What's some advice you would tell your 16 year old self ?
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Stay away from the 4-wheelers ....0
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Don't let that one you meet in about 9 years from now ever go!!! fight for her! You will save her!0
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Hello stubborn 16 year old self,
There are going to be so many things happen to you this year.. you must MUST be ready to take them on and not let them break you down.
Your first love, he's going to cheat on you. With a friend of yours. It will devestate you. BUT, do NOT let him use that to sucker you back in. Yes... there will be other people. Trust me, you will meet the guy you are going to marry in one short year!
But, in that short year, you are going to want to dabble in drug use, you are going to watch a friend OD and die. You are going to have friends stab you in the back.
Honestly, I wouldn't change any of it. It will hurt.. it will hurt so bad that the drugs cannot cover up the pain.. and then it will slowly slide into other mental issues later down the road. But, I urge you to keep strong, keep close to Tracy, Nikki and Tara. The others will fall off the planet when you get married. Those girls will always be there for you. Keep writing. Its the creative outlet you will need to properly cope with PTS.
When you meet James.. love him. Hard from the getgo and never ever let him doubt your love.0 -
Dear 16 year old self,
Don't let anyone else influence your thoughts, no matter if they seem to have your best intention at heart. Think for yourself and don't ever lose yourself. Also, please start working out so you can turn down Jim and feel confident about it. Just because he's totally hot does not mean he's smart enough to respect you after... what he did. Punch him in the balls instead, please!
Sincerely,
The inevitable future self0 -
Stay single until you meet the exact right person. Don't settle down just to be settled down.0
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Just put that damn cigarette out already!!! You won't be skinny forever eating like that. You really need to get off the couch and exercise.
Quit expecting perfection... Stay in school and ENJOY it.0 -
Dear Mr Lewis
Do not live in the future or past, live for the moment!!!!!
Do not chase money!
Do not smoke!
Do put more effort into real life friendships
Do not let stress get to you.0 -
bump for later!0
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"There are lots of things I wish my 16 year old self had known - but would I go back and tell her? I don't know. Any advice I could give her might have changed the course of my life. It hasn't been perfect, but it's mine. I've been hurt, I've made mistakes, I've wronged people and been wronged. But in the end, the sum total of those choices led me to who I am today. The choices made me the woman my husband fell in love with, and the woman who fell in love with him. Those choices made me the friend that I am, and gave me the wonderful relationships that I have. Maybe I could change it all and get a different (better?) result, but I'm not sure I'd risk it. Maybe I would have been richer, or thinner, or had a better career. Maybe. But in the end, I'll be content to have just been me."
I love this - it's absolutely true and I agree completely
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Dear 16 year old self.
Stop skipping classes. By senior year you are going to get so caught up in the boys and the fun of skipping school that you are going to get expelled. Oh yea those 3 guys?? Stop hanging out with them, they do something horrible to you...
At 18 your gonna fall for an amazing guy but because your so insecure your going to lose him because you wont settle down and show him how much he means to you.
When your 19 your gonna meet this guy on cpixel, your first instinct is to not message him back... listen to your instinct!
If you dont you will end up spending 7 years with him getting beat up physically and mentally and constantly cheated on, you will NEVER be the only one.
Go to college as soon as you can, dont wait until you are 26 and a single mommy (can you believe it? We have a son, hes amazing). He did however make us gain 100 lbs and I am still struggling to get it off.
Your gonna struggle for a long time because of a lot of "mistakes" you make between the ages of 16-23 but you will always pull thru it.
My best advice to you, keep up with your education, follow your instincts, and dont let anybody else bring you down.
Your smarter then you think, you just need to take the time to relize it before its too late!!0 -
Stay single until you meet the exact right person. Don't settle down just to be settled down.
Sometimes we repeat this mistake... Its ok to be single!0 -
Dear Dumbass,
Rebel. Don't feel obligated to be hyper-good because your parents' marriage is falling apart and your sister's self-absorbed. You're not your parents' therapist, you don't have to keep it all together, and it's not your responsibility to smooth everything over...it's your parents' job. Let them worry about you instead of placing it all on your shoulders. Make waves...they can be fun to ride.
Go to college in PA. Get away from Jersey for a while. Pursue that degree in Biology instead of English. Become an animal behaviorist. Follow your dreams and don't let your parents sway you otherwise. William Paterson is a craphole.
Don't rely on boys' opinions of you to justify your self-worth. One will rape you and punch your car. Another will hurt you constantly. You're worth more than that. Move slower in relationships.
Your dad's an *kitten* and you'll never understand what's wrong with him. Just accept it and move on.
Be more understanding of your sister. She's in pain. She needs you more than she'll admit and you'll be her lifeline when the men in her life turn on her.
Stop being shy!
