Biggest Pet Peeve

Reedern

Oh, and skinny women who always say things like 'I feel so fat' all the time.....when they are probably at the low end of their BMI range, if not below.

THIS!!! Especially if it's a friend that knows that you are the one trying hard to lose weight. Nothing worse than someone very thin telling you they are "so fat" while looking you up and down and comparing. So ignorant....

helpmelose2011

BTW.... I haven't lost any lately cause I'm Pregnant, and I'm not currently trying to lose weight. BUT when my baby gets here, I AM going to lose all the weight that I gain!

CONGRATS!!

m60kaf

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh you are sooooooooooo right

Mines generally people that chose bits of fact and misinterpret it to continue eating badly . Then question a lack of achievement

There loss, but they are often so vociferousness at defending their misinterpretation.

kristinlough

Mine is that now every piece of food i look at is a number and I mentally calculate the calorie totals all day long. I almost told a girl (slim, fit, bicyclist) that her protein bar she was about to get was over 400 calories and a ton of sugar. Then I mentally slap myself and remember that i'm way over weight and she would probably look at me like I have two heads if I told her that. Plus, that's really annoying too, when people bigger then you try to give you fitness advice.

I did this once - about Chick fil a ... that girl was RUDE back, lectured me, and never spoke to me. So I had to apologize. I bet she never ate that meal again, though.

YukonJoy

sylversun

I agree with a lot of the things that were said.

I've never had much to loose so when people ask why I am trying to loose the answer has been because I want to be healthier. They say if I loose to much I'll be to skinny too but thats also because I 'carry my weight well'... That annoys me. Just cause I carry it well doesn't mean its not effecting me. I am not a vain person I don't want to loose weight to fit into a certain size. I just want to feel better.

Ever since I started this journey I've been a much happier person.

tracym17

People who ask me what I did to lose weight, and then they seem disappointed I did it by moving my @ss and eating healthier. They are like 'Oh.....'.

Seriously? Did they expect me to say I have been slowly having the fat sucked off? I WISH!!

This

It's like they're waiting for me to reveal some kind of miracle way to lose weight.

JGT2004

What are your biggest pet peeves when it comes to diet/exercise?

Mine is "don't worry, muscle weighs more than fat."

Generally this will go as follows:
Friend 1: Help! I have gained 3 lbs this week. I don't understand.

Friend 2: (trying to make you feel better) "Don't worry. Muscle weighs more than fat. Its probably all muscle.".

No. Nope. Nu-uh. Sorry. ..well maybe..yeah..No. It is not muscle...and even if it were muscle the scale wouldn't reflect it.

1) A pound of muscle weighs the same as a pound of fat. A pound is a pound. However, muscle is leaner than fat. So if you really did, miraculously and against all logic, exchange 3 lbs of fat for 3 lbs of muscle you would look leaner. But it would not reflect on the scale.

^^^^ This. When I told my dad and stepmom about my protein shakes and my wanting to lose weight & slim down their response was this. And then they proceeded to tell me protein powder is what they give their longhorns to bulk them up. :grumble: They could not understand that I am wanting to lose the fat and build muscle in a way that I will still weigh less. They still tell me I am too skinny (down to about 152 now) and that muscle weighs more than fat. They like to tell me protein is only good for building muscle so its stupid for me to have a protein shake for breakfast and expect to lose weight. AH!!! Makes me want to pull out my hair!

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katara74

My pet peeve is co-workers that know that you are trying to eat healthier but continuously "push" baked goods that they've baked over the weekend, cookies, donuts, anything sweet in your face. I politely turn them down but if you know that I am trying to be more health conscious dont leave items on my desk when I'm refilling my water bottle.

scottishlass78

Love it

jennifer52484

Pet Peeve:
1. Being asked "how much longer am i going to do this"or how much more are you going to lose? - myob, when i reach my goal, i will surely let you know. thank you:)

2. Friends/ Coworkers saying I wish i could lose weight like you did -- You CAN. It isn't rocket science. exercise and eat right and repeat.

