Ignorant colleagues who have never had to lose weight

purplep41n

I'm being very careful at my work. I am not mentioning it at all as I know everyone will give their tuppence worth. Every time my boss goes on a diet she announces it to everyone and from then on, people comment about everything she does and doesn't do. I had the same last year.

With friends as well. Just tires me out. They don't say anything towards me but they talk about their own food intake and it makes me angry when I hear just how they eat on a day to day business. Not angry with them obviously. My to-be Mother In Law made a comment about me slimming for the wedding when I went to eat something weekend just gone. I don't think I had even mentioned that I was doing this. That shocked me. My fiancée even makes comments and he's not slim. I don't think people can help it.

This time, all I've said is that I'd like to be slimmer on my wedding day but I will plan for that not being the case. If anyone notices me losing weight I will say no until/if I can't hide it anymore.

Everyones body is different. Too many of us have messed up our systems by trying to lose weight in all the wrong ways and now we can't just lose weight by eating less and exercising more because we're dealing with something much bigger. All our bodies are going to have different needs.

dlaplume2

All you need to do when you don't want to eat something, it say it doesn't agree with me. You don't need to get into why. Those ignorant colleagues thought they were trying to help. (they didn't) But what they saw was someone who was trying lose weight eating biscuits. You said it yourself, they didn't know about all the exercise and the other stuff you were accomplishing. The see all these fad diets out there and thought this was another one of those.

Let it go. If you witnessed and accident, on your way home from work, then saw it on the news but they neglected to mention a few facts, would get all upset??? You might just walk away shaking your head saying "That's not what happened" Do that wiht this.

GwenaLW

People make lots of ignorant, judgmental comments about lots of things. We feel emotionally upset about it (at least I do) and then eat. I actually had someone lie about me and I got in trouble for it. I just remember someday they will pay for what they did wrong. We as human beings have a tendency to make judgments about things we have never been through ourselves. I went through an extremely difficult time in my life and people were constantly trying to give me advice without knowing all the facts. You need to do what's best for you, and personally I would say don't give those work colleagues any other leftovers! LOL (Seriously is it worth your getting all upset over? I'd say it's their loss). IMHO. Finally I had a lady criticize and judge me for YEARS because I chose to homeschool my children. Guess what? She ended up homeschooling hers. Sometimes those comments stem from a lack of knowledge, and we can potentially help people. God bless you.

thepetiterunner

Just remember that you never need to explain, justify or defend yourself to anyone other than you. You're doing what you think is best for you, regardless of other people's opinions. After all, you're the one that has to live with the consequences of your actions, not anyone else. Everyone has an idea of what they think "healthy" should be, and I rarely find that any two people agree WHOLLY on a set of beliefs (though there may be a large degree of overlap).

Do as you please and you can choose to nod, smile politely and acknowledge other people's "concerns" or tell them to bugger off. Either way, do what you think is best for you and keep moving on towards your goals.

rdsxgrl28

Everyone is an expert, whethe rit is diet, exercise or politics. You will always get those who can say for certainty how to(insert subject here)

Next time just tell them you will read there diet book when it comes out.

Nikki_42

you say "thanks for the advice but im on top of what i should and shouldnt be eating and why, enjoy the biscuits"

Agreed. They (maybe) didn't mean any harm and were trying to be helpful. Even if they weren't, keep it simple like the suggestion above, smile, and walk away.

You're doing great!

boggsmeister

edit: Meant to respond to someone else and it just went on to the end of the post.

boggsmeister

to be honest they are right. You should listen to them more. Overweight people have quite the idea that "skinny" people get or stay that way by accident, but as you are finding out first hand its a continual balancing act. Foods such as biscuits, crisps, all that junk you basically can't eat at all, or very sparingly, (like one of these once a month) otherwise you won't remain slim.
P:eople get tired of overweight people making excuses such as slow metabolisms (baloney) wheat allergies etc being the cause of the overweight.

sorry if this offends but I struggle to see why you had any of the biscuits if you need to lose weight.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Tebbspcad

I must admit I still eat cakes & biscuits (mainly because I enjoy baking & find it very therapeutic!) but try & usually succeed to sticking within my limit for the day. When people ask me about my 'diet' i do find it annoying when they give me dirty looks when I say i'm still eating cakes etc. the dirty look is usually followed by them giving me a knowing look as in...'ahhh so thats why your still fat' <raise the eyebrows>. and to be honest I don't care what they think, i've been on loads of restictive diets and as soon as i'm off the diet I eat like it's going out of fashion - I simply can't handle denying myself anything as i'll just eat twice as much more when I do allow myself to 'cheat'. I now cook with a low fat spray, I eat plenty of healthy, mostly vegetarian dishes - because they are tasty & not because i'm avoiding meat, i exercise 5 or 6 days a week & try to be as active as possible. So I know that over time i will lose weight in a healthy controlled way and i know i won't put the weight back on as bafore as i'm not denying myself anything. It's all good & i'm happier for it! :happy:

KadianRM

I am thrilled to find this thread!!!

I have found that initially when I was talking about getting in shape and building muscle, people LAUGHED at me!! they said muscles were ugly, why would I want that, that isn't beautiful, blah blah blah....

Then after a few months, people noticed!!!! they were like WOW, great job, what are you eating, what are you doing, where do you work out, how much weight have you lost!!!

But...I also got OMG are you even eating, I wouldn't do what you are doing bc I actually like food, and other jabs along those lines.
I know this shouldn't both me, bc it's just jealous people trying to blow out my flame. One of the lowest blows was when I had people at work complimenting my progress and asking for workout tips/recipe ideas THEN one of my FRIENDS said, "oh she just never eats and runs all the time." Which is so untrue and hurtful bc I have worked hard and it felt like she really discredited all my hard work

The truth, I LOVE LOVE LOVE tastes and flavors and healthy food. I have become much more responsible when it comes to portion control and I have learned how to balance my diet better to keep calories low. Oh and I MOVE!!! everyday might not be the best workout or anything intense, but I take the stairs to my 5th floor of work, I park further from stores, and any other little tweaks to move move move.

THE other TRUTH... I love love love helping others get in shape. I will give you all my tips so far for diet, exercise, and positive self talk. I am under the impression that we all can be fit and healthy and happy...it doesn't make my progress any less valuable if everyone around me is healthy too.