Creeps... Ew.

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  • LTGPSA
    LTGPSA Posts: 633 Member
    File a police report, get a personal restraining order is in order, if you don't carry you should at least buy and learn to use pepper spray. If you are married talk to your spouse, if you have kids have the personal safety discussion (don't ope the door to strangers...)

    ..... you can't be good careful especially since Creeper may blame you for getting him fired.

    ^^^ This ^^^
  • Sidesteal
    Sidesteal Posts: 5,510 Member
    OP:

    My bad.
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    Wow... that's just borderline criminal. If it isn't already.
  • leafstucker16
    leafstucker16 Posts: 136 Member
    Go to the police station and as soon as possible. If he is doing something like that and has done it multiple times then he could be a little more messed up then you think, it's better to be safe in the end.
  • Frisky_CoastalNative
    Frisky_CoastalNative Posts: 140
    Creepy!

    I agree with above posts...file a police report showing text messages, report incident...etc. Also talk to your little one about stranger danger, he indeed could blame you for getting fired!

    Be careful sweetie :flowerforyou:
  • kurenaikumo
    kurenaikumo Posts: 271 Member
    I'd call your local police department and see if anything can be done legally. It's not worth taking a risk. If he got your phone number, he probably has your address, too. Don't mean to alarm you, but if this guy has a history of stalkerish behavior, he's just going to keep doing it...
  • NaiaNZ
    NaiaNZ Posts: 72 Member

    I just got the impression u were posting this to let everyone know that a guy at your gym thought you were hot cause most women wouldn't be posting something like this but contacting the better business bureau. Smh creepy attention seeking chicks

    Haha are you serious???????
    It was the privacy issue I was worried about, not that fact that he thought I was "Hot", and if you had read my post, you would see I had already made a complaint etc. I was simply seeing what other people had done in my situation. Go take your unhelpful 'advice' somewhere else. Thanks.

    And to everyone else - Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Xxx I don't think I need to go to the Police etc as he wasn't threatening or anything when I saw him on Sunday - Looked more nervous and embarrassed than anything. Still creepy though! Will definately go in tonight and see what has been done about it as they said they would meet with him today. I will be more weary with giving my personal details out in future though!!!
  • JessieArt
    JessieArt Posts: 275 Member
    File a police report, get a personal restraining order, if you don't carry you should at least buy and learn to use pepper spray. If you are married talk to your spouse, if you have kids have the personal safety discussion (don't open the door to strangers...)

    I don't think you will have any problem but you can't be to careful especially since Creeper may blame you for getting him fired.

    I agree with this. He has your personal information. Call the police please. If it was me, I would also demand a refund and change gyms.
  • CatseyeHardcast
    CatseyeHardcast Posts: 224 Member
    All kinds of wrong...soooo much wrong.

    Next time he is working I would wait at the reception desk and point out the creepy freak to everyone who enters the gym, showing them the weird txts. Making a scene about the germ might actually see the owner grow a pair and kick this guy out.
  • bunsen_honeydew
    bunsen_honeydew Posts: 230 Member
    I agree with people who have advised to log it with the police.

    You just can't know for sure that it won't turn ugly in the future. It will probably be fine, like you said, he looked embarrassed. But it is definitely a breach of privacy, and especially after you said "don't text me anymore" that he continued makes it stalking or harassment.
  • Micahroni84
    Micahroni84 Posts: 452 Member
    I don't normally say things like this but how about you file a lawsuit against the gym for allowing that scumbag to continue to sexually harrass and stalk women who attend the gym. People like that sicko don't stick with just creepy texts for long. They graduate to more violent crimes. I really would consider seeking some legal advice about this.
  • Raven_Blackblade
    Raven_Blackblade Posts: 28
    Umm. I would threaten to sue. The fact that this employee was not fired after incident #1 is a clear indication that the gym does not protect their patrons information, and that you were not at least compensated for your aggravation, as well as your privacy being violated.....

