question for the ladies be honest here?

martin_chicago
martin_chicago Posts: 263 Member
in Chit-Chat
if your a chick with a nice body
you know big butt what ever
so when you look at an average Joe and he tries to get with you
right away do you think i can do way better and not give him a chance
or you listen what he has to offer

do looks play a big role in your relationship
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  • scapez
    scapez Posts: 2,018 Member
    Looks...yes. But even more so, personality and compatibility.

    When you find the one my dear, you will know.
  • tiffjeff69
    tiffjeff69 Posts: 26
    I'm a firm believer in giving someone a chance to have a conversation so that I can see what kind of focus they have. I learned a long time ago that looks only get you so far. I was in the military for almost 10 years and I know well enough that those pretty features can become disfigured in the blink of an eye...sooo to sum it all up I WILL TAKE BRAINS OVER BRAWN ANYDAY :wink:
  • Tempe729
    Tempe729 Posts: 270 Member
    Looks...yes. But even more so, personality and compatibility.

    When you find the one my dear, you will know.

    Couldn't said it better myself =)
  • Anyaaaa11
    Anyaaaa11 Posts: 242 Member
    Average? average is good.. I'm not expecting someone to walk in looking like vin diesel (;
    Lol & if he has a great personality that's even better. Most girls aren't that shallow..

    I like average guys. If I had a guy that was perfect, high maintenance I probably couldnt keep up..
    We'd be on totally different pages.

    Besides It's all about the chemistry baby! (well,mostly) lol
  • J3SSP3NNY
    J3SSP3NNY Posts: 235
    Personality before looks. BUT I do believe there has to be attraction as well.
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
    I can only speak for myself and my friends I know, but generally we go for the "average joe" type guys. One of my friends said she goes for average looking guys because the "good looking" guys tend to be jerks. For me, If the guy has a good sense of humor, is respectful, and fun to talk to, I automatically find him attractive regardless of his "average" looks. When I first meet a guy, I pay more attention to how he carries himself and what "vibe" I get from him than what his face and body looks like.
  • Karalopolous
    Karalopolous Posts: 574
    Can thisguy make me laugh? Did he approach me confidently or drop a stupid line?
    Of course looks do come into play, but it's a mix of looks and personality
  • bear_nakey
    bear_nakey Posts: 340 Member
    A great attitude definitely makes even the most average looking man super sexy!! Looks do play a role, but it is all about being comfortable with the person you are, and knowing that the person you seek isn't going to be above you, and you surely aren't going to be below.... afterall, you can't truly love anyone properly, unless you love yourself first.
  • missjoci
    missjoci Posts: 412 Member
    The first thing that attracts me is looks and sense of humor. He doesn't have to be the hottest man in the room, but some attraction is very important. After that personality makes or breaks the connection.
  • fitby38
    fitby38 Posts: 307 Member
    ahhh ... yeah ... it makes a difference ... real talk ... if i aint attracted to what i see ... well ahh ... :wink:
  • JaySpice
    JaySpice Posts: 326 Member
    Do you Mr. Average Joe give the woman that just walked with a flat behind but giving you the eye the time of the day?
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
    Looks, yea they play a factor. Personality, compatibility, humor, brains, etc are the deal breakers. Personally I know know a couple "hott" guys that should never talk because they just instantly because ugly and unbearable.
  • robiney
    robiney Posts: 15
    I care most about sense of humor and morals. I feel like no matter what the guy you're talking with looks like, you can end up finding him attractive as he reveals himself to you! I love funny guys. I want to laugh a lot every day for the rest of my life, so that's way more important to me!
  • fitby38
    fitby38 Posts: 307 Member
    :laugh:
    Do you Mr. Average Joe give the woman that just walked with a flat behind but giving you the eye the time of the day?

    :laugh:
  • singledj
    singledj Posts: 147 Member
    Looks...yes. But even more so, personality and compatibility.

    When you find the one my dear, you will know.

    Couldn't said it better myself =)


    /\ This!!
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    aesthetics matter.

    ambition matters.

    intelligence matters.

    personality matters.

    If someone "scores" really well in one of those areas but not the other three? Nope. So if the average guy approaches me at a bar, I might let him buy me a drink. I might chat with him for a bit. But I'm already looking over his shoulder at the gorgeous 6 foot beautiful man with the slightly disheveled business suit playing pool with his buddies.
    If he has all the other three things going on, then he might win me over. but i'm sneaking a peek over his shoulder to see what he tips the bartender, i'm calculating the cost and effort of his wardrobe, and i'm listening for clues that he might live at home with mom and dad and not know what it's like to have a job.

