Guys: I have a question...help a girl out?

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  • chicago_dad
    chicago_dad Posts: 357
    Here's the way to do the correct comparative empirics:
    1. go to this website: http://funbindass.com/supermodels-with-and-without-makeup/
    2. guys-- ask yourself, "if you were on a date with the girl on the left side (no make-up), and she wanted to fool around with you, would you be into it?"
    3. If the answer is yes, then look at the same girl on the right of the picture (w/ make-up), and, assuming you would still be into fooling around with her, ask yourself, "does the make-up lend the subtle suggestion that this girl has something to prove? that she thinks that she isn't sufficiently attractive w/out make-up? What is she trying to hide? She must be insecure about her appearance, I wonder what else she isn't secure about? She probably has lower self-esteem than I would have thought she had if she didn't have make-up on."...
    4. If one says yes to #2, and feels as described in #3, then, it's a no-brainer NOT to wear make-up.
  • tashaa1992
    tashaa1992 Posts: 658 Member
    I know I'm not a guy lol but I think if you let your friend give you a makeover, you wouldn't be going as you, really you'd be going as her. I'm a natural kind of girl too, all I wear is mascara, a bit of bronzer and lip butter, it's all very subtle, but I never used to be. I like the fact I can put on my make up within five minutes and not have to spend hours on it like some girls do.
    If he doesn't like you for who you are then it's his loss, because there will be someone who loves you for it.
    Whatever you decide, just go out and enjoy yourself:) xxx
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    I'm not a guy either, but you are gorgeous. You don't need a bunch of fake stuff to make you look better. You already look fabulous.
    QFT
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    I think women who put stacks of make-up on with fake tans, crazy lipstick etc look ridiculous.

    http://msnbcmedia1.msn.com/j/msnbc/Components/Photos/040527/040527_bozo_ccol.grid-4x2.jpg
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    Personally, I like a girl with subtle makeup. . makeup I don't notice. Fake eyelashes are horrible! (Fake boobs are nice, though. . lol). .I do love hair as well, so go to town on that. . But I don't really like it when it's full of product. . I like it to look soft, like I could run my fingers through it. . Good luck!
  • beachbumdoug
    beachbumdoug Posts: 171 Member
    Be yourself, go with whatever makes you comfortable.Just by asking this question, you already know what you want to do. Have a great time and you look awesome just the way you are!!!!
  • jrich1
    jrich1 Posts: 2,408 Member
    Just Be yourself.. that way if the relationship goes further you are yourself and not someone your friend wants you to be.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I don't think the amount of makeup or however you doll yourself up is going to be the determining factor of whether your date will be successful or not....if he's into you, you wouldn't need all that stuff anyway....
  • SafireBleu
    SafireBleu Posts: 881 Member
    I always dress up for dates, do my hair wear some extra makeup that sort of thing and if you are going out to a nice restaurant and dancing you want to look your best but still look like you. Maybe she can do your hair and give you some makeup without turning you into her. Tell her no fake nails or eyelashes or a ton of foundation. My cousin loves all that fake stuff but she is a makeup artist and when she did my makeup for weddings I have been in she does not do all that stuff to me but I still look nice. When I go out I do my own makeup which would be less than I'd use for a formal event but more than lip gloss and mascara.
  • AlSalzman
    AlSalzman Posts: 296 Member
    Don't dress up, but get vajazzled.

    Put your effort into the things that the guy will care about.
  • Chuckw40
    Chuckw40 Posts: 201
    I have to agree with everyone saying that you are beautiful as is and I personally am not a fan of the heavy make-up look. Lipstick is sexy though ;-)
  • calvert6183
    calvert6183 Posts: 539 Member
    I’m single, will you date me?…hahahha just kidding. :laugh:

    I have a date this weekend and my friend wants to give me a makeover for it. She is the type that wears the fake nails, big made up hair, fake eyelashes, tons of heavy makeup…the whole nine. She is beautiful don’t get me wrong. But I call her Barbie because everything on her is fake, yea even the boobs. Lol I on the other hand I am a mascara and lipstick kind of girl.:smile:

    Once again she wants to give me a makeover. But I am afraid guys see through that kind of thing? What do you think? Do you care if a girl is heavily made-up? Is it a turn-off, do you prefer it? I’m so afraid one of my fake eyelashes will fall in his soup!!! :huh:

    just be yourself, if you are not the prissy makeup princess type then dont do it because its misleading. Women do this stuff to impress guys and then later after they hit it off then the girls quit playing dressup and then it creates problems because the guy thinks she has changed in a bad way. People date people based on the concept they get from the beginning so its best to be yourself. Me and my friends have historically had this issue, women portray themselves as being laidback, fun, spontaneous, loves sports, and loves sex all the time but later the true selfs come out and thats when trouble happens. I think both men and women should try to impress the other by being them true selfs instead of focusing on being what they think they will like and try to fake being that person. Its starting things out as a lie. You are amazing the way you are now and that guy will like you so dont let anyone change you.
  • AlanLeMay
    AlanLeMay Posts: 20
    My personal opinion is that I prefer a natural woman. If a woman cannot be herself for me then who am I dating. I don't see a need for all the makeup and fake add ons.
  • JeepBrah
    JeepBrah Posts: 150
    why would you change being yourself for a date? If you normally don't use all this make up stuff why would you do it now. + to much make up fake tits etc makes you just look dumb as ****. If he doesn't like you being yourself he isn't the right guy for you anyway.
  • ConcordPhil
    ConcordPhil Posts: 118 Member
    You're a very pretty young lady. Go as yourself. How you feel comfortable. Don't let someone make you up they way they feel comfortable.

    best. answer. ever.

    yep... this
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    You're a very pretty young lady. Go as yourself. How you feel comfortable. Don't let someone make you up they way they feel comfortable.

