Dating Advice??
With my recent weight loss, I have the confidence to date again. Restaurants, as we all know, pose a bit of a problem. Ordering modified dishes is how to address it, but when I do that, I feel like I will have to explain that I'm trying to lose weight. Which could lead to questions about how much I have lost and (god no) have to go. How should I address this? Help!
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Use those nigths as cheat nights or just try to order the best standard fair the place has. You're supposed to be having a good time.
You can burn the extra calories later. *wink**wink*0 -
i order modified dishes and I don't feel the need to explain it.
just order as you would and ask if they can make certain adjustments.
Don't talk about the weight loss if you don't want to.0 -
With my recent weight loss, I have the confidence to date again. Restaurants, as we all know, pose a bit of a problem. Ordering modified dishes is how to address it, but when I do that, I feel like I will have to explain that I'm trying to lose weight. Which could lead to questions about how much I have lost and (god no) have to go. How should I address this? Help!
No need to explain. Just do, go and have fun! :flowerforyou:0 -
Yup I just ask for modified dishes and never get questions or explain xD0
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I wouldn't worry so much. Either order the modified dishes (most people if new to dating don't tend to ask really) OR just scout out the menu before you go, choose a healthier option and set aside half (since that's all you really need).0
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I would just say "I try to watch my weight" and leave it at that! But don't be too annoying about your order because the guy might think you are too picky!0
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This is why it is important to plan ahead. Most chain restaurants have nutirition information online and you can do your scouting before hand and decide what you are going to eat. Restaurants that aren't chains at least post their menu online so you can still get a general idea by using the database. Log what you are going to eat before you go and STICK TO IT. Or at least have a general plan (ONE glass of wine, a seafood dish without breading, salad for a side, etc.)
And don't feel embarrassed about making changes to your order. Most restaurants are used to people making specific requests nowadays, especially for allergies and such. A a prior server, as long as you know exactly what modifications before ordering and don't hem and haw over them, then you won't be bothersome.0 -
I just order how I order. I usually always customize a dish at a restaurant that coincides with my goals. If my "date" doesn't like it, then oh well. I don't try to change my routine for other people. I'm very goal oriented and either the person jumps onboard with it, or doesn't. It's as simple as that.0
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If you guys start dating he'll find out the details down the line anyway. May as well do your thing and let the chips fall where they may.0
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3 options for you:
1 - **** it and enjoy yourself. It's just one meal
2 - workout earlier in the day
3 - Eat in moderation - if you are like myself and dont believe in wasting food, ask for modified proportions, as previously suggested0 -
No need to explain your adjustments, you like your food the way you like it.
I've gotten used to being a complete pain at restaurants. The only benefit of my dairy allergy, it cuts all the fat out.0 -
I would just say "I try to watch my weight" and leave it at that! But don't be too annoying about your order because the guy might think you are too picky!
I disagree. Be as annoying and picky as you want.0 -
Just say you don't want to fill up now. You might want dessert later. Then wink
....... boom problem solved that'll be $19 95 I'm a beachbody coach pm me for more details:laugh: 0 -
I wouldn't want to talk about my weight on a first date either... I get that. But just order what you will, however you like it, and then look back to dude and "So, how about anal sex?"
or some other more appropriate date topic.... he won't be thinking about your food order anymore.0 -
bumpppp0
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Just say you don't want to fill up now. You might want dessert later. Then wink..... boom problem solved that'll be $19 95 I'm a bj coach pm me for more details:laugh:
Haha ok Mr. Miyagi
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The way you order something specific to you doesn't need to be explained as a diet or a phase or a fad. Think of it like the movie When Harry Met Sally. Sally knew exactly how she wanted everything ordered when she'd eat at a restaurant, and Harry fell in love with her and was okay with the fact that everything was ordered "on the side". If you're confident in what you want for yourself, guys will see that confidence and love you for it. No need to be ashamed of where you're coming from, just be proud of where you're going.
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With my recent weight loss, I have the confidence to date again. Restaurants, as we all know, pose a bit of a problem. Ordering modified dishes is how to address it, but when I do that, I feel like I will have to explain that I'm trying to lose weight. Which could lead to questions about how much I have lost and (god no) have to go. How should I address this? Help!
