Biggest Pet Peeve

esteelewis

What are your biggest pet peeves when it comes to diet/exercise?

Mine is "don't worry, muscle weighs more than fat."

Generally this will go as follows:
Friend 1: Help! I have gained 3 lbs this week. I don't understand.

Friend 2: (trying to make you feel better) "Don't worry. Muscle weighs more than fat. Its probably all muscle.".

No. Nope. Nu-uh. Sorry. ..well maybe..yeah..No. It is not muscle...and even if it were muscle the scale wouldn't reflect it.

1) A pound of muscle weighs the same as a pound of fat. A pound is a pound. However, muscle is leaner than fat. So if you really did, miraculously and against all logic, exchange 3 lbs of fat for 3 lbs of muscle you would look leaner. But it would not reflect on the scale.

2) It is basically impossible to gain 3 lbs of muscle in a week! You can maybe, maybe gain 15-20 lbs of muscle a year. "According to the Colgan Institute of Nutritional Sciences (located in San Diego, CA) run by Dr Michael Colgan PHD, a leading sport nutritionist explains that in his extensive experience, the most muscle gain he or any of his colleagues have recorded over a year was 18 1/4 lbs." (excerpt from an article on bodybuilding.com - but other sources would concur with this.) So basically if you lift hard, work hard and are very dedicated, you could possibly gain 1-1.5 lbs of muscle a month. But that is probably not the case.

So that 3, 4 or 5 lb gain you are seeing on the scale this week is not all muscle. Sorry. This really just drives me crazy. It takes all the self-control in the world to not retort with this response every time I read "muscle weighs more than fat, don't worry." but I really don't want to be one of "those" people. So I will just vent here instead

So yeah, what are your pet peeves?

dg09

People that get discouraged because of water weight fluctuations.

I wish everyone who started out knew how much of a ***** water weight can be and what it actually means in terms of fat loss, you could still be losing fat but the numbers don't show it and it just gets people down. It sucks.

esteelewis

People that get discouraged because of water weight fluctuations.

I wish everyone who started out knew how much of a ***** water weight can be and what it actually means in terms of fat loss, you could still be losing fat but the numbers don't show it and it just gets people down. It sucks.

Amen! This is right up there for me too. I would say #2. I am still guilty of getting discouraged over this on occasion though. Until I drink a gallon of water and lose the water weight

cmayfield3

I have a friend who sincerely thinks that weight loss is a temporary measure that you do to get ready for an event, and after the event is over you should promptly start overeating again. I am not kidding.

I'm losing weight that I've wanted to take off for a few years, but finally got motivated because of my upcoming wedding. I told her that I should reach my goal a few months before the wedding and she asked me, totally seriously, "But if you lose the weight so early, how will you have the willpower to keep it off for the wedding?"



Another one:

"Is it OK to eat 800 calories a day? I am really struggling to eat more than that."

Riiiiight...

jaxbeck

My biggest pet peeve....my severely obese family who roll their eyes at my fitness and when they are visiting, try with all their might to sabotage me

esteelewis

I have a friend who sincerely thinks that weight loss is a temporary measure that you do to get ready for an event, and after the event is over you should promptly start overeating again. I am not kidding.

I'm losing weight that I've wanted to take off for a few years, but finally got motivated because of my upcoming wedding. I told her that I should reach my goal a few months before the wedding and she asked me, totally seriously, "But if you lose the weight so early, how will you have the willpower to keep it off for the wedding?"

Yes how will you keep it off!? I mean you will have no reason to maintain your goal weight right? ya know like feeling more confident, happier, healthier...etc..

cmayfield3

Yes how will you keep it off!? I mean you will have no reason to maintain your goal weight right? ya know like feeling more confident, happier, healthier...etc..

LOL yes exactly. At the very least I should gain it back until it's time to go on our first anniversary trip. Then I can lose it again.

penrbrown

Starvation is not a sustainable or healthy weight loss solution.
In fact, starvation should never be your weight loss solution.