    This :)
  • Emancipated_Tai
    Emancipated_Tai Posts: 751 Member
    I LOVE MAKEUP!!!

    With that being said, when going on a date the key is to keep it as natural as possible. This way, you have a slight enhancement, but still are showing your own true self. Stick with earth tones and hues that complement your skin tone. You are very beautiful already, so you really don't need much. I would go with a brown or gold eye shadow and mascara, no fake lashes. Stay away from very dark eyeliner. For you, I would recommend a brown liner. Finish off with a gloss and hint of blush.

    Have fun!!
  • 879311
    879311 Posts: 60
    My personal preference is not a lot of make up. I like the natural-girl-next-door look rather than the plastic-could-live-in-hollywood look.

    Maybe tell your friend that you appreciate her help but you want to be as much "yourself" as you can be since you are meeting a new guy. Tell her you are concerned that if all goes well and you both want to see each other again and you go as "yourself" he might think it's odd that you were so different.

    Just be you!!!
  • connie_messina
    connie_messina Posts: 495 Member
    most guys like the natural girls for long term!! and u should be yourself that's how u will feel comfortable!
  • AEJhoi
    AEJhoi Posts: 36
    Okay obviously I am not a guy but I would go with the mascara and lipstick. He will never find you any more beautiful with lots of make up (not saying you shouldn't wear any! make up can really accentuate your beauties and cover your flaws a bit, but you should never overdo it)
  • connie_messina
    connie_messina Posts: 495 Member
    why would you change being yourself for a date? If you normally don't use all this make up stuff why would you do it now. + to much make up fake tits etc makes you just look dumb as ****

    well fkn said!!
  • grinch031
    grinch031 Posts: 1,679
    I don't see anything wrong with dressing to impress and putting lots of makeup on. If anything it shows you are serious about going on this date. But I think where many go wrong is that they don't know how to use makeup effectively to look better, instead they look like a clown. That is the wrong way to do it.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    Don't dress up, but get vajazzled.

    Put your effort into the things that the guy will care about.

    not cool, man. that stuff's a choking hazard.

    as far as makeup is concerned, be yourself. some girls like a lot, a little, none at all. what matters is you wear it the way you like to.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    Be yourself. If you change a lot of things that you know you will not maintain, the relationship, should it develop, will be initially based upon a false image of who you are. You will be better off to just be you... Of course putting your best foot forward -- we all do that (well I did when I dated)... Just be you.
  • bellygoaway
    bellygoaway Posts: 441 Member
    The very fact you have lost 78 pounds is proof you are changing. There is nothing wrong with trying something new. Who knows, talking about your makeover could be the small talk that breaks the ice. Having said that, heavy makeup is somewhat of a turn-off for me. Some make up is good. It is important to be your new self, not let your old self continue to rule your life.

    Good luck, and you do look great.
  • Shriffee
    Shriffee Posts: 250 Member
    From my female opinion, I would let her help with hair and make-up, but I wouldn't let her do anything that made you feel uncomfortable. I see make-up and hair as "fun" and I like getting ready with girlfriends for the social aspect. If you aren't into that sort of thing, then don't worry about it. You want the guy to see you for who you are
  • Marper8521
    Marper8521 Posts: 158 Member
    Well I'm not a make-up type of guy, so maybe I'm just weird like this. But if my blind date showed up looking like she was a mannequin in a storefront window, that would probably be the only date we had. It's ok with me to have the nails and hair done, but that other stuff just takes the air out of my sail.
  • tcunbeliever
    tcunbeliever Posts: 8,219 Member
    I advise my sons against dating anyone who has more than 1 or 2 fake things. Girls with too many fake things are just pretending or insecure or totally clueless about who they really are and should not be taken seriously. Hair color and fake nails are probably just a sign of someone trying to look nice...hair color, hair extensions, fake nails, fake boobs, fake eyebrows, and makeup that has to be chiseld off are probably signs of something to run away from.

    The most important thing on a first date is for you to be comfortable. I don't see any problems with trying your friends makeover ideas, but try them in advance of the date so you can see what you like or don't like about the makeover and then you can decide what you are comfortable with for the date. Being made over and awkward will not be fun even if you look like a super model...but you might find something in a makeover that you like and want to keep. She may do a stunning eye makup routine that you fall in love with, or she may present you with a new hairstyle you love. Don't be afraid to push the edges of your comfort zone and try new things, but I wouldn't advocate doing a full makover and a first date simultaneously.
  • MrsLVF
    MrsLVF Posts: 787 Member
    You want him to like you right?
    You should just be who you are. If that's what you like then fine, if not don't get a "fake-over" for a date.
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Don't dress up, but get vajazzled.

    Put your effort into the things that the guy will care about.

    not cool, man. that stuff's a choking hazard.

    :laugh: :laugh:

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