Just date a guys from MyFitnessPal ! 0 -
i always look up the menu online to make sure there is something i can eat that won't make me sick (i have Crohn's Disease) and order modified stuff if the group has picked a place i can't really eat at or i say hey i can't eat anything there and offer a similar place that has something i can eat but would still appeal to most everyone.
when i order modified food i do feel silly but i don't elaborate as to why unless specifically asked, which really doesn't happen that much unless someones kid is old enough to notice & wonder and young enough to not know better and asks. i calmly explain the w/o item makes me sick (that is all i say) so i can't eat it while the parent typically tells there kid that its not ok to ask those questions
my favorite modified food was the cajun chicken without cajun (basically grilled plain chicken) at chilis my weakness is a pasta dish as its typically a safe food that won't make me sick but it does have a lot of calories so i try to keep it balance now 0 -
I've had this problem myself and for a while I was only going on dates a couple of times a month so I just used them as a cheat day. It sometimes makes me feel high maintenance but you know what if it bothers him then there isn't much hope for a future anyways right. My last dinner date wanted to eat Italian, (I'm low carb) THAT was painful, I just gave in!0
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cheat day or who cares?
or if you really do care just talk about all the foods you do like to dispel the oh she hates food perception and tell 'em you just worked out if he asks why you ordered so weird. besides, as a guy i'd get freaked out if a woman ordered a salad with fried chicken strips with two extra sides of ranch and an appetizer and a dessert on the first date.0 -
Just order how you would if he wasn't there. If he thinks you are too picky/high maint. and doesn't opt for a 2nd date, you know he wasn't a good fit for your life anyway since this is (hopefully) a life long change you have made. Ideally you will find someone compatible with your fitness goals as well as other important areas of compatibility.0
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Be proud of the fact you have taken control of your life.
Any decent guy is going to find that attractive.0 -
I suppose a guy may ask in the spirit of getting to know more about you. Then I think I'd say something about getting a healthy fit lifestyle in place for yourself and your daughter, make it positive and ask him questions in return about his general lifestyle. You don't have to go into all the details, but he (and MUCH more importantly) YOU need to know whether you're compatible of not. That's if it might be a long termer - if it's more casual then it doesn't matter what he thinks anyway and he's unlikely to care 0
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Use those nigths as cheat nights or just try to order the best standard fair the place has. You're supposed to be having a good time.
You can burn the extra calories later. *wink**wink*
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Why be ashamed of your weight loss? I am proud to tell people how much weight I have lost.0
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I think you should just do what you would do if you were going out with someone who already knew about how hard you've worked. If they don't like you adjusting the menu or that you care about your body or have made an amazing change...Well, there's someone out there who will.
Do whatever you want and don't ever feel you have to explain yourself.
Or, you know, follow dinner up with a nice stroll (my boyfriend and I frequently do post dinner walks) or go bowling or something.0 -
Why be ashamed of your weight loss? I am proud to tell people how much weight I have lost.
^^^ THS ^^^
Be proud of your weight loss and how far you have come. The effn date is not worth your time if you can't even be you around him! So ultimately this should not even be a worry or a question in your mind. If he is not into health and fitness and you are, it will never work anyway. Don't waste your time!0 -
The issue I have is that I assume they think I'm just trying to eat "dainty" because I'm on a date. And my self consciousness would always be thinking that he's thinking "I know this girl eats by the looks of her, so she might as well give up the act". It's the same with telling people that I workout most days of the week, I feel like they are thinking I must be lying or just *****footing it on the treadmill a few days and eating McDonald's the rest of the time. So that is my own evil voices in my head discouraging me. I say if you want to splurge, go for it and if you'd rather see how it works in to your calories--modify away. Just don't order plain lettuce with dressing on the side. lol0
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Just say you don't want to fill up now. You might want dessert later. Then wink ....... boom problem solved that'll be $19 95 I'm a beachbody coach pm me for more details:laugh:
That's terrible to try and profit off of others looking for support! Shame on you! And Beachbody is a scam!
Anyway, get your workout in early in the day, just order what you want and eat half. Make sure yo get a to-go container at the same time you order so it's there when the food arrives.
I never eat the other half--I either give it to my date for "lunch" the next day or feed it to my dogs when I get home.
No one's business but your own about what you eat and why! :-)0
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