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No. Sounds like someone is posessive and jealous. We've been together since we were barely teens and he has never acted like that.0
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If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.
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~Jimmy Soul
HaHa So true :drinker: But I just want to say that if your Ok with how he gets after you tell him then its ok My husband gets upset but if we are out together he wants me to look my best cause he likes it when other guys think I'm cute. So maybe its just when your Not with him. I think its cute that he gets upset cause I think it shows how much he cares
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oohh my husband is wicked jealous and its more than annoying...i havent had any friends since before we got married over five years ago because its just easier that way. Even if i have a friend thats a girl he freaks out if she has a boyfriend or a brother or something that talks to me. I dont even like going anywhere with him sometimes, because he thinks every guy looks at me and wants me, its absolutely ridiculous! im not saying im terribly ugly but i am certainly not considered 'hot' these days lol
Think about your future...it may be long and lonely without any friends outside of your marriage. I have a sister that took this route nearly 30 yrs ago. They're still together, she's a drugged up wreck living in a bubble...it's so sad, she has wasted her life away...just sayin' :frown:0 -
oohh my husband is wicked jealous and its more than annoying...i havent had any friends since before we got married over five years ago because its just easier that way. Even if i have a friend thats a girl he freaks out if she has a boyfriend or a brother or something that talks to me. I dont even like going anywhere with him sometimes, because he thinks every guy looks at me and wants me, its absolutely ridiculous! im not saying im terribly ugly but i am certainly not considered 'hot' these days lol
First off, Ditch the Son of a B..... and go find a guy that can respect you and allow you to live a happy life, and find some great friends too! Sounds like he has major trust issues, and i'm betting thats very likely to get worse as time goes on.
Secondly, as to the original topic, My 2 best friends are both female and both married, and as far as I know, their husbands have no problem with me spending time with them. As long as they're married, I would refuse to sleep with them even if they begged me... Even if they were to get divorced, I still don't know if I would sleep with them as it wouldnt be worth possibly ruining a great friendship for sex. Just my opinion...0 -
Is it just my husband, or does anyone else's husband think that every man who looks at me wants to hook up with me?
Examples:
I have a couple of my favorite bands following me on Twitter, I told him, he says: "They probably think you're a groupie and by following you, they can get laid.:
I ran out of gas on my way to work the other morning, and it really made my day crappy. The male attendant at the store tried making me feel a little better by telling me I was very pretty. My husband's response? "How old was he? Your age? He was probably hitting on you."
It's comments like this all the time, like a guy can't just say something nice to me without wanting to get in my pants! Does anyone else have this problem with their husband? Guys, do you have a clue what his deal is???
guys by and large just enjoy the sport of things, just because he talks to you or compliments you doesnt necessary mean anything, besides guys shouldnt get jealous or angry, look at it this way...as I do...if a guy has a hot girl...other guys are going to look at her and try to get with her, but if shes the person shes supposed to be theres nothing to worry about, also if she does go with it, the im sorry to say, **** her she doesnt deserve the guy anyway0 -
I'm lucky that my husband isn't like that at all. If I said someone hit on me he'd be like well that's because you're cute. There is nothing wrong with someone else finding you attractive and your mate should be so proud that he's got a beautiful woman!
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Yep!
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This is going to sound vain, but I get hit on every time I go to the damn grocery store, happened tonight as a matter of fact. Literally guys will try and come up and talk to me as I'm putting groceries in my trunk. Now to be fair, there seem to be an increasing numer of aggressive men in my town
either than or I am just radiating hottness.. HAHA, not.
But every time it happens, I come home tell my Husband and we have a good laugh. And then he says he's going to get me a Kimber. (kidding) He also finds it amusing that there are a couple of checkout boys who seem to have a crush on me and they are freaking half my age! lol. I think he finds it to be a compliment, because he KNOWS I would never do anything to hurt him and he's confident in our marriage. Some guys do have jealousy issues. Hell I have jealousy issues sometimes. I trust my Husband but he works in a female dominated field surrounded by cute college girls.... and he's quite clueless about flirting And he's 4 years younger than me. Sigh.... I sometimes have to keep my jealousy in check!
