Bad relationship with parents ):

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  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    My mom is an alcoholic, and I only talk to her at Christmas. I might get a letter here or there, but for the most part, we don't talk much. When I do talk to her, it's small talk.

    I don't blame my weight gain on her though, other than her genetics. I do second guess myself a lot in life, but I try my best not to let my mom's shenanigans affect me as an adult. Those shenanigans already took enough of my attention when I was a kid, and now that I'm on my own, the buck stops. I always try to write back when she sends me a letter, but if she ever tries to guilt me about something, I'm out.

    Anyway, now that I'm done spilling my beans to relate, I think you should get counseling. It helps a lot. It also helps if you have another family member who has your back. My aunt took me in and made sure I went to college. She also checks in on me from time to time just to see how things are going.

    Other than that, just do the best you can with your eating and exercise. You deserve to be healthy, and there is no reason for a bad apple to spoil the whole bunch. I'm not saying your mom is a bad apple, but her addictions are, and you don't want her instability to tear you up too.
  • sunnyday789
    sunnyday789 Posts: 309 Member
    If your mother has addiction issues, you may find it helpful to attend AlAnon meetings. The meetings are free and you will find may people who are able maintain a relationship with their loved ones without falling into the insanity of the disease.
  • Emporor_Augustus
    Emporor_Augustus Posts: 32
    I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time. I've also struggled with my relationship with my mother, but definitely nothing so severe. Definitely look into some kind of support group. Even if you can't convince your mother to go, you going yourself could get you some valuable information for coping with her, helping her yourself, or even just feeling a bit better.

    Being on here is a good step towards losing weight, and ALWAYS remember you deserve everything you can possibly get out of life. Never lose hope. One person's bad choices does not determine your future. Be the best you can be and maybe your mother will follow your good example.

    Show the world that your roots do not affect what blooms on top of the tree.
  • Artemis726
    Artemis726 Posts: 587 Member
    (((HUGS))) I haven't spoken to my mother in almost 4 years because she was completely toxic to me and my family. It has not been easy at all, but I am 110% healthier for it. That makes me a better person in general and a more stable, happier mom and wife. Sometimes you have to put yourself first, and just have to focus on growing your own garden. I hope you are able to find peace sooner rather than later. :flowerforyou:
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