Eating Disorders

ichangedmyname3

|"I hope they decide to get better soon"

We can't really 'decide' anything.

ED support is just not ok though. It is a serious condition that has truly messed up my life.

hyperkate

That makes me ill. As someone who was seriously underweight... you CAN'T be that way forever. I read that anorexia can only last for so long and then go in one of three directions - death, rehabilitation, or another ED. And now I'm trying to LOSE weight because of the weight gain from the binges, due to the fact that for years my body had been deprived for so long. I just think to myself, I would never, EVER wish this on someone else. It has handicapped me in so many ways. I have lost so many wonderful opportunities of my teens and early 20s because of its isolation.

Completly agree with this! I have been controlling my anorexia/bulimia since I admitted to it at 16! It is a life long illness that can return at any point and it is something I wouldn't wish on anybody x

PapaverSomniferum

This site has done wonders for my ED habits. I've had a somewhat normal intake ever since I came here. I have friends on my list on both sides of disordered eating: those with restriction issues and those with overeating issues. I have friends who are still pro-ed and friends who are also recovering.

Banning the pro-ed sites make the issue worse, people. It helps alienate people who need the help. It causes the people to withdraw deeper, and to want recovery LESS. It's a rebellion thing.

"Oh yeah? No one accepts us. STARVE ALL THE FAT OFF! Screw them!"

believe me, i've been there.

and yeah, it's disturbing and it's scary, but these people need acceptance. Acceptance of the person helps the person accept themselves.

and self-acceptance is the ONLY cure for eating disorders

the. only. cure.

stellaskies

I can't judge anyone that has an ED on here, honestly. This is a diet and fitness website, of course people with that kind of mental issue will flock here. All I can hope for is that they read the message boards and decide they want to be healthy and lose weight the right way. I'd rather set a good example for them then report them. They'll just go to another website anyway.

kate_sunflower

That makes me ill. As someone who was seriously underweight... you CAN'T be that way forever. I read that anorexia can only last for so long and then go in one of three directions - death, rehabilitation, or another ED. And now I'm trying to LOSE weight because of the weight gain from the binges, due to the fact that for years my body had been deprived for so long. I just think to myself, I would never, EVER wish this on someone else. It has handicapped me in so many ways. I have lost so many wonderful opportunities of my teens and early 20s because of its isolation.

Completly agree with this! I have been controlling my anorexia/bulimia since I admitted to it at 16! It is a life long illness that can return at any point and it is something I wouldn't wish on anybody x

Right on (from one Kate to another)

xPOOKiEx

I'm someone recovering from an ED. We are not monsters, it's a horrible disease. Honestly, we don't choose it. I'm sorry for the people who think differently.

Yes, we do want to look perfect...but who doesn't. Our idea of perfect is just a little different than that of others. Some think that by becoming skinnier and seeing that "thigh gap" or seeing our bones we will be happy.

Some people can't help eating everything and are defined as "over-eaters". Some binge and purge.

The issue is more than skin deep though, in all reality. I will always be someone with an eating disorder, I'm just currently in the recovery stage.

People should get to know the person behind the disorder instead of just judging right off the bat.

As I noted earlier, I am just someone with personal history of an ED. I am not trying to claim I am some specialist, or that it isn't a problem, because it is. But the problem is more than just a bad relationship with food. We have self-esteem issues like everyone else. We handle it differently, unfortunately.

Give us a break. If you don't like what I have to say...too bad.

graelwyn

Having battled EDs since the age of 13 on and off (I am now almost 37), I often wish I could flick a switch and go back to that day when I decided to go on a diet the same as my friend. It totally consumed me, and coupled with childhood abuse and severe bullying as well as mild Asperger's syndrome, it has stolen much of my life away so far, and lost me opportunities to work in West End theatre, and do so many things I had aspired to do. I have just about given up hope of ever fulfilling any of my dreams now, in truth.

For me, it was never about being thin or being perfect. It was about feeling in control, and at a time where my self esteem was zero, I came to associate my weight, with my value, to such a degree that it has never left me. There is nothing glamorous, pretty or impressive about eating disorders. Nothing at all. They are soul destroying.

