthCeltic

i get cheated on because i sing "im sexy and i know it" by LMFAO... does this song preclude women cheating on their men?


maybe because they are delusional?

QueenJayJay

I'm also willing to bet that your insecurity is what has fueled these threads

I'm gonna gave to agree with this. My husband still wanted me 53 lbs. ago.

BeautifulRedButterfly

I don't know about cheating, but I know when I was at my heaviest my SO was a little less interested in me in "that way". I did think it was superficial, just honest.

of course trying to find "special" time when working around jobs, workouts and life in general put a bigger kabash us then weight ever did. :laugh:

Exactly. Anyone who says, "Oh gosh I love my SO, even when he/she ballooned up 300+ pounds" is fooling themselves.

Maybe some people are fooling themselves when they say that, But I know for a fact Im not. (;

_binary_jester_

I think you are all being so shallow. if you are attracted to anyone for other than their personality or the way they act then you should go for whatever you think is attractive.
You should just go down tot he bar and score any college age people you can. I'm sure they are pretty lame to talk to, but hey, why should you care about that. I find this sickening, to reducing your significant other to man cattle.

Marriage is like an agreement. I hold up my end. i do everything I am asked. If she can't, but everything else is fine, why go through a divorce?

angied80

love is in the airrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.....

DarthCeltic

same answer.

Yes. I would be less physically attracted. Attraction is not a individual descision.

Isn't it funny. You hint, hint, hint. The you come right out and say it and suddenly you are the jerk. Never is it their fault. Attraction subsides...you look for attention elsewhere. And you are the villain.

i'm always the villain because i am honest with myself. i'm totally okay with it.

a villian and knee socks... um.. and a thread about cheating.. can you connect the dots?

CakeFit21

but he still loves me for me. (God only knows why! )

^^^ THIS is what has affected your sex life. Your lack of self confidence.

jackpotclown

but he still loves me for me. (God only knows why! )

^^^ THIS is what has affected your sex life. Your lack of self confidence.

Exactly

angied80

When my bf and I first started dating, we both are workout aholics, we each gave each other a wieght limit and said if the other gets to that point then we are breaking up It was obviously a joke but it helps us both hold each other accountable. When the other starts getting a little pudgy we just pull out that joke and we are both back on track. Beside the physical attraction part there are also health reasons we both want to stay inshape and fit. As far as cheating becasue of it, thats a whole new ballgame.

wolfehound22

Ive thought about this more, and i can see how this could lead to some people cheating. As a guys point of view, i want bedroom activity pretty regularly, and i can see that if my wife gained weight, she may find herself less attractive, resulting in less and less. Then i may get discouraged there and look for it elsewhere. Im not saying this is what i would do, but i think u can see how some people may cheat, and it may not be because they r less attracted to ther SO but for not feeling they r getting what they want.

EmCarroll1990

My fiancé has said that if I were to ever get seriously fat, he'd be gone. My brother has said the same thing about his wife. Honestly, it may be rude, but if they're not attracted to overweight people, how can you get upset? Everyone has their own preferences, and heck if my fiancé got to 300 lbs, I wouldn't be attracted either. But I know neither of us would cheat on the other, we'd just end the relationship, or y'know, tell each other once either started to get a little chubs.

QueenJayJay

but he still loves me for me. (God only knows why! )

^^^ THIS is what has affected your sex life. Your lack of self confidence.

Exactly

People perceive what you put out there. Ooze confidence, and he'll be on you like a fat kid on MFP.

NessasMommy081311

I am asking other people's opinions. Again, this has nothing to do with me. My insecurity is not what made me post these threads, my curiosity is. If you have a problem with it, just don't comment....

Jennloella

I love my husband more than anything and he would be handsome to me always, however when he was 30 pounds lighter and I could see his abs I couldn't keep my hands off of him. He's been following my lead and working out more, lately his chest and triceps are popping, guess what....so is the headboard. I think a lot of it has to do with his confidence too....

angied80

I am asking other people's opinions. Again, this has nothing to do with me. My insecurity is not what made me post these threads, my curiosity is. If you have a problem with it, just don't comment....

Don't get worked up about it. People are going to say what they want. You cant control them. Just ignore it.

QueenJayJay

I am asking other people's opinions. Again, this has nothing to do with me. My insecurity is not what made me post these threads, my curiosity is. If you have a problem with it, just don't comment....

Don't get worked up about it. People are going to say what they want. You cant control them. Just ignore it.

This, and who's got a problem? Looks like people are offering advice to me.


Though I do wonder why you are curious about this.

NessasMommy081311

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

UsedToBeHusky

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

You can ask the mods to delete. That is the only way.

QueenJayJay

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

A mod has to do it. You can go to your original post, click "report," choose "other," then just tell them you'd like it deleted. They'll usually do it without questioning if they see the OP is asking. :flowerforyou:

ETA: I usually just say something like, "please delete this CF." :laugh:

killagb

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

You don't delete them. You can try reporting it and hope a mod helps you out. It's ok to admit the reason, you don't have to lie to kick it. :drinker:

TDGee

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

Well, I can assure you that starting another duplicate one won't give you the answers you seek.

EmCarroll1990

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

Well, I can assure you that starting another duplicate one won't give you the answers you seek.

LAWL.

lisakyle_11

..what Karin said. gather yourself and be who you are meant to be.

CakeFit21

I'm just curious. The reason behind it doesn't matter. How do I delete threads?

Well, I can assure you that starting another duplicate one won't give you the answers you seek.

You could just start another one about how the second one wasn't what you meant either.

Third time's a charm!

QueenJayJay

NessasMommy081311

I don't plan on starting another thread. I think I got all the answers I wanted. Some people don't need to be so fricken mean about it though. I wouldn't go on someone else's thread and give them hell for asking a question.

_binary_jester_

I don't plan on starting another thread. I think I got all the answers I wanted. Some people don't need to be so fricken mean about it though. I wouldn't go on someone else's thread and give them hell for asking a question.

I wasn't being mean. Just giving an honest answer.

BrettPGH

I don't plan on starting another thread. I think I got all the answers I wanted. Some people don't need to be so fricken mean about it though. I wouldn't go on someone else's thread and give them hell for asking a question.

Maybe the part where you called most of the men on the site cheaters because they didn't respond to your thread is what didn't win you any friends...