My therapist was right

amymeenieminymo

She didn't say it TO me, like telling me I was getting fat (or talking about MY undies per se)...we were talking about weight gain, it was more a general statement. And when you're comfortable with someone and you've been seeing the same one for years, you'd be surprised what comes up in conversation.

Ummm... Years? Friend or therapist?

It's pretty normal to have the same therapist for years, especially if you're trying to manage chronic depression or anxiety without drugs or are recovering from a disorder or a survivor of abuse. Frequency of appointments can vary, from several times a week to once a month just to check in. And once you find a good therapist that you get a comfortable vibe from -- which is NOT easy, especially if you're queer or trans* -- you want to hold on to them.

This! I suppose some people benefit from the initial "7 free sessions" that an insurance company might typically offer, but I don't understand the original comment that seemed judgmental about seeing a therapist for years. Sometimes one might need to go once a month (or more frequent) if dealing with something, but then you might not feel the need to go but twice a year....hence a several year relationship with a therapist. And once you find a therapist you like and click with it would make absolutely no sense to switch to a different one later.

I did not intended to judge, although I see now how it might seem that way. I once saw a counselor for a couple years. At that time, I started to feel like I was paying her bo be my friend. I think it's fair to hold a therapist to a professional standard. When talking to a client who wants to lose 60 pounds, a professional therapist shouldn't make comments like - you know you're fat when you need a three hook bra. Friends, however, do make exactly that kind of faux pas, and later need to return and apologize. Like I am about to do.

I do sincerely apologize if I have hurt your feelings and/or increased your woes.

Good luck on your weight loss journey.

Not a problem, sometimes things just come out wrong. I really don't even remember how the "you know you've gained weight" comment even came up at all. But it was not directed at me at all and I took no offense to it whatsoever. I think actually think she was talking about herself.

It's funny because after so long she did begin to feel more like a friend than a therapist. But I was happy with it because it was her job to listen to me complain and she could offer me advice that a friend might be hesitant too. She also had training to help people with grieving which is why I was going at the time, whereas my friends were kind of powerless to help me as they didn't know what I was going through. You can only whine to your friends so many times before you know it's getting to be too much. So I actually prefer that she was starting to feel like a friend, I don't think I could have opened up as much with someone that remained too professional.

Also, I wasn't aware that some smaller bras had several hooks. Mine have always had only two, and I thought even smaller ones sometimes had one. So to ME, more hooks means I've gotten too fat for my bras....also since this bra I just bought is indeed a size bigger than my old one.

froeschli

My bras typically have 2 hooks, rarely 1 (36C), but I have some with 5-10 and that's absolutely fine with me

Athijade

I don't think I have ever owned a bra with less then 3 hooks... even at my smallest (160). Then again, even when wearing a size 6 jeans I was wearing a 34/36 D so that might have something to do with it. Some days I curse my hourglass shape and other days I want to flaunt it. *sigh* A mixed blessing and curse.

weighlossforbaby

Mine has 3 or 4 hooks and I am 38 C.