    I'm not a gold digger. I don't care if "my man" doesn't spend one dime on me as long as he still finds ways to let me know he's interested, etc. I'm not shallow, I don't mind if his friends are hotter than he is. And I'm not looking for someone to take care of me. I just want to know that
    a) he doesn't feel entitled to life's luxuries.
    b) if he's going to a bar with the intent to meet a girl, he has most likely spent an hour or two in the bathroom in front of a mirror trying to acheive just the right blend of "yeah. you know I'm sexy" and "who, me? I woke up looking this good". So if he walks up to me looking like he's worn the same clothes for days, i'll pass.
    c) if he lives with mom and dad, they had better be ill and guests in a home he owns. or he should be holding down a job and school and taking advantage of mom's cooking. I can deal with that at my age.
  • aprildawn81
    aprildawn81 Posts: 668 Member
    I don't care how good looking a man is, if he has a rotten personality, it makes him ugly. Give me an "average joe" that can make me laugh and has a genuine spirit, over the hottest man on earth, with a totally crappy attitude, any day.
  • josiebarboza
    josiebarboza Posts: 22
    Of course looks matter but not as much as personality. I personaly used to be the girl that only wanted the super hot guys but found out really quick that they are usually way over confident in them selves which makes the hotness fade away so fast. I have to have a guy that cares about me as well and is not alway concerned about himself. I would rather have a man who is not so hot with a great personality than a jerk with a nice face.
  • DataBased
    DataBased Posts: 513 Member
    I'm a firm believer in giving someone a chance to have a conversation so that I can see what kind of focus they have. I learned a long time ago that looks only get you so far. I was in the military for almost 10 years and I know well enough that those pretty features can become disfigured in the blink of an eye...sooo to sum it all up I WILL TAKE BRAINS OVER BRAWN ANYDAY :wink:
    ^^^ This, exactly!

    And tiffjeff69, thank you for your service. :flowerforyou:
  • rextcat
    rextcat Posts: 1,408 Member
    if he can make us laugh we dont realy give a $&(% about the rest
  • Snow__White
    Snow__White Posts: 1,650 Member
    i just came here to see all the Hotties with a nice body
    who answerd your question:happy:
  • srenebailey
    srenebailey Posts: 39 Member
    Maybe it's not the average type body that turns them off...maybe it's because you're calling them "chicks"... :-) All jokes aside, when I get my body back in shape, I think I will still listen to what the man has to say. After all, looks and bodies change.
  • naomi8888
    naomi8888 Posts: 519 Member
    I think it's more about the confidence they have (but not arrogance!). So yes you need to be attracted to them but I don't think they have to be incredibly good looking to be attractive. Being attractive is about more than just looks.
  • muffin_shufflin
    muffin_shufflin Posts: 239 Member
    It really does depend on their attitude & personality. I've talked to some fine specimens who were actually really cool, which made them more attractive. There are also the guys that know they're gorgeous & are arrogant about it, not so attractive. I've also met some everage joes that thought they were God's gift to women for some reason. But for the most part, average joes are great in my book because they're usually pretty cool people :)
  • aquarianpixi
    aquarianpixi Posts: 131 Member
    In the traditional since? No. I don't care what a guy looks like. Looks matter to the point were it looks like he at least bathes a few times a week.

    of course I'm not much of a catch. who and am i to judge?
  • aquarianpixi
    aquarianpixi Posts: 131 Member
    of course this is an awesome quote. " You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful — and then you actually talk with them, and five minutes later they're as dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think: "Not bad, they're okay," and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it; and they just — and they turn into something so beautiful."
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    I've been told by MFPals that I have a nice body (and everything you read on the internet is true, RIGHT???)
    I don't have a big butt, but it is round and shaped like a C.
    I haven't met any average Joes lately and no one ever tries to "get with me" BUT....

    My ex was 4 1/2 inches shorter than me, 45 pounds heavier, had back hair and a beer belly, and I found him extremely attractive in a physical sense.

    So yes, looks play a part, but don't assume that everyone's idea of "attractive" is the same.

    Also, you're flippin' adorable, so stop worrying about it so much. Heck, I accepted your FR *purely* to add guy candy to my wall.
  • martin_chicago
    martin_chicago Posts: 263 Member
    your very sweet :)
    i likes

    I've been told by MFPals that I have a nice body (and everything you read on the internet is true, RIGHT???)
    I don't have a big butt, but it is round and shaped like a C.
    I haven't met any average Joes lately and no one ever tries to "get with me" BUT....

    My ex was 4 1/2 inches shorter than me, 45 pounds heavier, had back hair and a beer belly, and I found him extremely attractive in a physical sense.

    So yes, looks play a part, but don't assume that everyone's idea of "attractive" is the same.

    Also, you're flippin' adorable, so stop worrying about it so much. Heck, I accepted your FR *purely* to add guy candy to my wall.
  • carrotstick2012
    carrotstick2012 Posts: 161
    Looks have never been a factor for me. It's a guys personality and enjoyment of their company, common values, etc, that attract me.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    if your a chick with a nice body
    you know big butt what ever
    so when you look at an average Joe and he tries to get with you
    right away do you think i can do way better and not give him a chance
    or you listen what he has to offer

    do looks play a big role in your relationship


    So I don't apply because I don't have a nice body (yet) or a nice butt (yet) but as for me, I don't judge a guy first thing off his looks. Personality matters. A good personality is what makes a man sexy. Period.

    :)

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