Dating Advice??

zinok

I think you're overthinking it. (: Unless you have a MILLION mods, (in which case, as a server I hate you. :P) they wont think it's that odd if you ask for the sauce on the side, no bread, etc.
But, just a small piece of advice, I have heard many men complain about women who eat very little on dates or only get a salad. I'd recommend (if you know where your reservation is at) looking online at their nutrition guide and pre-planning your meal. That way you don't have to worry or fret about weight when you should be worrying about getting to know the man across from you!

weighlossforbaby

Look over the menu on what looks kinda healthy and eat in moderation

BklynEibhlin

Definitely pre-planning is the top priority. Read the menu or call the restaurant and ask if they can tell you their specials. Most places (I'm in NYC, so this may or may not be true where you are) post their menus online. The key to ordering without inspiring any questions or raised eyebrows is to know exactly what you want and say it as concisely as possible, without apologizing for mods or asking "Can I get...". If you just say "I would like the broiled tilapia with a double order of grilled veggies instead of potato and a garden salad with low-fat Italian dressing on the side, thank you." no one will look twice. I manage to do this at Latin restaurants, where you have to really work at it to rearrange a meal to get something healthy.

Have fun on your dates!

slkehl

Hmm for first dates I would stick to one modification so you don't seem too high maintenance. And get water. And save up your days calories or exercise a little more to compensate for the meal. In fact, bringing up your run from that day sometime during the date could be sexy. You don't need the added stress of having to eat super clean and keep the boy from making premature judgement.

lombrica

Do what you normally do... no explanation is needed! And, if it's someone who takes issue with it -- you probably don't really want to keep dating them right now anyway!

lombrica

I think you're overthinking it. (: Unless you have a MILLION mods, (in which case, as a server I hate you. :P) they wont think it's that odd if you ask for the sauce on the side, no bread, etc.
But, just a small piece of advice, I have heard many men complain about women who eat very little on dates or only get a salad. I'd recommend (if you know where your reservation is at) looking online at their nutrition guide and pre-planning your meal. That way you don't have to worry or fret about weight when you should be worrying about getting to know the man across from you!

^^^^ And... this! Love the last line... you should be more worried about getting to know him!

britzzie

Thanks everyone for your input! I want to add that I am in no way ashamed of my weight loss. Truly, I shout it from the rooftops--to those who are already close to me (and everyone I know on FB!) But I don't want the words "loose skin" to run through anyone's brain who I might potentially want to see more of. I HATE "cheat days!" For me, they turn into cheat weeks or falling completely off the wagon. I know I should be able to exercise more control than that, and one day I hope to have that kind of will. For now, I just stick to that plan, track everything, and stay under calories.

I've researched the menu online and found something I can modify very little and still be under calories. If any questions come up, I'll just say swimsuit season is coming up and change the subject.

Those of you who said I should be more focused on having fun and getting to know him, you are absolutely right!! And that's what I'm going to do. Thanks again!