At times, I sit and think, it should be so easy to just step out of it. I am forever advising others and reminding them that life is so short and I can even at times 'see' that I should be living life to the full and simply striving to be healthy, but that balance has yet to be found for me. I despair when I see a) those who think it is the latest fad and cool thing to do b) those who are taking the path I took, which can so easily lead to death ( I almost died of heart failure at 18, and kidney failure at 22).

I long for the carefree days of just eating what I felt like eating when I was hungry, and stopping when I was full; of being able to have an ice cream and stop without binge eating and purging. The hardest part is knowing how deadly it is, and the risks associated, yet at the point in time the ED takes over thought, 'forgetting' those risks to feel empty again.

I honestly think those actively pursuing their ED and making no attempt and showing no desire to recover, should not be on this site. I came here because I was DESPERATE to overcome the binge eating and to try and find some balance in my eating and exercise habits. I hoped, when I found out the extent of this site, that there would be those out there, fully recovered, perhaps adding me and offering support. But in the end, there is only so much people can do to help when someone is in the grip of such faulty thinking and obsession.

I hope those who are still in the grip of their EDs, and who are still striving to disappear entirely physically, see some light and find in themselves the wish to recover and start living again, as quite honestly, you never know when you might purge once too often, restrict a little too much, exercise beyond your already weakened heart's capacity, and end up snuffing out your own, very precious life.

Rach_Gem_n_Disguise

I'm someone recovering from an ED. We are not monsters, it's a horrible disease. Honestly, we don't choose it. I'm sorry for the people who think differently.

Yes, we do want to look perfect...but who doesn't. Our idea of perfect is just a little different than that of others. Some think that by becoming skinnier and seeing that "thigh gap" or seeing our bones we will be happy.

Some people can't help eating everything and are defined as "over-eaters". Some binge and purge.

The issue is more than skin deep though, in all reality. I will always be someone with an eating disorder, I'm just currently in the recovery stage.

People should get to know the person behind the disorder instead of just judging right off the bat.

As I noted earlier, I am just someone with personal history of an ED. I am not trying to claim I am some specialist, or that it isn't a problem, because it is. But the problem is more than just a bad relationship with food. We have self-esteem issues like everyone else. We handle it differently, unfortunately.

Give us a break. If you don't like what I have to say...too bad.

Agree 100%......well said!!!

Rach_Gem_n_Disguise

Having battled EDs since the age of 13 on and off (I am now almost 37), I often wish I could flick a switch and go back to that day when I decided to go on a diet the same as my friend. It totally consumed me, and coupled with childhood abuse and severe bullying as well as mild Asperger's syndrome, it has stolen much of my life away so far, and lost me opportunities to work in West End theatre, and do so many things I had aspired to do. I have just about given up hope of ever fulfilling any of my dreams now, in truth.

For me, it was never about being thin or being perfect. It was about feeling in control, and at a time where my self esteem was zero, I came to associate my weight, with my value, to such a degree that it has never left me. There is nothing glamorous, pretty or impressive about eating disorders. Nothing at all. They are soul destroying.

At times, I sit and think, it should be so easy to just step out of it. I am forever advising others and reminding them that life is so short and I can even at times 'see' that I should be living life to the full and simply striving to be healthy, but that balance has yet to be found for me. I despair when I see a) those who think it is the latest fad and cool thing to do b) those who are taking the path I took, which can so easily lead to death ( I almost died of heart failure at 18, and kidney failure at 22).

I long for the carefree days of just eating what I felt like eating when I was hungry, and stopping when I was full; of being able to have an ice cream and stop without binge eating and purging. The hardest part is knowing how deadly it is, and the risks associated, yet at the point in time the ED takes over thought, 'forgetting' those risks to feel empty again.

I honestly think those actively pursuing their ED and making no attempt and showing no desire to recover, should not be on this site. I came here because I was DESPERATE to overcome the binge eating and to try and find some balance in my eating and exercise habits. I hoped, when I found out the extent of this site, that there would be those out there, fully recovered, perhaps adding me and offering support. But in the end, there is only so much people can do to help when someone is in the grip of such faulty thinking and obsession.

I hope those who are still in the grip of their EDs, and who are still striving to disappear entirely physically, see some light and find in themselves the wish to recover and start living again, as quite honestly, you never know when you might purge once too often, restrict a little too much, exercise beyond your already weakened heart's capacity, and end up snuffing out your own, very precious life.

Once again, well said.