That is my biggest pet peeve. 500-600 calories a day? OH and you're taking a wonder hormone that's going to help your body eat away the 'fat reserves'? I see... right... no thanks, I don't care to pay $60 for the hormone or to follow such a retarded weight loss plan, thank you very much.

My very intelligent friend did the above weight loss plan and managed to convince my roommate to try it to. I just couldn't believe they were willing to inject themselves (yes, it was an injection) with hormones once a day and eat maybe 500 calories a day just to lose weight. It blew my mind.

How can people who are so smart be so incredibly stupid?

esteelewis

My biggest pet peeve....my severely obese family who roll their eyes at my fitness and when they are visiting, try with all their might to sabotage me

I have noticed this coming up a lot lately. As a severely obese person myself I am guessing a lot goes to insecurity. I am more aware of my weight. If I go out with a friend and order a burger and fries, and they order a salad, I feel like I will get judged by everyone around and would rather they have a burger too. Granted I would never actually sabotage them...and now I am the one that gets the salad while i look longingly at the burger across the restaurant...
I think its a natural reaction though. Bringing others down because they are doing something you know you should do...but are too lazy or for whatever reason wont do. I am sorry they try to bring you down

AllTehBeers

Mine is that now every piece of food i look at is a number and I mentally calculate the calorie totals all day long. I almost told a girl (slim, fit, bicyclist) that her protein bar she was about to get was over 400 calories and a ton of sugar. Then I mentally slap myself and remember that i'm way over weight and she would probably look at me like I have two heads if I told her that. Plus, that's really annoying too, when people bigger then you try to give you fitness advice.

missmelissav

One of mine is when people tell me not to lose to much weight or I will look sick. STOP HATING people lol I am getting healthy. I dont understand how I can look sick. And according to the bmi calculator I am still considered over weight

esteelewis

Mine is that now every piece of food i look at is a number and I mentally calculate the calorie totals all day long. I almost told a girl (slim, fit, bicyclist) that her protein bar she was about to get was over 400 calories and a ton of sugar. Then I mentally slap myself and remember that i'm way over weight and she would probably look at me like I have two heads if I told her that. Plus, that's really annoying too, when people bigger then you try to give you fitness advice.

Ya know part of my wonders about this. I can see how you would not want a bigger person giving advice...since clearly they need to practice what they preach. But at the same time, from personal experience as a bigger person, I am on a weight loss journey and have been for a while. I have made so many mistakes, I read literature on weight loss, diets, calories, exercise, etc..like they are going out of style. It has taken me a lot of time, a lot of mistakes and a lot of reading/research to get to a point where I am on the right track and making a sustainable life change. So sometimes, when someone is struggling or starting out I want to give them advice since I have researched this issue to death. But I always hold myself back because I "am the bigger person giving fitness advice." Interesting thought though

Silverstar46

This morning I told my mom that I had finally reached my 50lbs lost mark. I was so freaking happy I could cry. Then she asked what my 'goal weight' was and I told her that according to my height, my weight should be anywhere between 130-150lbs and I'd like to TRY for 150.

Now, I still have 120lbs to go before I even get there, but she says to me, "That's too skinny! You should try for 200lbs and maintain there. It's really hard to get that skinny and stay that way."

So then I told my grandmother our conversation later on and she AGREED with my Mom. "150lbs you'd be too skinny! You'd be nothing but bones!"

Now my Grandma is 150lbs at 5'3 and she is NOT skin and bones. WHY IN THE HECK would she think I would be skin and bones when I'm only two inches taller than her?!

*sighs*

JanetGurl

My pet peeve is how my metabolism is a lazy bum... lol.