3. being judged by everyone when I eat my healthy food. I do not judge you when you eat cake or pizza so please don't judge me when I eat Egg whites or whey protein.

yesthistime

My pet peeve is co-workers that know that you are trying to eat healthier but continuously "push" baked goods that they've baked over the weekend, cookies, donuts, anything sweet in your face. I politely turn them down but if you know that I am trying to be more health conscious dont leave items on my desk when I'm refilling my water bottle.

Haters gonna hate.

AbiNichole

I hate when people ask me advice and then don't listen at all! Or just make excuses. Why ask me real advice if you're just going to tune out? grrrr:explode:

AllTehBeers

Pet Peeve:
1. Being asked "how much longer am i going to do this"or how much more are you going to lose? - myob, when i reach my goal, i will surely let you know. thank you:)

2. Friends/ Coworkers saying I wish i could lose weight like you did -- You CAN. It isn't rocket science. exercise and eat right and repeat.

3. being judged by everyone when I eat my healthy food. I do not judge you when you eat cake or pizza so please don't judge me when I eat Egg whites or whey protein.

This. Or when people say, you don't need to exercise today, you did that yesterday. :huh: wtf?

When Im eating my fruit at work and people have to make a comment on it. "oh you're on a diet?" "That is sooo healthy" "thats what I SHOULD be eating." So go buy some and eat it. Sheesh.

esteelewis

I hate when people ask me advice and then don't listen at all! Or just make excuses. Why ask me real advice if you're just going to tune out? grrrr:explode:

I could not agree more! Its because people want a quick fix. They don't want to hear exercise/eating right. They want to be able to eat whatever they want and still lose weight. I actually ran into a lady at the store who saw me in my gym clothes. She started talking to me and I mentioned I was losing weight. She asked how and I told her eating healthy food, staying at 1500-1600 calories and working out 5-6 times a week. She said oh I couldn't do that. I am too busy and have kids. I was thinking yep, you are right. You can't because you aren't ready.

I am busy too. I am a new attorney. I understand stress, I understand long hours at the job. Do you know how I combat that..I workout at 5AM so I can't make an excuse at night. It is just an excuse. (granted I spent my entire life, until recently, making the same excuses...)

VanillaBeanSeed

Oh, and skinny women who always say things like 'I feel so fat' all the time.....when they are probably at the low end of their BMI range, if not below.

That shouldn't be a pet peeve. People with low self-esteem shouldn't be dismissed like that, whether they're skinny or fat! Maybe they have a little to lose, in which case, they may feel fat, and if they don't have any to lose, maybe they should be encouraged to realise that. Just a thought.
:flowerforyou:

I never thought of it t hat way before

allysonb80

When my well meaning friends tell me I'm not fat. Um... I weighed 268 lbs. Yes! I was fat!!

Diet pills. On the packaging it says, "with a healthy diet and exercise". Really??? So why do I need your diet pill???

Evelyn_Gorfram

... I am an instant gratification person (most people who are overweight ARE and that's how we end up overweight - we choose the instant joy of fattening/fast food over choosing and preparing healthy meals)

My pet peeve is the "desire for instant gratification makes you fat/fat people just lack will power" assumption/insult/slur. Just because you're an "instant gratification person" and you're overweight doesn't mean everyone else is just like you.

Dude, I was raised in a religion where you sit quietly in a room for 60 minutes to see whether or not you get any Inspiration from God. That's vastly oversimplifying the theology of it; but my point is that when, from the age of 12, you can sit calmly for an hour during which almost nothing happens, you are *not* an instant gratification person.

When I was a Teaching Assisitant during graduate school (itself definitely not an instant gratification proposition), I once spilled a test tube full of molten lead onto my bare forearm. Yes, it hurt like hell. I held my arm under cold running water long to stop any continuing tissue damage, rolled down my shirtsleeves to cover the burn, and finished teaching two more hours of lab class. I'm telling you here and now, that's not something a person without any willpower is going to do.