Just keep reassuring him that you only have eyes for him And if it TRULY bothers him, don't tell him. 0 -
My husband is sweet and tells me all the time that he thinks I'm attractive, which is very reaffirming to hear. There have been a handful of times that other guys have blatantly hit on me and made their intentions obvious, and my husband was not happy with that. Those rare cases I did share the situation with him because it was more than being flirtatious, and I'd never want to hide anything like that from him. While he expressed his disapproval those times, I've never felt like he assumed every guy that gives me a second look wants to sleep with me. My son went to the grocery store with me awhile back (he's 16), and when we got home he thought it was so funny to report to my husband that some guy was checking me out. I had no idea! I honestly don't pay attention to things like that. My husband just laughed and winked at me and said, "That's right! Your Mama is a hottie! If I were a guy at the grocery store and saw her, I'd look, too!" Of course, while I think he is TOTALLY biased, it did make me feel good that he can openly appreciate the fact another man may find me attractive enough to give me a second look. I think it all depends on the situation. If it's the kind of attention that is disrespectful, then I think your hubby has a right to know about it, and he has a right to not like it. But if it's just the occasional guy being a little flirty, nice, or taking a second look… I don't think that means they want to sleep with you. My husband is fine with me having male friends, and I'm okay with him being friends with females as long as we both continue to respect our marriage and each other above anyone or anything else. As long as we have trust, neither one of us feels threatened. But I can only speak for my own relationship. Every couple is different. Good luck!
LOL! What is the deal with the grocery store?! 0 -
If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.
A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall.
As soon as he marries her, then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart,
But if you make an ugly woman your wife,
You'll be happy for the rest of your life,
An ugly woman cooks her meals on time,
She'll always give you peace of mind.
If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.
Don't let your friends say
You have no taste,
Go ahead and marry anyway,
Though her face is ugly,
Her eyes don't match,
Take it from me she's a better catch.
If you wanna be happy
For the rest of your life,
Never make a pretty woman your wife,
So from my personal point of view,
Get an ugly girl to marry you.
Say man.
Hey baby.
I saw your wife the other day.
Yeah?
Yeah, she's ugly.
Man, she's ugly but she sure can cook, baby.
Yeah? Alright...
~Jimmy Soul
I LOVE that song! lol It has been FOREVER since I've heard it... they just don't play oldies like they used to... lol I was singing along to it as i read it.
It sounds like your husband might feel a little insecure about you trying to look "sexier". Maybe he thinks you're TRYING to attract other men? I went into work today and had my hair up and my coworkers commented that I must have a new man and my husband had better look out.
Wanting to look better for ourselves doesn't always mean we need others to find us attractive (although it is nice)... men, I think, generally think if your wife is working hard on their appearance they're going ot be shopping. Or he doesn't like that you're getting extra attention because he thinks there's a possibility that you might entertain the thought of doing something with one of them.
IDK. I suppose you could ask him what his deal is? lol It might just be he's obsessed with the fact that men are pigs. lol I dont think all men are interested in having sex with anyone. I think men that think like that, think all men think like that.0 -
Yeah, my husband doesn't think ALL men are wanting in the pants, but he generally thinks that -most- of them are pervos, especially at certain ages.
That said, it doesn't bother him unless it's particularly overt or continuous. Like, the weird guy who picked the bike behind my elliptical in the gym and slowly biked while openmouthedly goggling at my butt? He thought that was hilarious.
But the weirdo gas station dude who seems to genuinely not understand he's taking casual flirtation too far definitely gets his goat.0 -
I have friends that are just like your husband. The funny thing is, the jealous, possesive husbands are the one's that usually end up doing the cheating.Is it just my husband, or does anyone else's husband think that every man who looks at me wants to hook up with me?
Examples:
I have a couple of my favorite bands following me on Twitter, I told him, he says: "They probably think you're a groupie and by following you, they can get laid.:
I ran out of gas on my way to work the other morning, and it really made my day crappy. The male attendant at the store tried making me feel a little better by telling me I was very pretty. My husband's response? "How old was he? Your age? He was probably hitting on you."
It's comments like this all the time, like a guy can't just say something nice to me without wanting to get in my pants! Does anyone else have this problem with their husband? Guys, do you have a clue what his deal is???0 -
I'm not married, but it sounds to me like he is insecure. My mom always told me when I was a young girl, "When your boyfriend starts asking strange questions and making accusations towards you, he is usually the guilty party." She was usually right.0
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Bingo!!I'm not married, but it sounds to me like he is insecure. My mom always told me when I was a young girl, "When your boyfriend starts asking strange questions and making accusations towards you, he is usually the guilty party." She was usually right.0 -
ummm No!
he wouldnt be my husband if he acted like that0 -
I have friends that are just like your husband. The funny thing is, the jealous, possesive husbands are the one's that usually end up doing the cheating.
^ i was going to say this is my experience of exes.
the ones who truly believe that all men are out to bang all women that they can are the ones out to bang all women.
on the other hand, my father says these things to my mother and he does not want other women. however, he also makes no attempt to be friends with any women and will openly mention it when he is ogling someone (gross...thanks dad).0 -
oohh my husband is wicked jealous and its more than annoying...i havent had any friends since before we got married over five years ago because its just easier that way. Even if i have a friend thats a girl he freaks out if she has a boyfriend or a brother or something that talks to me. I dont even like going anywhere with him sometimes, because he thinks every guy looks at me and wants me, its absolutely ridiculous! im not saying im terribly ugly but i am certainly not considered 'hot' these days lol
Have you looked in the mirror lately? You are better than HOT, HOT is a trend, you are a beauty. And he sounds like he's got a big problem in the self image problem there..
