Couples who love together?

JustJennie1

Nope. I have always bought the groceries no matter what.

doinitforme2012

yes and no. we get food stamps so that is kind of split but he is the only one who works so he pays for everything our food stamps dont cover.

clh126

I guess it depends on the level of your relationship. I am engaged ( getting married this year) and we have been living together for 2 years. We pool all of our money so its not like one person pays for this and one pays for that. We share it all

I think it's probably a combination of what you stated and just personal preference. I am engaged also and everything is pooled together, but we pooled our finances for the past few years, even before we were engaged. I think we knew for a long time that we were eventually going to get married, so it just made sense to us to share everything. We actually maintain separate bank accounts, but transfer money between them when needed.

weighlossforbaby

im married but when we lived together just dating we shared everything, what was mine was his and what was his was mine. he was my boyfriend, not my roommate...

^^ I agree with this!!! He is the provider and I am a homemaker so we share everything. We are husband and wife, not roommates.

sleepytexan

just get married already. sheesh. 4 kids later and my first career "retired", it'd cost him more than he could earn in a lifetime to replace me. :laugh:

Awkward30

Well, my bf and I have been together over nine years. In the beginning three to four years I was a full time student and didnt have a job so he paid for everything while I went to school. About three years ago we got pregnant and during my pregnancy he got laid off. We decided it would be better for him to be a SAHF because I have a great high paying job. It costs alot for childcare here so if he got another job (hard thing to do in this economy in Hawaii) the cost to hire childcare for an infant would be almost as much as he would make! We decided he would stay home a year and we could get childcare after that because its cheaper after the baby turns one here. Well, we ended up getting pregnant again! So for the past three years he has been a SAHF and I pay for all our expenses. BUT, we have been together so long and combined our money (whats his is mine, whats mine is his) that no one keeps track of anything and he has full access to the the money if and when he wants to use it to buy something. I love this arrangement because I dont have to worry about our babies and can encourage him to use this freetime to go back to school and finish a degree. Sometimes, he says he feels like he is not a "man" and doesnt feel okay with the fact that he isnt earning an income but I think he has a much more important job raising two babies at the moment and will have the rest of his life to work his butt off (he just made 33). I also say since he took care of me the first few years, karma has stepped in and reversed the roles!

That's a cute story!

I find it interesting that some people met my question with such hostility. A person is not destined to have unsuccessful relationships simply because they are acutely aware of finances. I love the guy and if he completely lost his job, I'd support him fully. I was just asking a question about what people do.

Chubbyhulagirl

Well, my bf and I have been together over nine years. In the beginning three to four years I was a full time student and didnt have a job so he paid for everything while I went to school. About three years ago we got pregnant and during my pregnancy he got laid off. We decided it would be better for him to be a SAHF because I have a great high paying job. It costs alot for childcare here so if he got another job (hard thing to do in this economy in Hawaii) the cost to hire childcare for an infant would be almost as much as he would make! We decided he would stay home a year and we could get childcare after that because its cheaper after the baby turns one here. Well, we ended up getting pregnant again! So for the past three years he has been a SAHF and I pay for all our expenses. BUT, we have been together so long and combined our money (whats his is mine, whats mine is his) that no one keeps track of anything and he has full access to the the money if and when he wants to use it to buy something. I love this arrangement because I dont have to worry about our babies and can encourage him to use this freetime to go back to school and finish a degree. Sometimes, he says he feels like he is not a "man" and doesnt feel okay with the fact that he isnt earning an income but I think he has a much more important job raising two babies at the moment and will have the rest of his life to work his butt off (he just made 33). I also say since he took care of me the first few years, karma has stepped in and reversed the roles!

That's a cute story!

I find it interesting that some people met my question with such hostility. A person is not destined to have unsuccessful relationships simply because they are acutely aware of finances. I love the guy and if he completely lost his job, I'd support him fully. I was just asking a question about what people do.

Thanks! Yes, some people take things a bit too personally and want to project their opinions on everyone around them. I say live and let live. Whatever floats your boat is what you should do!

PapaverSomniferum

In my household,

he gives me all his money

and i do all the cooking

Il_DaniD_lI

It's strange for me to think about splitting any costs with my boyfriend. We combine our income and always have.

runnercheryl

It's strange for me to think about splitting any costs with my boyfriend. We combine our income and always have.

Strange for me to imagine combining incomes.

adamb83

Do you split food costs evenly even if one partner eats literally twice as much as the other?

I pay for pretty much everything.... *shrug*

Il_DaniD_lI

It's strange for me to think about splitting any costs with my boyfriend. We combine our income and always have.

Strange for me to imagine combining incomes.

It wasn't as pleasant when he was on Employment Insurance but wonderful now that he is business for self. :happy:

insaneandroid

I try to split the food cost but he refuses to let me buy all the time, hahaha.