Birth Order & Personality

Krizzle4Rizzle

This is just for fun since I am bored and I thought it was pretty interesting. I am a Last born. I agree very much with the short attention span. What are you?


*Only-borns*

Positives: Only-borns are the mega-movers of the world. They are task-orientated; tend to be extremely well organised, highly conscientious and dependable. They are keen on facts, ideas and details and feel extremely comfortable with responsibility.

Negatives: The negative characteristics of only-borns can be tough to handle. They are often unforgiving, very demanding, hate to admit they're wrong and usually don't accept criticism well. To others, they seem very sensitive and indeed, their feelings are easily hurt.

*First-borns*

Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.

Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.

Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.

*Middle-Borns*
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.

Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.

*Last-Borns*

Positives: Last-borns are the world's cheerleaders. You have strong people skills and love to entertain and talk to others. You make friends easily and immediately make others feel at home. You're an extrovert, energised by the presence of other people and you're probably not afraid to take risks.

Negatives: Last-borns tend to get bored quickly. They have a strong fear of rejection and a short attention span. When the fun stops, they've had enough and want to check out. To some extent they're self-centred. They may harbour unrealistic expectations of finding a relationship that is always fun - and of course, such relationships simply do not last.

SnakeDarling

I have both only-born and first born.
I'm 10 years older than my brother, so I was an only child for a long time.
But when I became a big sister, I became very bossy and picky as well.

christine24t

*First-borns*

Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.

Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.

Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.

Definitely true about being a high achiever., and also I would say I am a nurturer, and I am picky. I definitely don't trust others on things like projects - I would rather do it myself so I know it is done right.

EmCarroll1990

I am the definition of a middle born.

aelarek

Yes, I am definitely a first born. All the freaking way. So is my husband. He's the mover-shaker, I'm the nurturer.

kayleesays

Definitely fit the middle-born mold!

_Bob_

Bump!

mckshowie

not.even.close.

haha. i am a good mediator and negotiator, but that is less about pleasing everyone and more about being a control freak.

*Middle-Borns*
Positives: The classic middle-born is very relational, tends to be a people-pleaser and usually hates confrontation. Their basic need is to keep life smooth and their motto might be 'peace at any price'. They are usually very calm, will roll with the punches and are amiable, down-to-earth and great listeners. They are skilled at seeing both sides of a problem and eager to make everybody happy. That makes them good mediators and negotiators.

Negatives: They tend to be less driven than first-borns, but are much more eager to be liked - or at least be happy with them. They have a difficult time setting boundaries. They can drift into becoming 'co-dependent' as they try to please everybody. They are not good at making decisions that will offend others. They also tend to blame themselves when others fail.

horseplaypen

Ha ha yep, I fit that only-child description to a tee! I'll have to show this to my boyfriend, he'll get a kick out of it.

amysj303

I am middle-born and this seems to align with the results of the Meyers Briggs test that I just took!

horror_hamster

i'm technically the last-born in my immediate family -- and i fit the majority of those characteristics, but my HUGE family (cousins + aunts and uncles) is very close, we grew up in the same town, etc. so we're like one HUGE immediate family, so because of that (and me being the second oldest of 15, where the oldest is 8 years older than me) i find i have a LOT of the 'first born' traits as well...

how interesting!

itsall4younow

This is spot on!

So funny!

tig_ol_bitties

Yep, very much a first-born.

HauteP1nk

I am first born...I agree with some. I like to lead, but only within certain groups...otherwise I am pretty shy. I do like to have control though, I have been told that I tend to act superior (even if I don't mean to), I'm caring...but yes I can be moody. That being said, I think of myself as very sensitive...and I never push people around.

My fiance is a first born though and this suits him to the letter. He never takes no as an answer! hahaha

spudman1232

Middle born through and through

cynhip

I'm a middle born. # 6 of 11 sibblings. Crazy huh?

sma83

Im the baby in the family and I would have to say this is just about right on for me! lol How funny. My daughter is also and "only" and her's rings true for her as well.

themommie

I am a first born and while the first part doesnt apply to me I dont like to be a leader but this part fits me to a T
- tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.

AmberJslimsAWAY

Last born, same as you, I have a short attention span as well

Qarol

I'm a combination of only and first born. I was 9 when my brother was born, so half of my childhood was spent as an only. And both those descriptions...yep, fit me quite perfectly.

getsveltEagain

So if you are an only child do you go with the only born or the first born.... You are technically both!?

I am a middle born child to a T there!? Thanks for sharing!!

LesliePierceRN

I, FOR SURE, am an Alpha Dominant first born (first to survive, anyway). I am meticulous and aggressive. You want it done and done right? I'm your gal.

hennyben

I'm a typical last born and It's as if they wrote about my first born to describe first borns in general

greeneyed_beachgirl

*doesn't like the negatives about middle borns so I will just skip away and act like I never saw it*

Savyna

Although I am a middle born the age difference between me and the eldest is about 22 years thus for the most part in the house I am the oldest thus I am very driven and am not that much of a people pleaser -however- I do sometimes defer the things that I want in order for things to run more smoothly in my house but now that I'm getting older this is starting to subside because I want more things for my life and I'm not going to get it by trying to have things be all nice and well all the time.

Shawnjay75

With my mom's children I'm middle-born and I'm last-born with my father's children...the description of a middle-born person fits me best.

firesoforion

Yeah when I studied psychology, we discussed Adler's theories of this and I've always thought they were pretty relevant and relatively accurate. It kind of makes sense that they would be. As for me, I'm first born, and I think that's pretty applicable to me, hopefully my competence matches my ego one of these days. My brother in the middle has all the positive but little of the negative of the middle born. My youngest brother pretty much epitomizes the youngest sibling characteristics, too (though I'd say I do more of the bored thing than he does, he's just a little bit lazier.).

treetop57

I skipped immediately to the "last borns." Probably my short attention span. It says I'm extroverted. It couldn't be more wrong.

412HeavyLifter

last born is me! Its somewhat accurate! I'm not really a people person but I am a great cheerleader and motivator!

MelanieL1984

*First-borns*

Positives: They are natural leaders and often high achievers. The majority of politicians, spokespersons and managing directors are first-borns. They frequently live with a sense of entitlement and even superiority. They often come in two flavours: compliant nurturers/caregivers or aggressive movers and shakers.

Both are in control; they just use different methods. As a rule, first-borns are picky, precise people - they pay attention to detail - tend to be punctual, organised, and competent. They want to see things done right the first time. They don't like surprises.

Negatives: They are often moody and occasionally lack sensitivity. They can be intimidating, particularly by pushing people too hard or refusing to take no for an answer.
Sometimes they can be a bit 'know-it-all', and often they are poor at delegating - largely because they don't trust other people as much as they trust themselves. They also tend to be bossy, perfectionists and overly-conscientious.

This is me!! I am the nuturer/caregiver....hence, why I am a nurse and a mother of 4!!

I also get into trouble with my husband because I never ask for help, I always want to do things myself....then I get overwhelmed for everything I am doing on my own.

LauraHasABabyJack

Middle child here- and that definitely fits me!