what is wrong with me???

10acity

First of all, forgive yourself. Leave what's been done in the past-- you can't undo it. This is one of the most freeing things I have learned. When you fall off the proverbial wagon, don't berate yourself-- just resolve to do something better going forward.

And it is true that the light just has to come on. Something has to "click". I'm not sure how to help with that part. :ohwell:

ElizabethRoad

Problem is: you are human. You need to become a machine!

I know the machines are going to take over eventually, but you could be a little more subtle.

ChanlynMay

Thanks for the replies everyone. There is some fantastic advice! I have always been an all or nothing sort of person with high expectations. I think that wrapping my head around the one step at a time and slower loses is the way to go. It does seem like that is when I give in. If I don’t do 100%, then I feel like a failure and let it all go or if I don’t lose 3 pounds a week then I’m not succeeding. When I get home tonight, I am going to try writing out a couple of small goals and start with that.

Helloitsdan

Why is it that even though I know just about everything there is to know about eating healthy and losing weight... I just can't seem to do it?? I do great for a few days and then it all goes out the window. I am so frustrated and upset with myself and still can't seem to get it together. Does anyone else have a hard time or is it just me???

How long have you been dieting?
I only see about 2 days of logging food.
Are you truly eating enough to have a sustainable diet?
Do you eat enough of your macronutrients?
Do you eat enough for your Height, Weight and Body Fat%?
Are you sure you are ready for a diet now?

Have a look at the link on my profile. I can almost guarantee you arent eating the proper amount of food to lose the weight.

mentar75

I have to be honest! I think a lot of the issue deals with addictions. Sugar, salt, fat. I once was able to lose over 50# on the Atkins diet, got into the last phase, was eating fruits, whole grains, veggies, then I had a spoon full of Taramisu and it was all over! I woke the demon and watched my scale increase weekly and could NOT stop the weight gain! 162, then 167, then 173 then 180 and on and on till 227!
I maintained the 160 for 2 years!!! All low carb flour, meals, ect. But the sugar, fat, and salt come back to me with a vengance!

So, know that these chemicals act on your brain like cocaine with a heroine addict! If we treated these items like coccaine we would not use them, avoid them like the plague

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forever! However, they are everywhere! Fake sugar is also not an option, still feeds the addiction. So, your only options, fight like hell and never give up, do the best you can daily! Don't weigh yourself daily, keep accountable for all your foods placed in the mouth, accept failure, and move on!

Know your triggers! Hang in there! Tara

RunHardBeStrong

I think a lot of times people try to drop their calories too low or start up enormous exercise routines they can't keep up with. Start small, take baby steps, enjoy the journey- eventually you'll get there!

What she said - If you're having that much trouble sticking to it, perhaps you set your goals too high for the level of effort you're able to put in at this point. Even a half pound a week is better than nothing if you can do it consistently.

+1

browntracy72

You are not the only one, it took me a long time to figure out that I had destroyed my metabolism and the only way that I got myself on track was to start with working out then I made small changes. Like breakfast was my first meal I changed and made it a habit to eat a select menu of clean eats, then I moved it to dinners being healthy. and now that I have all three meals that I eat clean and healthy it makes my decisions much easier. I do body rockers and Lisa Marie has the best body ever I look at her and think I want that. I think of that when I make decisions on what I choose to eat. because one day this 40 year old woman is going to be fit and lean. I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT.

dynamicwon

Dont feel bad its only normal. I really needed to lose weight for health reasons but after my divorce I couldnt do it. Food was and still is my comfort. You have to want this BAD! My twins were having a big sweet 16 party . I finally did it only because that event motivated me to do it. Every time I wanted to binge I thought about how I just had to look better than my ex new girlfriend at that party! Now that I have lost the weight its still a constant battle. You have to get into a routine of eating right and exercising. We all have good days and bad days (i'm up ten pounds right now but back on the wagon). I try to follow a pattern of eating clean at least six days a week when possible and exercising at the gym or even putting on leg weights during house work (it works!) at least four to five days a week!

SoDamnHungry

Small changes... If you always have so much trouble, don't start dieting and exercising the same week. Add things in gradually. Or watch what you eat and start walking. Get used to the ideas and ease yourself in. The longer you can continue, the easier it will be. And remember that overeating doesn't suddenly mean it's all over. So you ate two doughnuts? Get back on track THIS second. Don't wait for tomorrow.