Another is how people aim to lose weight in such a short amount of time with supplements, starving themselves and no exercise.

marsellient

My pet peeve is the way we are constantly bombarded in the media by the latest study about health (like yesterday's about red meat) and then by advertisements for the latest food product or drug. Geeesh......makes my head spin.

jaxbeck

My biggest pet peeve....my severely obese family who roll their eyes at my fitness and when they are visiting, try with all their might to sabotage me

I have noticed this coming up a lot lately. As a severely obese person myself I am guessing a lot goes to insecurity. I am more aware of my weight. If I go out with a friend and order a burger and fries, and they order a salad, I feel like I will get judged by everyone around and would rather they have a burger too. Granted I would never actually sabotage them...and now I am the one that gets the salad while i look longingly at the burger across the restaurant...
I think its a natural reaction though. Bringing others down because they are doing something you know you should do...but are too lazy or for whatever reason wont do. I am sorry they try to bring you down

Thank you & I can understand that! I just wish my mother would see what she is killing herself & try to make some changes. I've tried every gentle push that I can but she won't budge

jaxbeck

This morning I told my mom that I had finally reached my 50lbs lost mark. I was so freaking happy I could cry. Then she asked what my 'goal weight' was and I told her that according to my height, my weight should be anywhere between 130-150lbs and I'd like to TRY for 150.

Now, I still have 120lbs to go before I even get there, but she says to me, "That's too skinny! You should try for 200lbs and maintain there. It's really hard to get that skinny and stay that way."

So then I told my grandmother our conversation later on and she AGREED with my Mom. "150lbs you'd be too skinny! You'd be nothing but bones!"

Now my Grandma is 150lbs at 5'3 and she is NOT skin and bones. WHY IN THE HECK would she think I would be skin and bones when I'm only two inches taller than her?!

*sighs*

I can relate!

sixfootaliw

My biggest pet peev is definitely my husband. Not generally, but in his response to my efforts to get fitter and healthier.

When I asked him to support my healthy diet he started to quiz me about the source of my poor body image and went on and on about how I shouldn't feel the pressure to conform to a 'norm'. He's right of course, but I know all that already. What really annoys me, and what I don't understand, is that he is over the moon that I am taking up running to get healthy. Why get funny about one healthy change yet be happy about another? It's not like I'm asking him to give up his beer and steaks!

Men! Huh!

kappy_hollowell

1. "Don't eat back your exercise calories"..... If your tank is empty, and you try to go thirty more miles, you're just not gonna!

2. "You can't eat ________________ on a diet!" yes you can as long as it's moderation and you account for it!

3. "I just can't lose weight." ..... Yes you can. You haven't tried hard enough! Everyone can lose weight with a little will power!



BTW.... I haven't lost any lately cause I'm Pregnant, and I'm not currently trying to lose weight. BUT when my baby gets here, I AM going to lose all the weight that I gain!

esteelewis

Thank you & I can understand that! I just wish my mother would see what she is killing herself & try to make some changes. I've tried every gentle push that I can but she won't budge

I learned the hard way...and still learn it...if someone is not ready to change they will not change. Something literally has to "click". I have yo-yo dieted my entire life. It was always with half a heart because I knew I should. But the true desire wasn't there. It wasn't until recently that it finally clicked for me. Now there is no stopping me until I hit 160 I really hope it clicks for your mother soon.

KrazyAsianNic

My biggest pet peeve is people who are already at a healthy weight wanting to lose more than is safe for their body, and act like it's such a bigger deal than having to lose 100 pounds to get to a healthy weight

cardiokitten

When people are like "What? You're loosing weight?! But you're no much skinnier than me, you're crazy."

Just because I weigh less than you does not mean I don't want to lose weight myself, lol.

KrazyAsianNic

1. "Don't eat back your exercise calories"..... If your tank is empty, and you try to go thirty more miles, you're just not gonna!

2. "You can't eat ________________ on a diet!" yes you can as long as it's moderation and you account for it!

3. "I just can't lose weight." ..... Yes you can. You haven't tried hard enough! Everyone can lose weight with a little will power!

I agree with these!

JoolieW68

People who ask me what I did to lose weight, and then they seem disappointed I did it by moving my @ss and eating healthier. They are like 'Oh.....'.