    Screw a lifetime membership. Do you really want to be at a place that does not value your privacy? Demand at the very least your membership sign on, and start up fees back. If they refuse, threaten to sue with actual papers in your hands that this is against the law.
  • Micahroni84
    Micahroni84 Posts: 452 Member

    I just got the impression u were posting this to let everyone know that a guy at your gym thought you were hot cause most women wouldn't be posting something like this but contacting the better business bureau. Smh creepy attention seeking chicks

    Haha are you serious???????
    It was the privacy issue I was worried about, not that fact that he thought I was "Hot", and if you had read my post, you would see I had already made a complaint etc. I was simply seeing what other people had done in my situation. Go take your unhelpful 'advice' somewhere else. Thanks.

    And to everyone else - Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Xxx I don't think I need to go to the Police etc as he wasn't threatening or anything when I saw him on Sunday - Looked more nervous and embarrassed than anything. Still creepy though! Will definately go in tonight and see what has been done about it as they said they would meet with him today. I will be more weary with giving my personal details out in future though!!!

    Please please please understand that him looking nervous and embarrassed will not last. When people like him continue to get away with things like this they feel more and more powerful. They start doing more and more extreme things. You may not ever have to deal with anything more than this from him but the next woman might.
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    I think a police report for stalking is in order, possibly a call to the local TV news crew. They might want to investigate this guy.

    this.

    you're the third complaint???

    there were probably more that were just to timid to say anything.

    and if you don't call the cops, or the next woman doesn't call either...

    it's only a matter of time before he follows some poor soul home....
  • Spokez70
    Spokez70 Posts: 548 Member
    File a police report, get a personal restraining order, if you don't carry you should at least buy and learn to use pepper spray. If you are married talk to your spouse, if you have kids have the personal safety discussion (don't open the door to strangers...)

    I don't think you will have any problem but you can't be to careful especially since Creeper may blame you for getting him fired.

    My thoughts exactly
  • WhitneyAnnabelle
    WhitneyAnnabelle Posts: 724 Member
    My mother was stalked by a Census Bureau worker last year who kept calling her and showing up at my parents' house. He went so far as to find lines to call from so she would pick up, not knowing it was him. She absolutely reported him to the field office, and after I urged her incessantly, she filed a restraining order. But only after my father threatened to shoot him if he stepped foot on our property again, and he kept calling anyway. Do what these people are saying and protect yourself.
  • FriendsR4EverTreasures
    FriendsR4EverTreasures Posts: 179 Member
    What!? They are "waiting" to fire him, this should've been an instant get your crap and get escorted out! What kind of gym is this!!!!?
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Maybe find another gym? This guy seems very dangerous to be around.
  • RoboLikes
    RoboLikes Posts: 519 Member
    File a police report, get a personal restraining order, if you don't carry you should at least buy and learn to use pepper spray. If you are married talk to your spouse, if you have kids have the personal safety discussion (don't open the door to strangers...)

    I don't think you will have any problem but you can't be to careful especially since Creeper may blame you for getting him fired.

    I agree. This guy is a total creep. Don't feel like your over reacting by going to the police; it's better to be safe than sorry.
  • DanielleRN8
    DanielleRN8 Posts: 409
    File a police report, get a personal restraining order, if you don't carry you should at least buy and learn to use pepper spray. If you are married talk to your spouse, if you have kids have the personal safety discussion (don't open the door to strangers...)

    I don't think you will have any problem but you can't be to careful especially since Creeper may blame you for getting him fired.

    I agree. This guy is a total creep. Don't feel like your over reacting by going to the police; it's better to be safe than sorry.

    I completely agree. I had a stalker in high school and it got pretty bad before I went to the police. Trust me, you want to do something before he takes away your sense of security because it's so hard to get back...
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    You sound a bit too relaxed talking about this here. This isn't creepy, creepy is when a guy is watching you constantly when you're working out. What you're (so casually btw) mentioning here is grounds for a serious lawsuit against the gym + very easy jail time for the guy. The guy shouldn't even be there in the first place after this was disclosed to the owner and should have been banned from the property.

