Yeah, but what if you LOSE weight?

yoovie

My husband met me 40 pounds heavier than I am now, saw me through pregnancy and 70 pounds heavier than I am now. He tells me he is proud of me all the time. He has one aunt in particular that is awful and tells him things like, " becareful because now that she's thin and you've put on weight she's going to leave you for someone else". I want to smack her when she makes stupid comments like that, but her husband cheated on her and she's thin, so I know she's just got a ton of her own issues.

Oh that's awful that she says that, Im sorry for both of you

CoryIda

My husband met me 40 pounds heavier than I am now, saw me through pregnancy and 70 pounds heavier than I am now. He tells me he is proud of me all the time. He has one aunt in particular that is awful and tells him things like, " becareful because now that she's thin and you've put on weight she's going to leave you for someone else". I want to smack her when she makes stupid comments like that, but her husband cheated on her and she's thin, so I know she's just got a ton of her own issues.

Oh that's awful that she says that, Im sorry for both of you

Because I refuse to air my dirty laundry, a good number of people in my life assume that's why I left my husband - because I lost weight and he was chubby. Not the case, but a lot of people believe it.

lisakyle_11

my husband, as he claims, has 'always loved my body'. he actually likes a little weight on me rather than being thinner (which i normally-for the most part-was). now he is really loving that i am not stick thin, but 'strong and sexy'. that is good enough for me...but either way, he doesn't really play into what i do for my health/fitness...the men in my life never have.

Krizzle4Rizzle

My (soon-to-be-ex) husband found me significantly more attractive as I lost weight. I mean, I was 100 pounds heavier than him when we got married and am now 40 pounds lighter than he is. I'm also 4 1/2 inches taller.
He loved having a "trophy wife" but sometimes you have to do something to earn that trophy.


(Purposely written to sound shallow, but it should still convey that he didn't mind me losing weight. That being said, if I got scrawny instead of just fit and healthy, he probably wouldn't have liked that, either)

I'm sorry to hear that Cory.

CoryIda

My (soon-to-be-ex) husband found me significantly more attractive as I lost weight. I mean, I was 100 pounds heavier than him when we got married and am now 40 pounds lighter than he is. I'm also 4 1/2 inches taller.
He loved having a "trophy wife" but sometimes you have to do something to earn that trophy.


(Purposely written to sound shallow, but it should still convey that he didn't mind me losing weight. That being said, if I got scrawny instead of just fit and healthy, he probably wouldn't have liked that, either)

I'm sorry to hear that Cory.

Eh. Thanks, but life moves on.

yoovie

My husband met me 40 pounds heavier than I am now, saw me through pregnancy and 70 pounds heavier than I am now. He tells me he is proud of me all the time. He has one aunt in particular that is awful and tells him things like, " becareful because now that she's thin and you've put on weight she's going to leave you for someone else". I want to smack her when she makes stupid comments like that, but her husband cheated on her and she's thin, so I know she's just got a ton of her own issues.

Oh that's awful that she says that, Im sorry for both of you

Because I refuse to air my dirty laundry, a good number of people in my life assume that's why I left my husband - because I lost weight and he was chubby. Not the case, but a lot of people believe it.

that is MESSED. UP.

There are few things in this world that piss me off more than people who have never lived inside my brain, announcing what my motivations are/were.

fatboypup

i used to always say I liked a woman I could wrestle with and not be sure I'd win, now I realize she doesn't have to be heavy to achieve this

CoryIda

i used to always say I liked a woman I could wrestle with and not be sure I'd win, now I realize she doesn't have to be heavy to achieve this

You would hate me... not because you could not be sure you would win, but because you could be sure you would LOSE.

KariQuiteContrary

My husband met me 40 pounds heavier than I am now, saw me through pregnancy and 70 pounds heavier than I am now. He tells me he is proud of me all the time. He has one aunt in particular that is awful and tells him things like, " becareful because now that she's thin and you've put on weight she's going to leave you for someone else". I want to smack her when she makes stupid comments like that, but her husband cheated on her and she's thin, so I know she's just got a ton of her own issues.

Oh that's awful that she says that, Im sorry for both of you

Because I refuse to air my dirty laundry, a good number of people in my life assume that's why I left my husband - because I lost weight and he was chubby. Not the case, but a lot of people believe it.

And I applaud you for that Cory. It's not easy to go through a divorce as it is....but with people jumping to their own conclusions about why, it is frustrating. I went through some of the same type of situation and it's tough to remain strong and keep the private parts of you life that caused you to come to the decision just that, private. I'm sorry you have to go through it but at least you are doing it with grace and dignity.

fatboypup

hah i never said i wanted to win :P

wellbert

Yes. My tendons/veins are getting pretty clear in my arms and legs and she hates that.

stfu, they look awesome

tameko2

My husband met me 40 pounds heavier than I am now, saw me through pregnancy and 70 pounds heavier than I am now. He tells me he is proud of me all the time. He has one aunt in particular that is awful and tells him things like, " becareful because now that she's thin and you've put on weight she's going to leave you for someone else". I want to smack her when she makes stupid comments like that, but her husband cheated on her and she's thin, so I know she's just got a ton of her own issues.

Oh that's awful that she says that, Im sorry for both of you

Because I refuse to air my dirty laundry, a good number of people in my life assume that's why I left my husband - because I lost weight and he was chubby. Not the case, but a lot of people believe it.

That really sucks Cory, that would make me so unhappy. Like - cut-off-contact-with-those-people-unhappy (Even though I realize that's probably not practical)

I've both gained and lost weight with the same person. He thought he found me attractive before but he DOES grab me an awful lot more now. But in his own words, personality is a lot more important than looks. So if an SO leaves you for EITHER gaining weight or losing weight then they never liked you much to begin with (unless either of these things actually represents some kind of personality change -- to be fair it often DOES since in my case I have very little interest in doing nothing but video games with him like we used to, and I get annoyed when I find out he spent 8 hours straight sitting in his computer chair at home.)

MassageGoddess

My hubby has been more amorous since I started losing weight..

sillygoose1977

My ex thinks I'm getting too skinny. It's a good thing he's my ex.

he's just jealous

or insecure

Or he just likes a little more weight on me.