Some of the reasons why I'm overweight are:
- genetics (every woman I know of on my mom's side of the family is overweight or obese),
- a mild early chilhood brain trauma that makes me suck at most sports & other forms of athletics,
- an extremely painful illness that plagued my early adulthood,
- and the perhaps-related not-quite-so-painful illness that has completely disabled me in middle age.

Yes, that's a lot of crap to go through (and yes, I've gone through all of it). When you've gone through something similar, then you can tell me that a "have no willpower" and am an "instant gratification person." But not before.

jaxbeck

Thank you & I can understand that! I just wish my mother would see what she is killing herself & try to make some changes. I've tried every gentle push that I can but she won't budge

I learned the hard way...and still learn it...if someone is not ready to change they will not change. Something literally has to "click". I have yo-yo dieted my entire life. It was always with half a heart because I knew I should. But the true desire wasn't there. It wasn't until recently that it finally clicked for me. Now there is no stopping me until I hit 160 I really hope it clicks for your mother soon.

Thanks :flowerforyou:

jaxbeck

My pet peeve is co-workers that know that you are trying to eat healthier but continuously "push" baked goods that they've baked over the weekend, cookies, donuts, anything sweet in your face. I politely turn them down but if you know that I am trying to be more health conscious dont leave items on my desk when I'm refilling my water bottle.

Haters gonna hate.

Yes, this!!!!! They are trying so hard!

Massageu2

when people say 'don't throw out your fat clothes, you'll need them again eventually...

Anyone that said that to me would probably get promptly punched square in the face!

KarateGoddess

My pet peeve is co-workers that know that you are trying to eat healthier but continuously "push" baked goods that they've baked over the weekend, cookies, donuts, anything sweet in your face. I politely turn them down but if you know that I am trying to be more health conscious dont leave items on my desk when I'm refilling my water bottle.

Even after you turned them down. Huh! Jerks! In your place, I would have promptly thrown whatever it was they left in the most centrally located trash can so they would have been sure to see it.

privatetime

Oh, and skinny women who always say things like 'I feel so fat' all the time.....when they are probably at the low end of their BMI range, if not below.

That shouldn't be a pet peeve. People with low self-esteem shouldn't be dismissed like that, whether they're skinny or fat! Maybe they have a little to lose, in which case, they may feel fat, and if they don't have any to lose, maybe they should be encouraged to realise that. Just a thought.
:flowerforyou:

I never thought of it t hat way before

I only wanted to add that most of my life I was pretty thin (5'4", 97lbs), and it was a very strange sensation for me when I was even a little bloated. My belly was usally tight as a drum, so any bloat at all felt really weird, and would be noticeable to me throughout the day. I didn't go around saying, "I feel fat," but I sure felt that way. I agree that being obviously thin, and calling oneself "fat", amidst normal-sized people, is probably a plea for attention. Now that I've been overweight for a few years, I STILL notice things like my thighs rubbing or my belly/butt jiggling. The sensations are still foreign to me.

privatetime

... I am an instant gratification person (most people who are overweight ARE and that's how we end up overweight - we choose the instant joy of fattening/fast food over choosing and preparing healthy meals)

My pet peeve is the "desire for instant gratification makes you fat/fat people just lack will power" assumption/insult/slur. Just because you're an "instant gratification person" and you're overweight doesn't mean everyone else is just like you.

Dude, I was raised in a religion where you sit quietly in a room for 60 minutes to see whether or not you get any Inspiration from God. That's vastly oversimplifying the theology of it; but my point is that when, from the age of 12, you can sit calmly for an hour during which almost nothing happens, you are *not* an instant gratification person.

When I was a Teaching Assisitant during graduate school (itself definitely not an instant gratification proposition), I once spilled a test tube full of molten lead onto my bare forearm. Yes, it hurt like hell. I held my arm under cold running water long to stop any continuing tissue damage, rolled down my shirtsleeves to cover the burn, and finished teaching two more hours of lab class. I'm telling you here and now, that's not something a person without any willpower is going to do.

