Ladies: Three Day Rule?
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I dated a guy that would call me as soon as I got home from our dates. We'd talk for 2-3 hours. It made me feel like he was really interested in talking to me. It was a cute kind of eagerness. Not a turnoff to me at all.
If a girl is annoyed by this, I think it probably means she's actually not really into you. If I'm into a guy, I WANT to talk to him.0 -
I dated a guy that would call me as soon as I got home from our dates. We'd talk for 2-3 hours. It made me feel like he was really interested in talking to me. It was a cute kind of eagerness. Not a turnoff to me at all.
If a girl is annoyed by this, I think it probably means she's actually not really into you. If I'm into a guy, I WANT to talk to him.
I've known this for awhile...but I swear this forum reminds me daily...
That I need to move to Texas.0 -
That I need to move to Texas.
Do it and report back please.
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If a guy didn't call for 3 days after a good date I can guarantee you I will have erased his number and conveniently forgotten his name by then lol0
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Do not wait!! My hubby didnt even wait an hour after we met. If you like her, then call. DO not text either.0
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i believe guys come up with these arbitrary rules but i can t blame them. they are trying to figure out what most women dont want to say outright.
If she likes you, you could call her the second you leave her at her door, and she would be happy about it. If she doesnt like you, there is no proper wait period because it wont matter. If a girl is into you, she will want to know you like her too. Just dont over do it because thats when we get creeped out and say things like "too nice" when what we really mean is "being creepy."
But you can call and whatever, whenever, there is no magical amount of time that will make it right. Hope this helps. 0 -
Noooo anything sooner wreaks of being desperate-Ty48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty
We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!
Personally, it doesn't look desperate to me when a man calls the next day... unless he calls and texts a million times that next day. If I don't hear from him by about Tuesday or Wednesday after a Saturday date, I assume he isn't interested, and I say yes to a date with the next guy. Not all women do this, however. Some will wait a bit longer. There are many reasons a man doesn't call, but the wise people of our society say silence from a man means one thing only.... disinterest... also known as "He's just not that into you."0 -
Ok, but what if he Facebook chatted her w/in 3-4 days?
What if he asked for her AIM screenname and she declined to give it?
Should he use hotmail or yahoo for email?
Srsly bromeo, sometimes it's better not think and just act. Call w/in 24 hrs; don't think about the rules and games. Playing games is dumb and will frustrate you in the end. Being direct puts everyone on the same page.0 -
Seriously?!? If you wait 3 days... you aren't into her and she's gonna know it.
Call when you want to call... don't play games... Much like others who have posted on here - if I am into a guy and like him - I don't want to WAIT for him to call... I WANT to talk to him!0 -
If you like the girl, don't wait 3 days to call her.0
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I HATE it when guys play games, but it's also not so fun when they are overbearing. When starting out, calling the next day is good. When guys wait 3 days, it does make me think about them but it also makes me really down on myself and then better when he finally calls, and its a little manipulative that way. No head games!0
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If someone waited 3 days to call me I wouldn't pick up and will have probably already replaced them.0
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pffffttt... Waste of time playing games ... If you want to text or call her or both the next day or within 30 min of parting just DO IT !! ..If she's into you and you her ... NO rules apply !! It's nice knowing they are thinking about you !! .0
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Probably already stated, but I'll say it again for good measure, 'Rules' are meant to be broken. If you like her call her.0
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3 days seems like an eternity for stuff like that! Society is faster paced now too, I say sooner - if thye like you they would have already made up their mind, it doesn't take 3 days.0
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i would just send a casual tx saying. saying something along the lines hi had a great time hope we can meet again soon? then u are leaving up to them to reply.0
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If you like her, call her.
If a guy didn't call/text for 3 days, I'd probably assume they weren't interested.0 -
depends what you want it to evolve into
my experience is that guys who just want to get lucky will harass you with messages until they do then dissapear, guys who want something more are a little more relaxed.
If you want something real my advice is a text later that night saying something like 'hey it was great to see you today, I hope you enjoyed yourself as much as I did, sweet dreams' then give it 3 days or so before next contact.0 -
If you really liked her, phone/text her whenever you want to! There are no rules in life, rules are for games.
If she seems freaked, she simply didn't like you. Move on immediately and find someone who's DELIGHTED to hear from you within minutes of the date ending :-)0 -
If you like her call her. I'd actually be pretty psyched if my date called me right after the date to say he had fun.
I do this. I'd personally prefer to know where I stand, so I give this courtesy too. I don’t think there are too many set "rules" in dating any more. If you like her tell her, call her, text her. Sometimes easier said than done I know. 0 -
really? Three day rule? So that's why I was always left wondering if the guy had a good time for a couple of days?
I wouldn't wait MORE than three days if you want to arrange another date. But I don't think there's anything wrong with calling the next day or afternoon to say you had a nice time and hope to do it again soon. The same night is a bit creepy though.0 -
Wow, really interesting getting a female perspective on this as I've often wondered myself. I think there's definitely legs in the 'keep them mean...' saying but judging from the female's perspective it isn't overly appreciated (some number deletions after two days, ladies really!?)
To play devils advocate, if a guy does wait three days then calls doesn't it make it all the more worth it when the call actually comes through? That's the whole idea isn't it?
As for me, I usually go with gut instinct, if I've had a nice date with a lady I will usually send an appreciative text to say thank you that night and not necessarily leading anywhere, just guage the response from the lady and go from there. The 'let me know you're home safe' is a good one also, as it sets up an opening for a dialogue and timeframe without implying anything too much.
I think the advice to go with gut instinct is pretty good, if you had a real connection you'll know if it feels right to text sooner - just don't be over eager or call/text too much.0 -
Call whenever you want. Those rules are stupid.
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Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...0
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Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...
True.
I need to found a cult or some such thing.
Any volunteers for High Priestess / Lead Handmaiden?!
...no, not you Rich. We both know it didn't work out well last time mate.0 -
Listen to your heart...the book of love has no rules...
I found a copy of that as a young lad.
No rules, but so many different positions...
Grasshopper, you are wise in the ways of the world...
True.
I need to found a cult or some such thing.
Any volunteers for High Priestess / Lead Handmaiden?!
...no, not you Rich. We both know it didn't work out well last time mate.
Alas, Kitties cannot be restricted to the confines of any sort of organized religion0 -
I once met a guy who called me so often my friends said he was a stalker... they were really worried! He freaked me out a bit too, it was like everytime I opened my door he was standing there... He asked me to marry him every day for about 2 months, 6 weeks after I met him!
Eventually I caved in So persistence pays off... we've been married 8 years and have 2 lovely kids.... and he still calls or texts me several times a day Wouldn't change him for the world... so I say, GO AHEAD AND RING HER 0 -
maybe in your experience it does. i think it differs person to person.
i loved it! if guy number 1 and guy number 4 had waited 48-72 hrs to call me, i probably would not have gone out with them again. i was into them, and i liked that they were interested and wanted to keep in touch. i think i would have been turned off if they had appeared to have better things going on than talk to me again.
i think the reason it would rub me wrong is that, prior to that first date, there is often daily or every other day contact ( trying to set something up, get a feeling for the other person). then, after the date 2-3 days with NO contact? it screams to me, " i was interested til i went out with you, then after meeting you i changed my mind. now, i'm calling because i have no better prospects on the horizon...." at least that's how i take it.
Noooo anything sooner wreaks of being desperate-Ty48-72 hrs make her wonder and dont text, make the call-Ty
We actually hate this 48-72 hour thing. It's a game. If you like her, CALL!0
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