Embrace your nerdiness. It's okay to be a chick gamer. Just don't let WoW replace your social life because you're too scared of rejection.
You'll meet an amazing man who - despite his faults - loves you more truly than you thought possible and will not complain one bit when you need a break from work. Hold out for him. He's worth it.
Love you,
Jess0 -
Thomas is a douche. You're better off without him.0
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Pay attention in school. You'll regret it!0
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16 year old me,
cherish every second with mom.
concentrate on your education.
budget your money.
stop eating and exercise
take care of your body
be generous
read your bible and pray consistently!!!0 -
When your 19 your gonna meet this guy on cpixel, your first instinct is to not message him back... listen to your instinct!
Don't you HATE when you knew... but didn't listen to your inner voice? Those are the worst mistakes. I'm so sorry it took you 7 years.. Mine was my second marriage. I was older 40+ .. so I was a little stronger and have been around the block a few times... But it still took me two years to escape!0 -
Dear 16 year old self,
Don't sit on the couch for the entire summer after you graduate eating and waiting for your boyfriend. In a few years he'll leave you anyway and you will just continue to eat your feelings. Don't spend the 7 years after that waiting for him to come back, either - he won't. You'll find someone great to marry, someone who gets you and loves you unconditionally. Someone who will be there for you when you finally realize you're 110 pounds overweight, and who will encourage you every step of the way. Love yourself first, then love others. You're no good to anyone if you're not around.
Kisses,
Dawn0 -
I am 16 :laugh:0
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Dear 16 year old me,
Before getting married and having kids, take time to travel the world, go to the places you want to go, see the places you want to see. As much as you will adore your husband and kids, it will be much harder after to travel.
Don't sweat the mistakes you make or regret, they are going to lead you to a wonderful place with a great family.
Don't hang on to hate even against the person who wronged you most, it only hurts you in the end.0 -
-Don't rush growing up. You'll miss being carefree.
-Spend more time with your dad, he won't be around much longer and you'll miss him terribly.
-Enjoy more time with your friends, you'll all go your separate ways pretty soon.0 -
Dear 16 year old self:
Don't scoff at me when I say, love yourself before you ask love of others. Only after you accomplish this, will you find happiness. And, self acceptance in the process. :bigsmile:0 -
I am 16 :laugh:
Then read what people are telling themselves... and don't make the same mistakes. You only get one chance to get it right.0 -
there are so many things I need to tell you, things that will make your life better or at least not as painful but knowing the stubborn sh1t you are it won’t make a bit of difference...
In hindsight tho, there are things I would love to change about my past, but if it meant not having my kids with the loser ex husband or the memory filled years with the ex, the friends I have now, the job, the life... I would rather do it all again than to give up my life now.. It is far from perfect but its mine...0 -
I am 16 :laugh:
Then read what people are telling themselves... and don't make the same mistakes. You only get one chance to get it right.
^^^ Agreed.. and I will add in my own sometime soon.0 -
Dear 16yr old Me
Stay away from that boy.
Accept yourself...stop worrying about what others think
Stay away from the man you're going to meet at 18
Be kind to yourself.
Your're not fat for pity's sake..you weigh 105lbs...so what if someone teases you about your *kitten*....in a few years you're going to find that plenty of guys like butts.0 -
Dear 16 y/o self,
Well it did happen to you didn't it? you'll spend most of this year pregnant by that *kitten* who said he loved you. He'll be gone in 3..2...1. But jsut know that no influence is better than a bad one! You're going to have a tough year ahead but don't give up, finish school, and know that the couch surfing will end soon.
Also, your mom is going through some **** of her own and she split not because of you, I know it doesn't hurt any less, but still wasnt your fault. Also dont get mad later at Dad he was lonely and he loved her so he took her back. You'll spend too much time being angry at these two and it will eat you up.
And FFS eat something! 5' 6" and 110 lbs is NOT a good look for you! And no you were not fat!
Sunscreen! your a red head for crying out loud...you will not tan!0 -
-its ok to say no to your older sis..yes..she is an *kitten*..and will be the same in 2012 that she was in 1985
-its ok to let "hormones" take you whereever with "K"
-you are pretty..dont worry that you dont fit it...most didnt in socal in 1985
-its ok...go ahead and take Harvards offer..it doesnt make you a bad indian daughter for moving out before you are married...0 -
Follow your dream, move away to go to this college and take your VET degree. Mom will live without you, she's just using you. and doesn't care about your future plan. She just doesn't want you to live, otherwise she won't have anybody to clean the house, do the shopping, do the meals, etc.
Tell that first big love of yours that always remained a secret how much you love him; you'll learned many years later that that's exactly what he was waiting for.0 -
bump0
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Birth control is not 100% and getting pregnant at 16 is not ideal.0
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