Some of the reasons why I'm overweight are:
- genetics (every woman I know of on my mom's side of the family is overweight or obese),
- a mild early chilhood brain trauma that makes me suck at most sports & other forms of athletics,
- an extremely painful illness that plagued my early adulthood,
- and the perhaps-related not-quite-so-painful illness that has completely disabled me in middle age.

Yes, that's a lot of crap to go through (and yes, I've gone through all of it). When you've gone through something similar, then you can tell me that a "have no willpower" and am an "instant gratification person." But not before.

:-) THIS! (-:

I gained weight because I became insulin resistant. I started treating that, and began losing weight immediately (LITERALLY the day I started treatment). In just a few months, I'm almost back to the weight I was before the IR began, 5 years ago.

So, when I read all the sanctimonious "it's not complicated; it's all calories in/calories out" and "you're not different" kinds of remarks, I don't know whether to attempt to educate, snort back, or just ignore.

I accept that most people probably are overweight because they ate too much and exercised too little. Even in my own case, I can't lose weight without caloric deficit. I mean, that's how long-term weight loss works. But some of us have real, diagnosable, well-researched metabolic issues, for which diet and exercise, alone, could never hope to work (short of starvation and daily marathon running). My weight gain was a mystery, when it began. My diet was pretty healthy, and I had no significant lifestyle changes. Now that I'm treating the IR, I still have to watch my diet & exercise, in order to lose weight. Treatment only allows weight loss to occur, with caloric deficit. Without treatment, though, diet & exercise did nothing.

1953Judith

My biggest pet peeve is my Border Collie who flaunts his speed and agility every time we go to the dog park. I can't catch him to go home until he's done herding other dogs so I am forced to wait and wait. And then when we finally do go home, I have to exercise while he sleeps.

edited to note that I was in a weird mood and that this is a dogged attempt at humor.

LOL loved that one

Thanks! I might add that he was acquired as a rescue dog. So much has he likes to run loose, he doesn't like to lose me.

edited to add a period

veniceit

I doubt it, most of them are just fishing for compliments.

Although you can tell if they're sincere. I have a friend who is very thin, in my eyes, but is upset she can't wear any of her pre-baby clothes. So I'm supportive and got her to try the 30ds, and other ideas. She's probably in a size 4/6 now, but used to be a 2/4.

Ven

veniceit

Yikes that's even worse then being raised a JW hahahaha.

Ven

elsinora

My pet peeve is co-workers that know that you are trying to eat healthier but continuously "push" baked goods that they've baked over the weekend, cookies, donuts, anything sweet in your face. I politely turn them down but if you know that I am trying to be more health conscious dont leave items on my desk when I'm refilling my water bottle.

^^ they are the same who say "YOU don't need to lose weight, you look fine the way you are (even if you are obese and nearly getting type 2 diabetes ....." ANDDDDDDDDDD they are about 5'6" and are a size 0. Saboteurs with their own issues I say.

This sums it up:

kerrymh

People judging each other on how we chose to make positive changes in our lives. I do many things to make a full on lifestyle change and what works for me might not work for others, and what works for jane do might not work for me.
So long as its medically safe I support people in their efforts to get healthy. This is a journey to good health and fitness...how we each get there is our own story and should not be judged as "less than" or "an easy way out".

Thanks

jaxbeck

I agree with a lot of the things that were said.

I've never had much to loose so when people ask why I am trying to loose the answer has been because I want to be healthier. They say if I loose to much I'll be to skinny too but thats also because I 'carry my weight well'... That annoys me. Just cause I carry it well doesn't mean its not effecting me. I am not a vain person I don't want to loose weight to fit into a certain size. I just want to feel better.

Ever since I started this journey I've been a much happier person.

I can relate to this, I get the "carry your weight well" a lot because ....well I do! I'm 6'1' and at 190 I don't look anywhere near it but as you said, just because my height & frame hides it well doesn't mean I don't want to get rid of it & be healthy!