Partners,boyfriends,girlfriends etc.

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  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    My husband and I go to the gym together and I set him up with a MFP account and I log his calories. I was doing the logging just for myself since December but it was hard not to cave in to bad eating when he was snacking. He needed to drop some pounds, asked me to set him up with an account and since mid february he's dropped 15 lbs.

    He is very supportive of me and vice versa. He points out the abs that are showing on me. He gets happy with my NSV's (I've had two this week!) And when we are at the gym he pushes me to lift as heavy as I can. We support each other and celebrate the successes and if we have an off day, which typically is Friday, and I am down on myself about it he shrugs and says "it's ok. Just do better today." He knows my goals and supports them and never says I can't. I have a weight goal in mind and while he didn't say I can't achieve it he did say it wasnreason ething I'd be able to maintain and gave me a number that was.

    Honestly even if he wasn't doing everything with me (we still hit the gym even when he wasn't counting) he would still be supportive no matter what and vice versa. I don't know that I could be with someone who wouldn't support me in everything I did.
  • xHelloQuincyx
    xHelloQuincyx Posts: 884 Member
    my boyfriend loved me when i was 100 lbs and unhealthy, and 189 lbs and unhealthy. it actully dosnt bug me that he dosnt workout at this point in our life, but thats because we have a lot of other things going on. he works about 50 hours a week, and i know thats not an excuse but he used to work out a lot when he was just in college and didnt have to work. when we both worked like 30 hours a week we would go to the gym together, i loved it. i think when we both have steady jobs with set hours it would be a lot better and easier to get healthy together. we food shop together, so he eats mostly healthy. but it does bug me that he dosnt get enough sleep and we both smoke. it bugs me because i want to have a healthy long life together.
  • sunnyday789
    sunnyday789 Posts: 309 Member
    When you talk about goals, you only mention things like fitness and diet so I'm going to assume that's what you mean.
    There's so much more to a person than their physique and dedication to it and if becomes the focus of every conversation frankly becomes a little boring. Not to say that it's not a good thing to do for yourself, but hey, life's more than that. To judge people (as you say, you have less respect) because they aren't in great shape seems unfair.

    People who have goals like being a great parent , husband, wife, friend, running a successful business, excelling in their studies, helping disadvantaged people, etc are attractive.
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    My SO doesn't work out hardly at all and eats what he wants when he wants. It's his free will as long as he doesn't force it upon me. And he openly acknowledges hes overweight but he isn't OBESE so it isn't a screaming/serious issue.

    I've lost weight & quit smoking. I've done my own thing but he is awesome because he will go with me if I ask him to the gym or out and about. And he has no problem making whatever is healthy as long as he gets his snack and breakfast/lunch of choice. Or if we eat out I do not make him order small/healthy. It's a matter of being at peace with each other and your habits.

    Eventually, hopefully, someday your partner will see your progress and want to make changes in their own life. All I care about is that he shows up to work each day, takes a shower, cleans once in awhile, respects me, and is happy. Everything else will fall in place.
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 811 Member
    I'm lucky. My boyfriend is a pretty healthy guy and he's the one who keeps me in check.

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