Seriously? Did they expect me to say I have been slowly having the fat sucked off? I WISH!!

JoolieW68

Oh, and skinny women who always say things like 'I feel so fat' all the time.....when they are probably at the low end of their BMI range, if not below.

Corrie_Lynn

People acting surprised and telling me I look just fine in response to me saying I want to lose weight. Don't lie to try and make me feel better. I'm not an idiot, I'm obese, you can't honestly tell me that I you don't think I need to lose weight. Be encouraging not patronizing!

10acity

Biggest? Probably people who have identified THE POISON we're all consuming. GLUTEN! SPLENDA! ASPARTAME! Give me a break. I'm not giving up Diet Coke because you've decided soda is the devil. I've lost 75 lbs and never gave it up, so I think I'm okay. You don't want to consume it, that's fine. But shut UP.

I also can't stand people who act like they know everything. I offer advice, too. But I don't state it as fact unless I can prove that it is. One of my fav. phrases is "in my experience..." beacuse I don't have a degree in medicine, nutrition, or exercise science. I've just been at this a long time and read a lot. I indicate up-front when my suggestions are just based on my experience. Why do people have such a hard time with that?

esteelewis

Along the lines of "i just can't lose weight" is the "I have a ______ issue that makes it impossible for me to lose."

I have bad genetics. I know it. I have thyroid issues. I have a "slower" metabolism. but does that mean its impossible to lose weight? NO. It means I work a bit harder, and I lose a bit slower. But it is possible.

It means I have to stick to 1600 calories if I want to lose 1-2 lbs a week because my BMR is only around 2000 instead of 2500+ as it should be for my weight. But does that mean its "impossible."? No it just means it is hard. It annoys me when people equate hard with impossible. It is frustrating sure...but set all excuses aside, it can be done.

moonsforeyes

Probably goal weights in general are a pet peeve of mine.

missmelissav

This morning I told my mom that I had finally reached my 50lbs lost mark. I was so freaking happy I could cry. Then she asked what my 'goal weight' was and I told her that according to my height, my weight should be anywhere between 130-150lbs and I'd like to TRY for 150.

Now, I still have 120lbs to go before I even get there, but she says to me, "That's too skinny! You should try for 200lbs and maintain there. It's really hard to get that skinny and stay that way."

So then I told my grandmother our conversation later on and she AGREED with my Mom. "150lbs you'd be too skinny! You'd be nothing but bones!"

Now my Grandma is 150lbs at 5'3 and she is NOT skin and bones. WHY IN THE HECK would she think I would be skin and bones when I'm only two inches taller than her?!

*sighs*

Girly dont listen to that. When I started I was 292. I would tell people my goal of 165 and they would tell me I should just try to go to 200 because I would look sick. Well I am only a few lbs from 165 and I dont look sick. Look at my profile pictures and you be the judge. One thing I have learned on my journey is to stop listening to people and listen to what you want. You CAN do it!!

tarasalazar416

This morning I told my mom that I had finally reached my 50lbs lost mark. I was so freaking happy I could cry. Then she asked what my 'goal weight' was and I told her that according to my height, my weight should be anywhere between 130-150lbs and I'd like to TRY for 150.

Now, I still have 120lbs to go before I even get there, but she says to me, "That's too skinny! You should try for 200lbs and maintain there. It's really hard to get that skinny and stay that way."

So then I told my grandmother our conversation later on and she AGREED with my Mom. "150lbs you'd be too skinny! You'd be nothing but bones!"

Now my Grandma is 150lbs at 5'3 and she is NOT skin and bones. WHY IN THE HECK would she think I would be skin and bones when I'm only two inches taller than her?!

*sighs*

Oh Im so sorry they are so negative. Dont listen to them, and stay positive. You have the right to be any size you want. I am considered obese and it is hard to get where you want to get when you are a big person. We have to work harder to get there. But remember to stay positive and dont let them bring you down and to bring you to give up. Congrats on your 50lb loss mark.