Women--How do you keep your confidence up?
xcgirl078
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Hey girls, how do you keep your self-esteem and confidence up? I'm tired of depending on guys' or other people's approval to make me feel confident. I want to feel confident in myself, like all of us beautiful ladies should! So, what works for you?
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As humans we then to focus only on what fits with our beliefs and dismiss what does not. Unfortuately if we don't think highly of ourselves, that means that we hear all the criticism and dismiss all the positive things people say. The key is to make a habit to override this impulse. Force yourself to hear and take note of the positive, even if your impulse is to then dismiss the comment. ALSO, learn to love the things you love (or even like) about yourself. It doesn't matter how silly it might be as long as it means something to you! For example, I can move my little toe independent of my other toes... I think that's pretty cool and like that about me... now it doesn't mean snot to anyone else, but hey, in the end I'm the only one that has to live with me!0
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I find things about myself that are amazing to me. Like the fact that I can run miles and miles, when other people only run if a bear is chasing them. And they'd die, because they could only make it a few feet.
I think my boobs are amazing, not just because they're boobs, but because they make food for my daughter. That's just awesome. I make food. And it makes someone else grow. Holy amazing, Batman.
I also have super strong feet. I can walk on any surface barefoot, and barely flinch, while my boyfriend walks on the dirt and winces. My feet are super-awesome-amazing things that could carry me over any terrain.
I also am super-flexible, and my body maintains its strength and flexibility really well, even when I have taken it for granted in the past. It is a healthy body that treats me right, and I really appreciate it much more now.
Really, it's just about finding things within yourself that you appreciate, and focusing on those. It's hard, because people like to focus on flaws instead, but when you find yourself focusing on the negative, find something positive to make up for it. After a while, it'll just become habit.0 -
I'm tired of depending on guys' or other people's approval to make me feel confident.
Read a book called "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie.0 -
I look at my daughter. Its important for me to be her role model in life so I must put forth a positive attitude and confidence in front of her. Its become second nature now and even when she is not around I strut with confidence.0
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Strut like a boss!....and lipgloss0
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As I posted in the thread about mommies' bellies, I call bull$!t on the messages that society feeds women. I refuse to believe that in order to be beautiful, I have to look as though I never age or have never had children. I don't believe that the surgically altered, photoshopped images of women that I see everywhere are a true respresentation of women. I do believe that there is great profit to made from women's insecurities, and I refuse to feed it.
I give more weight to things like love and kindness and intelligence and strength and endurance...and those are the things I look for in other women that I find beautiful and also myself.0 -
oh and confidence builds on confidence!! Fake confidence leads to real confidence0
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oh and confidence builds on confidence!! Fake confidence leads to real confidence
Yes, faking it until you make it actually does work... lol...0 -
Yeah... intoxicated confidence has finally carried over to the world of sobriety haha :P0
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Wow, this could be the 24-year old me asking the 40-year old me, I'm so glad you asked!!!
First of all, you are beautiful which is a bonus. It can be a double-edged sword though because people (women, in particular) tend to feel intimidated by pretty women and will pull out all their tricks to make you feel less than you really are. Men who are intimidated will make sure you feel like you're only as good as the next girl. He's a chump, don't waste your time on him.
As the years go by, you'll become more and more confident - trust me on this. Fake confidence for now and soon, you'll start believing it. Say it in the mirror "Good morning Beautiful! Go smile and wink at someone and make their day"! Sounds corny but just say any affirmation over and over, the mind will pay attention to your voice and not those other idiots that put themselves first.
Be good to yourself, most of all. No one else should make you feel any other way than how you feel about yourself.0 -
I have to say to myself "you've worked hard to come this far, be proud of yourself"...no one made you do the things you do-eat healthy, workout, get out of bed!! So be happy with the accomplishments you've made so far...no matter what they are, its a start. Then make a point of reminding yourself of one of those things every time you put yourself down. Then soon you'll go to those first, like "wow, my legs are looking good from all those lunges" or "I managed to make it through a workout even though I was exhausted, I must be stronger than I thought." Slowly you will be your own motivator and all those extra compliments will be a added boost!!0
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I always dress feminine and attractive whenever I leave the house and I surround myself with positive people.0
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Strut like a boss!....and lipgloss
Definitely lipgloss!0 -
I'm gonna bump this one cuz my confidence sucks! LOL0
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I look at my daughter. Its important for me to be her role model in life so I must put forth a positive attitude and confidence in front of her. Its become second nature now and even when she is not around I strut with confidence.
^^^ This.0 -
It's not just ladies that have this issue... trust me... I can relate to this so very much.0
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I suck at it. lol
Looking forward to reading everyone else's answers. :bigsmile:0 -
Stewart Smalley's Mantra...Repeat every day!
And also, as the others have said, lip gloss.0 -
I remind myself that I won’t be everyone’s “type” but that there will always be someone that is attracted to my mentally and physically… reminding myself of this helps keep my confidence up... even on down days. “Self confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings”0
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Hey girls, how do you keep your self-esteem and confidence up? I'm tired of depending on guys' or other people's approval to make me feel confident. I want to feel confident in myself, like all of us beautiful ladies should! So, what works for you?
You're one beautiful looking woman. You don't need anyone else's approval for that.
While it's nice to get once in a while, you shouldn't define yourself by it.0
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