Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

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  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    not sure how this has anything to do with fitness but no! they defs do not work

    ^^this...minus the fitness thing
  • aprilabrao
    aprilabrao Posts: 7 Member
    I don't believe they work for long term I've had 2 of them and they never worked out and now I'm watching my brother try and make one work ANC after over a year it's not going so well , it gets very wearing on a person so unless you can get together after a year of a long distance relationship then go for it it it going to be longer I suggest give him an ultimatum or move on cause your wasting your time and energy .

    From experience,
    April
  • yoouperh
    yoouperh Posts: 68 Member
    What I will speak to is not the long distance relationship, but the relationship of coming together after being long distance. A long distance relationship is all the benefits and feelings of an up close relationship with all the excitement of a new relationship every time you see the person. There has to be a great deal of trust and respect. But the long distance isn't really the hard part. The hard part is when you move in together after months or years of being apart. Those rushes of feelings start to fade when you see the person every day, and you start to learn more about the person, things you can't learn over a week or two week long visit. That integration period is so hard, and is the test of the relationship, more so than the long distance factor.
    Good Luck to you:)
  • MogwaisGrandma
    MogwaisGrandma Posts: 195 Member
    Yes they can work

    Not they cannot work.

    Either way it is your commitment to the relationship and to ensure you are getting the best out of it which will prove the success or downfall.

    I do believe in them working. I have seen it a few times.

    All the best in the future
  • kdc0587
    kdc0587 Posts: 166 Member
    "has anyone else been in a long distance relationship and are you still with that person? " <--- Yes & they DO work. If two people really want to be together, there's no distance, no miles, that can separate them. However, some people will say no they don't work because you have to be physically close/together in order to be in a REAL relationship. You do not have to be physically close/together always in order to be in a relationship. A relationship is not just based on physical closeness. It's much much more than. All relationships take trust/faith/commitment. But trust me, a LDR takes A LOT more trust, faith, & commitment than your average relationship. By not being able to see that person whenever you want, it makes the time you DO get to see them & spend with them that much more special. Sure, you can say you trust your lover, but you never REALLY know until you're not able to see them as much as you want. To me, the ONLY reason they don't work out is from lack of trust/commitment from one or both people. It's not the lack of seeing each other, or what-have-you that kills a LDR. LDRs require more input & risks than your average relationship, thus making them beautiful. I'm not saying I prefer a LDR over a average relationship, but I'm saying there's more effort, commitment, trust, faith, & romance, more love in a LDR. LDRs makes that time of dates and seeing each other and being together that much more special. If two people really want to be with each other, love will find it's way rather it be miles apart or next door. LDRs are not for everyone & not everyone sees it they way I just stated, & that's okay.......& this is just my opinion on LDRs & answering the question :)
    My love & I have been together a little over 8 months. I live in South Carolina & he lives in Michigan.
  • saustin201
    saustin201 Posts: 270 Member
    My hubby and I have been together for almost 20 years. We met in college. He graduated and went off to Boston for grad school. I stayed back in the midwest to finish up my bachelors and then go onto grad school. We were separated for 1 year. We were not married at that time, but had been together for 5 years. We're now married and have 3 boys.

    Long distance relationships can work. I know many couples who survive and go on to get married, but there are challenges too.

    Good luck.
  • EchoOfYourPast
    EchoOfYourPast Posts: 459 Member
    Myself no...my daughter met her husband in the military...she is in the Navy and he was in the Marines......the first year of their marriage she was in WV and he was in Hawaii....they were finally stationed together and have been married for almost 3 years...they are expecting their first baby in Oct (my 1st grandbaby!! Yeah!)
    They are very happy now and stayed dedicated to one another the entire time they were separated.
    San :)
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    Me: Bristol, UK.
    Husband: Minnesota, USA.

    We dated for three years long distance before we got married. We've now been married seven years with two beautiful children.

    Add me if you need extra reassurance. =) It CAN work.
  • HMonsterX
    HMonsterX Posts: 3,000 Member
    Highly unlikely. It all depends if both are being 100% honest. I know mine wasn't.

    If it seems too good to be true, it is. Mine was.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    Can they? Sure. In theory...

    For me? unlikely. Unless monogamy was a non-issue. I'd want to talk to him/her often, but I don't know if I could commit to being monogamous with a partner I only see once a month or less. At least not without a deep enough connection and history. Even then... it'd be a challenge for me.
  • callmejessica
    callmejessica Posts: 1,868 Member
    I dated a guy for over four years and three of those years we did long distance. He is in the Navy and I was going to college. We only saw each other maybe twice a year (summer and Christmas breaks), but made it work through emails, writing letters, texting, phone calls...whatever! We broke up when we moved in together last year and realized that we were just different people and going different directions. We are still friends and talk. Even though we aren't together anymore, I'd say that our long distance relationship was successful for our ages and points in our lives.
  • Aquaduckie
    Aquaduckie Posts: 115
    I married my long distance boyfriend. We've been married 10 years and still going strong. If you want it bad enough, and it feels right, it can work out.
  • viviennemayer
    viviennemayer Posts: 29
    You are going to hear so much on both side of this coin. Bottom line is this, each and every relationship is just like the people in them. Different! If you both feel that commited and know you're that commited, then yeah of course it'll work out. Communication is key and when you are able to be fully commited in the same dwelling, it's really important. That's when communication usually starts breaking down because it gets taken for granted. Keep your chin up and good luck.
  • pinkpascal
    pinkpascal Posts: 75 Member
    I spent last night looking at visas. My head hurts now. Love everyone's stories though :smile:
  • sarrah_n
    sarrah_n Posts: 192 Member
    They can work, but it's not easy. 4 years together and now we're learning how to make it work long-distance. If both people are committed, it's manageable. The key for me has been vocalizing how I'm really feeling since there is no body language or face-to-face contact to send signals that I'm upset. No one's perfect!

    In relationship to my weight goals... AWFUL! Too much time in the evenings to snack with no one there to keep me accountable has been really hard. The motivating factor is looking a little bit better every time we see each other again :love:
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