Sorry to hurt your feelings if you love the hell outta him, but it kinda sounds like he possess's you..0 -
so what if they are hitting on you? it's only if you accept or return their advances that it's a problem. hubby needs to be glad he has such a smokin' hot wife.0
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My best friend is gay and my husband still thinks I can turn him :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0
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My husband is not possessive or jealous, which is one of the reasons I love him so much. He just takes other men hitting on me as a compliment and lets it slide. So, no I don't have that issue with him questioning or getting jealous of other men.
Sounds like you need to sit down and have a chat with him about how uncomfortable this makes you feel and how he should take it as a compliment and remember that you're all his and no on else's no matter what.0 -
My husband and I have an 11 year age gap. I look young for my age and he looks slightly older than his. We've been mistaken as niece and uncle most times, but when he goes scruffy and wears his dorky glasses once in a while which ages him a bit more, I turn out to be his daughter. Guys don't confront young ladies who hang with their father, y'know? No jealousy issues here, just giggles! :drinker:0
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Sitting down and talking to him wont help, He will just see it as more suspicious behavior (even though its not) The reason some men are soo jealous, controlling and possesive is because they will cheat each and every chance they get, and since they know they will, they think everybody else would as well and watches every women they have a relationship with like a hawk.My husband is not possessive or jealous, which is one of the reasons I love him so much. He just takes other men hitting on me as a compliment and lets it slide. So, no I don't have that issue with him questioning or getting jealous of other men.
Sounds like you need to sit down and have a chat with him about how uncomfortable this makes you feel and how he should take it as a compliment and remember that you're all his and no on else's no matter what.0 -
Sounds to me like he is insecure. People compliment me quite often as well but my husband never comments about it except to say something like, "well you are beautiful!"0
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I think I give off a "don't talk to me" vibe, so it not usually a problem, but even when i mention guys staring or watching me at the gym, my hubby just laughs and says its cause I'm cute/hot/beautiful/etc. Unless the guys go beyond smiling and flirting, my husband isn't going to be upset, and certainly not ever with me. He's only going to be pissed that someone made me uncomfortable. I have a lot of guy friends, and I could totally hang out with them alone or in a group without my hubby present and there's not going to be any accusations of anything. And the same goes for him... if he's hanging out with well established friends, what do i care? Unless he starts spending a lot of time with some random new friend, there's nothing to be suspicious of.0
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Does anyone else have this problem with their husband? Guys, do you have a clue what his deal is???
I don't do this, and no, I'm not sure why he's doing this. Perhaps he's insecure? My wife's a little hottie, and probably gets hit on every day of her life. It doesn't bother me one bit. She's not going anywhere and neither am I.
And by the way, your husband is wrong when he says that all a man ever thinks about is getting laid, or that if given a chance, no matter who the woman is, a guy would gladly get into that woman's pants. Sure, there might be a very small percentage of men that have no self-esteem or a sex-addiction issue that might cause them to behave in that manner.
But that isn't the norm, and I'm sure as hell not that way. Contrary to popular belief, men are not sex-driven animals with no self-control. If your husband believes otherwise, he is either overly cynical, or perhaps that's just the way he views things and is projecting that onto other men.0 -
Does anyone else have this problem with their husband? Guys, do you have a clue what his deal is???
I don't do this, and no, I'm not sure why he's doing this. Perhaps he's insecure? My wife's a little hottie, and probably gets hit on every day of her life. It doesn't bother me one bit. She's not going anywhere and neither am I.
And by the way, your husband is wrong when he says that all a man ever thinks about is getting laid, or that if given a chance, no matter who the woman is, a guy would gladly get into that woman's pants. Sure, there might be a very small percentage of men that have no self-esteem or a sex-addiction issue that might cause them to behave in that manner.
But that isn't the norm, and I'm sure as hell not that way. Contrary to popular belief, men are not sex-driven animals with no self-control. If your husband believes otherwise, he is either overly cynical, or perhaps that's just the way he views things and is projecting that onto other men.
I'm thinking he's insecure... He has nothing to worry about at all. He just doesn't find himself attractive, which he's told me several times before. I, on the other hand, think he's hott! This mostly started when I started losing weight, so maybe it is just insecurities. I don't really point anything out, mostly because I don't notice.I mentioned the guy at the gas station bc I thought he was genuinely trying to make my day a little bit better, not hitting on me. I don't think every guy wants to have sex with every woman they see, but he has friends who would with anything that would hold still... Maybe that's what he's basing his judgement on? I highly doubt he's cheating, the way some people suggest. He doesn't approve of it, even in his friends. (and it's not the over-judgmental disapproval, which raises a red flag for me.) Idk, I guess I need to try harder to let him know how much I appreciate him.0
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