    However, since in your story none of this happened I conclude one of 2 things

    1) You're attention seeking and lieing.

    2) You're a bit naive and SHOULD contact police right away mentioning this to them for your own safety.

    For your own good, I hope its number (1) because I would really hate to know that you're taking something like this lightly
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    lol! just today i was gonna go up to a woman and tell her she had a nice *kitten*
  • Bevigal
    Bevigal Posts: 66 Member
    When I was young I was in a very similar circumstance. I did not do anything about it ...as a result...I left my job and he grabbed me in the parking lot , drove me miles away jerked me out of his car and beat me and raped me. I SURVIVED!!! Never underestimate the unbalanced mind. After that for a long time I was afraid to be around any man. With help I got through it. Later on I learned to shoot very very well. Please do not take your situation lightly.
  • Altarian
    Altarian Posts: 230 Member
    It's "Guido" douche-bags like that i wish they would get on a crotch rocket and become an organ donor. If the guys boss isn't going to do anything about it, go to the boss's boss and demand a full refund. File a report with your local law enforcement, even get the other two who did a complaint also file with the law. look into the privacy laws in your country, you might have a court case against the gym that employed the guy.
  • jaydubbayu
    jaydubbayu Posts: 456
    At least you didn't go to a lawyer and try to sue the gym for everything they had because of this guy. I hate people that do that, and WIN!! Obnoxious.
  • TheFunBun
    TheFunBun Posts: 793 Member
    I agree with not taking it lightly. It's not creepy, it's on the verge of criminal. Stalkers who communicate with their victims aren't nice people. They like to convince themselves that you like/want what they're offering in their disgusting little fantasy world and then get angry when you don't respond the way they want.

    I've had someone contact me through my whois info (it went public for a -month- thanks to registrar error) and genuinely thought that because we exchanged a few cordial emails that I was leaving him for my husband. When I thought it hee-larious and a joke, he threatened to remove a part of my pleasurable anatomy. The good part.

    You don't have to be afraid of terrible people with your address, but you MUST be cautious.
  • Anaconda62
    Anaconda62 Posts: 181
    I think some people on here--and I think they might be male--don't understand the feeling a woman has about her personal safety, because they've almost never been in threatening situations. It doesn't sound as if she's taking this lightly to me. But there is an absence thus far of him attempting to contact her physically so I can understand her reluctance to contact police. My daughter was stalked by an old classmate and it takes a while to realize what's happening and at first you just think you're being paranoid.

    Edit--I just read the post regarding the lady that was abducted. I WAS definitely not referring to your post but the ones accusing her if seeking attention or lying. I am SO sorry for your experience.
  • GeminiFairy89
    GeminiFairy89 Posts: 45 Member
    Girl, I hope you changed your number since that guy got let go! Now he is on the loose!
  • ComicBookGeekGirl
    ComicBookGeekGirl Posts: 202
    I just got the impression that u posted this to let everyone know that a guy at your gym thought you were hot cause most women wouldn't be posting on mfp something like this but contacting the better business Bureau. Smh creepy attention seeking mfp chicks
    Figures...there is always one snotty reply in the bunch. Creepy attention seeking mfp meanie. :huh:
  • toriaenator
    toriaenator Posts: 423 Member
    omg thats so creepy :o

    there is this guy at the gym who has been creeping on me, he works in the front... he already added me on Facebook which was whatever..but then he kept asking what my plans were and then asked for my number! and then one day he decided that we were on hugging terms...

    also whenever my friend goes to the gym he asks where i am! but at least he talked to me in person and not just lurking in the distance watching :O

    i hope that guy gets fired btw! I'm surprised they haven't already.
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